People Act Like It's A Person's Responsibility To Create Compatibility

If I want a relationship with someone, it shouldn’t be “Oh, you seem reliable, now let us change our interests and standards in order to be a capable couple”.

No. People act like it’s a crime to not want a relationship with someone just because they’re a good person AND look good. 

Like you can be beautiful, and be cool af, but if I’m not feeling any kind of connection to you after having deep conversation with you, then it’s looking like we’re going to just be friends. 

And if I feel something for you after a little bit then that can change. 

But folks be talking about how I should give someone a chance and the such, which turns into ” I don’t want a relationship but you seem cool, we should chill” and of course in the end when someone catches feelings that I don’t have for them

the same people saying “Give her a chance” are the same ones saying “Well you shouldn’t have led her on”

Not being romantically compatible with someone does not mean that they’re not pretty enough, it does not mean that they’re not smart or interesting enough. 

All it means is that I’m not feeling it between us. 

So what makes people think that forcing feelings for someone is ever a good idea?