Personal
Sick of letting people get me down and drag me down. But I know it’s this household… I miss it just being me and my husband. I can’t wait to get away from all of this negativity and get back on track…
Goal:
Starting tomorrow I will take back control and take back my identity. I will be me and the best damn me I can be. I will be positive, work my ass off, eat so extremely well (again) and stay away from junk—both mental and physical crap!
http://thegospelcoalition.org/blogs/kevindeyoung/2011/11/03/dude-wheres-your-bride/
guys need to stop looking for the best girl and start being the best guy, because chances are you’ll meet this girl, and she’ll have it all together, be funny, pretty, and smart, and you’ll fall for her, and she’ll say no. because she doesn’t want a guy who still spends more time playing video games than studying for school, or stalking facebook rather than initiating real face-to-face relationships, and certainly doesn’t want a guy who can’t muster up the confidence to initiate his interest or take her out on a date. there is such a large number of guys who look at their singleness as ‘girls have such high standards’ instead of saying perhaps ‘i fall short of perfectly reasonable standards’. i am entirely confident that if guys were to focus more on being the best boyfriend rather than finding the best girlfriend, she’ll spring up so fast it might come as a surprise.
Be A Better you Makeover challenge
I realized that loosing weight isn’t the only part of changing the way people look at you, but it does play a part. For the past week I’ve started a revolution for myself, a total image makeover. I am eating healthier and exercising to have a healthier body that will also make me feel confident on the inside. I am also going to build a super cute wardrobe over the summer to make me look great.
But there is something even more important than all of that combined, I’m making peace with everyone I can. And making sure I give compliments daily, because its making other people feel good while I feel good too.
Now I challenge you, Take the Challenge with me! Post what you’re going to do to be a better you! Message me anytime to let me know your goals and any tips you find along the way :)
Definitely "Be Yourself".. But what does that truly mean??
Definitely “Be Yourself,” But Make Sure That’s the Best “You” You Can BeIn general, “be yourself” means be true to your core identity rather than faking a different one because you think it will be attractive to others. But we can take it one step further and say that you should also try to the best “you” that you can be, being the ideal “yourself.” Let’s call our rude person Al: maybe rudeness is part of who Al is and wants to be, but more likely he didn’t realize he had become that rude. Maybe there are reasons (if not justifications or excuses) for his recent rudeness, but if Al does not feel he is rude by nature, he can act to change that. “That’s not who I am,” Al might say, and then pay more closer to his behavior to see when and where he is likely to be rude. This doesn’t just benefit any future romantic partners Al might have, but also everyone else that interacts with him—and it helps Al himself be a better person, not just in general but according to who he wants to be. You want to present the best “you” to other people, so that means reflecting on who you are and who you want to be, and then working to improve that.
When I wrote about being yourself rather than trying to figure out what women or men want, I had in mind otherwise healthy (or at least harmless) character traits that might not be in the typical dating advice book, but are nonetheless part of who you are, your basic identity, and as such should not be denied. If you’re not particularly self-confident by nature (though not necessarily self-loathing either), that’s who you are. As a result you’ll be soft-spoken and shy compared to most, but that shouldn’t disqualify you from finding love; someone will like you for who you are. Myself, I tend to wear my heart on my sleeve—definitely not recommended behavior in the “dating scene” these days! But that’s who I am, and I don’t want to hide that just to attract a women who wants somebody different (or for all the strategic reasons that you “should” act as romantically disinterested as you might on a used car lot).
Before you decide to “be yourself,” spend some time thinking about who that is, and decide whether you are living up to your best idea of who you should be—and work on it if you’re not. Once you do that, you’ll be ready to show that “you” to other people, and you’ll do it in the spirit of honesty and authenticity—and when you find someone that likes you, you can be fairly certain he or she likes the real you.
