Am I the only one who wants some independance in their relationship?
Since I’ve been with Harry I’ve wanted to get my clitoral hood pierced. He won’t let me get it done because he ‘doesnt want to taste metal down there’ and because he ‘wants to give me pleasure, not a piece of metal’. The reason I want it pierced is not because of the fact that it can give you pleasure, but just simply because I like to be unique in my own way and I love piercings. He said he’s not allowing me to get it done. I love him, I do but I want some independance in m relationship with him. If I want to go get a piercing, I want to be able to go and get it done without having to ask him if I’m allowed. He gets shitty with me when I tell him that he can’t go to a strip club because I don’t like the thought of him looking at other naked women. I’m sure most girlfriends are like that. We’re both giving up something we want to do for each other, so in a way that’s good. Of course, I have to respect his opinion on it because not only will it affect our sex life, it will affect our relationship something chronic. If I went and got it done regardless of the fact that he said no, all hell would break loose.
I just want some independance to do what I want to do without being told by my partner that I can’t. I don’t want anyone to hold me back. It’s not that I don’t want to be with him because I do, I couldn’t live without him. But I guess you have to sacrifice things for the ones that you love.
Got my hood pierced tonight.
Wow, that was a thing. That was definitely a thing. For a millisecond, it hurt quite a bit. Then, the pain was over. I’m sore the way I would be if I’d gotten really intense oral for a long time. My clitoris feels weird. Sore, but not bad. I really hope I don’t lose my jewelry peeing or something. I’m tempted to go ahead and buy extra stuff just in case; this seems like the kind of thing that would fall out. It’s hella cute. And the tattooist who did it was the same guy who did my wrist tattoos and he was cool enough.
Ah, what an experience! <3
hood piercing Pt II
yea so um it’s more irritated and painful than it was on tuesday when I got it done. it’s like, it doesn’t really hurt, but it just keep rubbing against my thighs the wrong way so it gets slightly pulled and thus irritating it.=/
but ummm so far so good other than that.
I’m sorry but I don’t think I’ll get past the “no oral sex for 6 weeks” thing. I’m really feeling some type of way about it. -__________-
Also, in other news today, I took out my clitoral hood piercing.
It was often irritating, and I think it did more harm than good. A lot of people say they enhance pleasure on the clitoris, but it always felt like it made mine sore and over-sensitive.
And it hurt to bike sometimes because the bike seat would push into the jewelry.
So, executive decision: I know just have a hole through my clitoral hood that I hope will close. Or not. Whatever.
*mourns the loss of my piercing and now I only have 9 and that piercing was expensive*
How does one actually go about pulling back the clitoral hood? I really can't figure it out and I've been googling it with very few actually helpful results. I'm not sure if I just haven't figured it out or if my body works differently or something.
The easiest way to do this is to put your finger on your clitoris where it meets the hood and then run your finger back towards your stomach, bringing the hood with it. You might need a mirror to see what you’re doing!
I asked this before; I think tumblr ate it but if you answered and i missed it, sorry! I feel like my clitoral hood comes down to far or is too tight. Sometime I can touch a bit of my clit but not really and guys can never "find" it. I never orgasmed and feel like this could be part of the problem. Is there anything I can do?
This is really common! the clitoral hood can cover various parts of the clitoris, some completely cover it and the clitoris may be a little “hidden” some don’t cover it at all (Uncutting actually has a NSFW chart showing different clitoral coverage that I contributed to). What I suggest is putting the palm of your hand on your mons pubis, one finger on either side of the top of your clitoral area and then gently pull your hand back towards your stomach. This will cause the clitoral hood to come up more and make you more sensitive to touch. Don’t force it! Just like with the foreskin, the clitoral hood can be tight which can cause pain and irritation and risk infection if you force the clitoral hood to retract. Also like phimosis (the condition in which the foreskin is too tight) it can be treated with regular stretching. You do this by soaking in a steamy tub and gently moving the skin around the clitoris back and away from the glans. Over time it will become easier to retract. Using lube can also increase sensitivity.