“Compassion for the mother is extremely important, but is never served through destroying the innocent.”—
Find out how you can help women and their pre-born babies at www.abolishabortion.com/events
Resources for pregnant women who need help (updated)
If you’re desperate and think abandoning your newborn baby is your only way out, please keep the “Safe Haven Laws” in mind.
Safe Haven Laws allow a parent to anonymously leave an unwanted newborn baby in a safe place without the worry of getting into trouble. The child is then given to the state’s Child Welfare Department where a loving, adoptive forever family can be found.
Safe Havens organizations include:
Emergency Medical Services
Police & Fire Stations
(Of course i don’t encourage you to abandon your child at all. There are always other, safer ways out of a crisis situation. But we do live in a world where moms abandon or even kill their newborn babys - not because they’re evil but because they’re so scared and feel so left alone they can’t think of any other way. I want this information to reach these moms before it’s too late, so please share it widely!)
Unplanned Pregnancy: Before and After
Note: Every woman’s experience with unplanned pregnancy is surrounded by its own individual set of factors. My experience is unique to myself, and no other human being should feel the need to hold herself or other to the expectations of my experience; To do so would be wildly irresponsible and dismissive of reality.
Earlier last month, i came to the realization I was quickly coming up to the “one year anniversary” of my abortion, a time frame many of the nasty anti-choicers I have encountered gave me to begin experiencing the “trauma of my abortion”. I had hoped to blog about my experience at the exact one year mark, but life got busy and I forgot about this goal lol. Currently, I am working on going back to my first tweets and sharing my entire experience “live tweeting abortion” here on twitter. Hopefully, I didn’t miss my one-year mark.
The fact that I kinda forgot this “event” was coming up speaks well for the reality behind the warnings many a pro-lifer fed to me. I was assured I would think about my abortion every day (I don’t) I would dream of my unborn child (Never has happened, nor have I dreamt I was still pregnant). No nightly nightmares (in fact my dreams has improved as my stress level has gone down), and no depression. While my abortion certainly impacted my life, it is not something that has traumatized me or harmed my mental health.
Before my abortion? I was unemployed and desperate for a job, I was depressed, I was not taking care of myself. The news of my pregnancy was devastating and I knew I would be mentally/emotionally incapable of having a healthy body/environment for my unborn child. The idea of carrying to term just to give the child away was horrible for me and nearly brought on a panic attack. I knew I didn’t have a connection with this pregnancy yet, but soon I could and most likely would. After 9 months, there would be no severing that connection (Did you know there are MANY biological processes going on in the brain to bond mother to child? It’s how humans survived. The brain is flooding with hormones, caused by the pregnancy, that create attachment and bond.).
I knew MY only option was abortion. At no time did I feel the only option available was abortion. Women understand the reality of motherhood from a young age (baby dolls are a popular toy) and we understand the reality of adoption as soon as it is introduced to us as children/young adults.
After my abortion? I finally got the job I had been seeking, improved my health, improved my mental status, improved my diet and living conditions. I am happy, healthy, making new friends and cherishing the old. I honestly feel like my life has almost 180’ed from where it was a year ago. Is my abortion the cause of my happiness? Nope. Did the ability to control when and how I carry a child a term help with my ultimate happiness? Yep. 100% it did.
A newborn requires constant attention. My boyfriend lives in a different state and is right in the middle of school. A child would have required he put his dreams on hold, move here and become a father before he was ready. I would have to take time off from my new job (a concept not too appealing to employers for new hires) for prenatal dr’s appointments, birth, maternity leave, and then infant dr’s apts. Odd’s are, I would have been beat out by a more desirable hire and never even received the job that helped me get OFF unemployment and back into the taxed work force.
Have I ever sat down and thought about what I could be missing out on, especially knowing now that I would have a 3-4 month old child to look after had I not had an abortion? Yep. The musings always end with me going “Man am I glad I don’t have a kid yet.” (Especially when my bank account hits zero, and the fact that I would have been without adequate insurance until the 3-4th month of my childs born life.)
Every woman’s unplanned pregnancy comes out of unique circustances. I just hope women who make the choice to give up for adoption or abortion always remember NOT to allow others to shame you/guilt you. Don’t feel guilt for being happy you made the choice you made. If you are hurting after your abortion, please consider contacting either of the following organizations:
Pregnancy, Adoption, Abortion, and Parenting Hotline - Backline
They help with EVERYTHING and ANYTHING. This is a trusted source for any issue you may have with your choice or any questions you may have about each issue. You will receive unbiased, compassionate, PROFESSIONAL help free of charge.
Call them at: 1.888.493.0092 Hours: Mon-Thurs 5pm-10pm Fri-Sun 10am-3pm
Faith based post-abortion counseling - Faith Aloud
This organization is run by pro-choice members of the faith community who address your spiritual questions about abortion as well as spiritual healing after abortion. All faiths welcome to contact, including those who question their faith.
