I’ve been thinking about this since someone I admire (and have a little “internet crush” on) told me they have been getting some undeserved hatred.
Anger and hatred take so much energy. I’ve never been one for hate, but I’ve been angry, and man, is it exhausting. You know what else? It does not make me feel good at all, and I would bet that no one would claim that hating someone and being angry makes them feel good. Maybe there’s a rush at first, but it builds, and burdens you, and comes with emotional and psychological consequences that leave you drained and unhappy.
Why would you take time out of your life, which is already too short as it is, for something that leaves you, and others, miserable?
Taking time out to make someone happy, on the other hand, always feels good. It makes you feel like you’ve accomplished something, and you really are a good person, and good things just might come your way. There’s a rush when the person to whom you are good smiles and is genuinely happy with what you’ve done, and that rush does not become a burden, it does not make you tired, and the emotional and psychological consequences are good for your mind and body.
So, waste time on hate, or give precious time in love?
The choice seems pretty damn simple to me.