Lena Dunham

(With help from anerdyfeminist, mexicanprincessbrienne, strange-cares, and alyceislostinwonderland)

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Steven Moffat

With content provided by suivre-le-vent and 

Fetishizing black women is gross.

Fetishizing asian women is gross.

Fetishizing native american women is gross.

Fetishizing anyone for their racial background is disgusting and you should fuck off.

“Black women face yet other serious forms of gendered racism—the double burden of suffering racial prejudice and stereotyping because they are Black and female. One example is the negative imaging of Black women as “jungle bunnies.” Since at least the seventeenth century, this white (especially white male) stereotype has accented Black women’s allegedly exotic sexuality. Researcher Diane Roberts has shown how white notions of Blackness have frequently been loaded with sexuality. European books, beginning in the 1600s, portrayed Black women and men naked and with exaggerated sexual organs. “The white world drew the Black woman’s body as excessively and flagrantly sexual, quite different from the emerging ideology of purity and modesty which defined the white woman’s body,” Roberts has explained. This view has persisted now over the centuries. Thus, greatly influenced by and perpetuating such racist images, numerous white men during the days of slavery and Jim Crow segregation sought out, molested, and/or raped Black women. Moreover, today, much social science research continues to show that some white men still image and seek out Black women as exotic sex objects. In this manner, gendered racism is regularly inscribed in the bodies of Black women.”

—Joe Feagin

“It's arguable that Asiaphilia, ironically, stems from legal attempts to exclude Asian Americans from the United States. The criteria by which many Asian women were permitted to enter the U.S. were not exactly morally sound: prostitutes, picture brides, war brides, mail-order brides. Sexuality was a prerequisite for refuge in the United States.”

Yellow Fever

“Fetishizing someone because of their race is not a compliment. It assumes a monolithic identity and evidences that what is truly desired is not an equal relationship, but a caricature of what is understood to be natural based in race. Each racial group has their own disgusting stereotypes to negotiate by gender: Latino men are said to be full of machismo, Asian men are overtly feminized, and Black men are constantly reduced to large roving penises willing to please. ”

—Womanist Musings

reminder to all kpop fans:

  • you can still be a kpop fan without fetishizing korean people

I repeat:

  • you can still enjoy kpop without fetishizing korean people

Dating outside your race is fine BUT dating someone because they’re a “Spicy Latina”, a “Big, booty, thick, black ho”, a “Submissive Asian” or an “Exotic Indian” is downright disgusting and wrong. It’s racial fetishization, it’s also dehumanizing thus leading to sexual violence. Women of color are more likely to get raped especially Native American women. Women of color, like me, don’t have time for your fucking tears because if you liked someone you’d like them for who they are as a person not solely based on their race or stereotypes attached to their race. In other words, fuck off.

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Yellow Fever: They Got it Bad, and That Ain't Good

ocweekly.com

Born and raised in La Habra, Dan* didn’t see manyAsian Americans before college. Now 22, he attributes his Asiaphilia to UC Irvine, where he’s a studio art major and an astounding 58 percent of students claim Asian descent.

But his Asian fetish actually originated in high school, in trig class, where he met a Vietnamese American girl named Ann. Although born in the United States, Ann was raised in Indonesia until about a year before Dan met her. She spoke English well, but not perfectly. They shared the standard high school dating experience: dinner-and-movie dates, study dates, boba dates, kung fu lessons, meditation with the girlfriend’s Buddhist monk uncle. The relationship ended in a pretty standard way, too: Dan suggested sex, Ann resisted, things spiraled. There was an ultimatum and then a breakup, and then—classic—threats of suicide.

Later, Dan sought answers on Ann’s blog, where she labeled him a “standard American boy” and called him out for pressuring her into sex. She ended the entry with a note of disgust: “Get over yourself.”

