What is wrong with Doctor Who?
theidiotboxx.wordpress.comI thought it was time to give some thought to what the Doctor-assistant relationship is, what function the assistant has on the show, how Doctor Who distributes personal qualities by gender, and why I now hate this lovely show that I used to love.
Damn, this rings true and it breaks my (1) heart.
The Problem with 'Boys Will Be Boys'
huffingtonpost.comFor months, every morning when my daughter was in preschool, I watched her construct an elaborate castle out of blocks, colorful plastic discs, bits of rope, ribbons and feathers, only to have the same little boy gleefully destroy it within seconds of its completion.
No matter how many times he did it, his parents never swooped in BEFORE the morning’s live 3-D reenactment of “Invasion of AstroMonster.” This is what they’d say repeatedly:
“You know! Boys will be boys!”
“He’s just going through a phase!”
“He’s such a boy! He LOVES destroying things!”
“Oh my god! Girls and boys are SO different!”
“He. Just. Can’t. Help himself!”
I tried to teach my daughter how to stop this from happening. She asked him politely not to do it. We talked about some things she might do. She moved where she built. She stood in his way. She built a stronger foundation to the castle, so that, if he did get to it, she wouldn’t have to rebuild the whole thing. In the meantime, I imagine his parents thinking, “What red-blooded boy wouldn’t knock it down?”
She built a beautiful, glittery castle in a public space.
It was so tempting.
He just couldn’t control himself and, being a boy, had violent inclinations.
She had to keep her building safe.
Her consent didn’t matter. Besides, it’s not like she made a big fuss when he knocked it down. It wasn’t a “legitimate” knocking over if she didn’t throw a tantrum.
His desire — for power, destruction, control, whatever- - was understandable.
Maybe she “shouldn’t have gone to preschool” at all. OR, better if she just kept her building activities to home.
I know it’s a lurid metaphor, but I taught my daughter the preschool block precursor of don’t “get raped” and this child, Boy #1, did not learn the preschool equivalent of “don’t rape.”
Not once did his parents talk to him about invading another person’s space and claiming for his own purposes something that was not his to claim. Respect for her and her work and words was not something he was learning. How much of the boy’s behavior in coming years would be excused in these ways, be calibrated to meet these expectations and enforce the “rules” his parents kept repeating?
There was another boy who, similarly, decided to knock down her castle one day. When he did it his mother took him in hand, explained to him that it was not his to destroy, asked him how he thought my daughter felt after working so hard on her building and walked over with him so he could apologize. That probably wasn’t much fun for him, but he did not do it again.
There was a third child. He was really smart. He asked if he could knock her building down. She, beneficent ruler of all pre-circle-time castle construction, said yes… but only after she was done building it and said it was OK. They worked out a plan together and eventually he started building things with her and they would both knock the thing down with unadulterated joy. You can’t make this stuff up.
Take each of these three boys and consider what he might do when he’s older, say, at college, drunk at a party, mad at an ex-girlfriend who rebuffs him and uses words that she expects will be meaningful and respecte, “No, I don’t want to. Stop. Leave.”
The “overarching attitudinal characteristic” of abusive men is entitlement
Why do women hate cat calls so much?
This is a serious question, I’ve seen a lot of backlash against them and I would like to know the reason.
A cat call is a quick way of saying “Girl u lookin fine”. Personally, if I a group of random girls told me how fine I looked I would stand taller and feel better about myself throughout the rest of the day
From what I have gathered up, it seems to be offensive because it degrades women. But I don’t get it. The men who cat call aren’t trying to degrade you, they are simply appreciating your looks.
I am probably entirely wrong, that’s why I am asking you now.
I would greatly appreciate it if someone could clarify this for me. If you need a lot of space to write out a long answer, send me a message and I will open up my submit box.
Why do women find cat calls offensive?
“On Periods: Let’s put this shit to bed right now: Women don’t lose their minds when they have period-related irritability. It doesn’t lower their ability to reason; it lowers their patience and, hence, tolerance for bullshit. If an issue comes up a lot during “that time of the month,” that doesn’t mean she only cares about it once a month; it means she’s bothered by it all the time and lacks the capacity, once a month, to shove it down and bury it beneath six gulps of willful silence.”
—Source
“Girls can wear jeans and cut their hair short and wear shirts and boots because it's okay to be a boy; for girls it's like promotion. But for a boy to look like a girl is degrading, according to you, because secretly you believe that being a girl is degrading.” ”
—Ian McEwan, The Cement Garden
“How Do Women Get Dressed in the Morning? In a world of prudes, sluts and rapists An outfit is no longer a fashion statement But an excuse And a reason To be harmed Even knee length skirts Are a reason But if you add knee socks to hide your legs Then it becomes too sexual You’re a whore A tank top that shows shoulders is asking for it It makes your breasts whisper “touch me” Or So I’m told I’ve listened closely And mine do not speak If I dress conservative Then I’m a prude A stuck up bitch(girl) Who needs it bad But is too high and mighty to ask If I wear a T-shirt and jeans Then it must only be because I know it shows my hourglass Because I want to feel sexy Not because I find Levi’s comfortable A mini skirt and low cut blouse Would make me a slut With a bad reputation Something easy to touch at a party After I have a beer or two Not a victim of PTSD Who was just able to look in the mirror this year They don’t see self confidence They see Slut, whore, loose woman Printed on the fabric of everything in my closet Nun outfit Nurse Maid School Girl Don’t bother picking a costume at Halloween If your clothes aren’t good enough During the rest of the year Then Halloween must be a conspiracy Don’t wear your hair in pigtails It’s too sexual They’ll call them ‘handle bars’ Don’t wear a ponytail They’ll just use it to grab you Don’t leave your hair down It means you’re flirty And gives them something to run their fingers through It doesn’t matter what you wear anymore But they like to tell you it does It makes them feel better to have an excuse To say you picked the outfit Wear a business suit Or go naked It’s your fault either way They have to say something To get off the hook, To let them sleep tonight 3/24/13 Bree Felling www.breefelling.com”
—By poet, spoken word artist, author and activist, Bree Felling
