“Sadly, many couples gauge the seriousness of their relationship by the level of their physical involvement. Two people who date each other want to feel that they're special to each other, and they can concretely express this through physical intimacy. They begin to distinguish their special relationship through hand-holding, kissing and everything else that follows. For this reason, many people believe that going out with someone means physical involvement. Focusing on the physical is plainly sinful. God demands sexual purity, and He does this because He is holy. He also does this for our good. Physical involvement can distort two people's perspective of each other and lead to unwise choices. Physical involvement can make two people 'feel close.' But if many people really examined the focus of their dating relationships, they'd probably discover that all they have in common is LUST.”—Joshua Harris, “I Kissed Dating Goodbye.”
Operation DLIYJ: Date #1
Hey fellas? If we’re supposed to meet at 7:30pm and I text you at 7:29 to tell you I’m right around the corner, your response should not be “I’m stuck in traffic, I’ll be there in 45 minutes.”
You waited until the time we were supposed to meet to let me know you’re 45 minutes away, and even then only because I texted you first? ‘Scuse?
And when I nicely (<—I WAS RIDICULOUSLY NICE. THAT WAS HARD FOR ME.) suggest that we reschedule, your response shouldn’t be “Oh, no…we can just meet whenever I get there” because then my response will be “Oh no, I’m sorry…you thought I was asking you…I’m TELLING you that we should probably reschedule”.
At this point, if you would like to see me, you should just agree. I mean, you didn’t value my time at all AND you had me waste good makeup and hair product (<—and let’s not play…that stuff is expensive)
Date #1: Rescheduled.
like if i’m gonna’ date a white person again they’re gonna’ need to be fucking amazing and on their shit about issues that are important to me and if we’re ever in a situation where i’m the only poc they’d better be there for me and call out other white people and never ever pull that ‘but you’re basically white’ shit and just i will be so on top of you about everything and you probably won’t even wanna’ be with me because i’m too much and it’s just so ridiculous that i have to expect so little/so much from people just to make me feel safe