Perhaps it was the pain of that rejection and the desire to overcome it, but Dan says Ann’s rejection changed him. When he began dating again, he found himself looking for Asian girls. He went through a string of them—one-night stands, flings and friends-with-benefits. He frequented places like Club Bang in Hollywood, which attracts a number of Asian patrons—and Asiaphiles like Dan…

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telling me “I love Asian people,” “I love Black women,” etc. doesn’t actually reassure me that you’re not racist

it tells me I should stay the hell away from fetishizing creeps like you

Pinoy Problems #5: When People Fetishize Korean or Japanese Culture to the Point that all other Asian Ethnicities are Not Valid Forms of Being Asian

  • White Person at ComiCon: I love your Yoruichi Shihouin costume!
  • Filipin@: Thanks!
  • White Person: From where in Japan are you from?
  • Filipin@: I'm Filipino.
  • White Person: (disappointed) Oh...
  • or
  • White Person: Annyeong!
  • Filipin@: Um...Annyeong?
  • White Person: OMG! (calls over to Kdrama-watching, white friends) S/he speaks Korean!
  • Filipino@: Actually, I don't. I'm Filipin@.
  • White Person: (suddenly enraged) Then why are you speaking Korean?! You're Korean!
  • Filipin@: I think I'd know if I was.
  • White Person: Why would you speak Korean! That's, like, being a poser!
  • Filipin@: ...Looked in the mirror lately?

Internalized Racism (Self-Hatred due to Racism) and Why I Don't Date Black People

I wanted to provide a detailed deconstruction of an example of internalized racism, where it comes from, and how it affects me. Internalized racism is when a person of color adopts the discriminatory social schema that our white supremacist society inflicts upon our specific race (social schema as in the thought and behavior stereotypically applied to races, white supremacist society as in a society that caters to white people). I think before I continue, I should write a disclaimer:

Being apart of a racist system does not excuse internalized racism. We are all at a disadvantage in that we are all taught racist beliefs from the time we’re born into this (US American) society. But I am at an advantage in that I have recognized my self-hate as internalized racism, and as long as the racism upholds white supremacy, then I am a culprit of racial oppression. That is, as long as I believe in racist myths, I am failing to resist racism and am fueling the racial oppression of myself and others. I admit that once/since I became aware of my internalized racism, it has been my responsibility to deconstruct it.

With that said, I’ll get started. Here are the racist ideas about myself that I have internalized that contribute to me not dating Black people:

1. Black people are irresponsible/lazy
2. Black people are dangerous
3. Black people are uneducated
4. Black people are unattractive
5. Black people are wanton sex fiends 

If you’re reading this and you’re thinking, “But I’ve never thought this about Black people in my life!” You can either 1) quit lying to yourself or 2) leave this post because continuing requires a great deal of self reflection that you’re obviously not ready for yet.

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PSA: Do not exotify multi* people

We are not here for you to look at

We do not exist to satisfy your gaze

We are not here for you to fetishize and dehumanize

We are real people who are not around simply for you to objectify and exotify

I’m sure all multi* people have heard the ridiculous and fetishist stereotype that “all multiracial people are hot”

What many people fail to realize is that this stereotype is extremely harmful

Just because it is “positive” (hint: it’s not), does not mean that it is not damaging

It constantly robs multi* people of their humanity, it constantly degrades them into nothing more than walking mannequins, it reduces our entire existence into something for someone else to look at

And it’s even worse for multi* people because exotification of multi* people has a consistent history of othering them

Seriously. By exotifying us, you’re treating us as abnormal objects that do not fit the mainstream. This only further perpetuates these horrendous ideas that multi* people are not any of their composite identities- it’s used as a systematic way to exclude multi* people from claiming their identities. Exotifying us only prevents us from self-identifying as we would like to because now, not only are not any of our identities, we’re also not human.

Furthermore, it just keeps this weird, backwards “All people of [x] race look a certain way” idea that for some reason hasn’t died. As multi* people, we do not owe any explanations as to our physical ambiguity and we do not owe it to you to patronize your discomfort with the way we look. Calling us ‘exotic’ simply makes it clear that you think we can’t possibly be of the identities that make us up because we don’t fit into your narrow-minded idea of how they should look. I’m sure most people aren’t even aware of how many multi* people they run into in a day, simply because we don’t fit the ‘conventional’ look of our identities.

Moreover, not only has it excluded us from our identities, but it has also been used to exclude us from social and political processes. If we’re exotic, we are things, not people- if we are exotic, we are abnormal- if we are exotic, we are separate and do not need to take part in society. This line of thinking has been used to exclude multi* people from being fairly represented in government, education, minority activist groups, etc. 

We are not things to look at

We are people

Do not exotify us

Do not fetishize us

Do not dehumanize us

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