Crisis Pregnancy Center in TX Will Only Serve Non-Pregnant Women
‘…Currently, there is no overlap between the services provided by The Source and the services provided by the federally-funded Medicaid Women’s Health Program, which is being phased out so that Texas can exclude Planned Parenthood from participating and create a new, state-funded Texas Women’s Health Program.
And therein lies the core issue: The WHP does not serve pregnant women. By definition. But crisis pregnancy centers don’t like to provide contraception nor are their services evidence-based. So if the future of the Texas WHP is a crisis pregnancy center, then the future of low-income women in Texas will be pregnant, like it or not.
The Source claims to provide well-woman exams, for example, but at the same time, doesn’t even offer an integral part of that exam: pap smears. (Either that, or they don’t know what a pap smear is, and they’re providing them without knowing it; plenty troubling, that.) According to its own website, the Source for Women also does not prescribe contraceptives. Neither does it presently provide mammograms or employ any OB-GYNs.
…”It is still on the table at the board level as to which contraceptives will be provided,” she said, adding that no “abortifacients” will be available. That’s a term that has very specific meaning to crisis pregnancy centers and anti-choice activists, and it goes well beyond what the word might mean medically and biologically and to a layperson who assumes it deals with the termination of an existing pregnancy. Instead, anti-choice activists and crisis pregnancy centers consider almost all forms of hormonal contraception and even IUD’s to be “abortifacients,” asserting that the pill can cause a ”very early abortion,” and that “the pill kills.” Same goes for Depo-Provera, Norplant, and the morning-after pill. So that basically eliminates all effective contraception.’
THIS IS NOT A JOKE! THIS IS HAPPENING IN TEXAS! A few days ago Rick Perry cut the pink ribbon that opened this place.
We have to stop pretending like politicians and anti-choice groups don’t know what they are doing to women by narrowing their health options; in all honesty, they just don’t care.
These are scary times, indeed.
Personal Views on Life
No really, on life.
This breaks my heart in a way very few things can.
“On Saturday, 27th August, from 12noon to 1pm, Choice Ireland will hold its latest demonstration against the rogue crisis pregnancy agency, the WRC, at 50 Upper Dorset Street, Dublin 1.”—Choice Ireland to demonstrate against rogue crisis pregnancy agency | Choice Ireland
Pregnancy centers in Mississippi
Center for Pregnancy Choices
4905-B Poplar Springs Drive
Meridian, MS 39303
Center for Pregnancy Choices
P.O. Box 344
Monticello, MS 39654
First Choice Center for Women
725 Coulter Drive
New Albany, MS 38652
Pregnancy Test Center
295 County Road 1010
Oxford, MS 38655
Center for Pregnancy Choices
3627 Hwy 80 East
Pearl, MS 39208
CPC of East Central Mississippi
913 Valley View Drive
Philadelphia, MS 39350
Pregnancy Support Services
1101 Goodyear Blvd
Picayune, MS 39466
(This list does not include all centers in Mississippi.)
So in order to get a ride to work today, I had to go with dad to a crisis pregnancy centre so he could do some charity ultrasound spiel on behalf of the KoC. My skin is crawling because the women he’s working with actually said, “Our main goal is to trap women who are intent on abortion.” She then explains how the mandatory ultrasound law works “in their favor” for that.
I know they don’t mean any of this maliciously, and because they’re pro-life, it really is their goal to prevent abortion. …But it makes me want to jump up and scream at them. It’s setting my teeth on edge.
NONE of these women running the joint have been victims of unplanned crisis pregnancies. They’re rich. They’re white. And they work with my lady doctor who doesn’t give me birth control for my PMDD because I’m sexually active.
This is like one big trigger for me.
On http://www.lifecall.org/cpc.html you’ll find a list ofCrisis Pregnancy Centers in the U.S.
You’ll also find a list of shelters and the number of a free helpline.
"Your dignity and your humanity are yours, inherently." By saying abortion should be illegal, you actually are negating the dignity and humanity of women because you erase a choice. And people like you who call themselves "pro-life" aren't actually pro-life at all: forcing women that aren't ready on a physical/mental plan to go through pregnancy is a sign that you don't care for the existing person. And that is fundamentaly against life, no matter what you say.
Protecting the dignity of the unborn child does not come at the expense of the dignity of the mother. In fact, it complements it, in as much as protecting the dignity of one human being reaffirms the dignity of all human beings.
And as I’ve said before, I do care very much about mothers who find themselves in these difficult situations, and I hope they take advantage of the emotional and financial support that is available to them through organizations like Birthright International.
You say that the answer to a crisis pregnancy is to eliminate the crisis, but what if the pregnancy itself is or is causing the crisis?
Then I believe that the woman should go as far as possible to protect the life of her child. If there is something the doctors can do or try to fix the problem (whether the pregnancy is the cause of it or not), then they should do it.
I believe the only reason a pregnancy should be terminated is if there is a 100% guarantee that the mother will not survive. But if there is a chance, or a hope, or other treatments/procedures available, then she should endure them to protect the life of her child.
Anything is possible with God.