"So You Want To Work With Autistic Kids" Primer
Hi everyone, so I made a post a few days ago about putting together a list of links for my lab partner, who wants to work with autistic children. This is what I’ve come up with. Admittedly it’s more of an “introduction to neurodiversity advocacy” primer, but I think that should come with the job, really. If you’ve got any suggestions, do let me know!
(And sorry for the odd formatting- I can’t for the life of me figure out how to make nesting bullets, even when I enter the html)
TW: mentions (but no discussion in this post) of ableism, neglect, assault, murder, abuse, ABA. All links come with their own warnings unless otherwise noted. If you find one that doesn’t, or is broken, please tell me.
About Autism Speaks:
1. About autism
2. What it really means when someone says they’re autistic
3. Diagnostic criteria suggested by autistic people (more on what it’s like to be autistic)
4. Yes, That Too’s tips for parents
5. What I Wish I’d Been Made Aware of When My Daughter Was Diagnosed With Autism
6. Tantrums vs meltdowns and shutdowns
8. Not an epidemic
9. Empathy and the Empath Quotient Test
10. Functioning labels
11. Person-first language
“Classics” and others widely circulated among autistic self-advocates:
1. The Obsessive Joy of Autism
2. Don’t Mourn For Us
3. Quiet Hands and Grabbers (TW: ableism, abuse, R-slur in Grabbers)
4. The Cost of Compliance is Unreasonable (TW for teachers forcing a child to do something they don’t want to do, huge TW for link within post)
- Similar, but not so widely spread, is The Influence of Others, a parent’s reaction to “Grabbers” (TW: ableism, abuse)
1. An Analogy (TW: trying to force someone out of autistic behavior)
2. On forcing eye contact
3. Doing “Nothing”
4. The Good, The Bad, and The Ugly: my Assessment of Our Experience with ABA
5. More of Rose’s thoughts
- The post linked in the above (she changed her blog title, so “caffeinatedaspie” URL links don’t work)
6. An Open Letter to Parents Considering Intensive Behavioral Therapy for Their Child With Autism (TW: detailed descriptions of ABA methods, child’s PTSD)
- And Part Two (the link kind of gets lost at the bottom, so I put it here too)
- As disgusting as it is, a lot of people dismiss autistic voices on the topic of harmful therapy in favor of parents’ and child development professionals’ voices. The writers of this are both, so it may be useful to convince people with that attitude
Ableism (important to understand the prejudice autistic people face): (TW for ableism, neglect, assault, murder on this entire section)
1. Murders by parents and caregivers
2. Commentary on other people’s dismissal of murders
3. Transplant discrimination
4. Medical discrimination
5. The Pillow Angel (not autism, cerebral palsy, but important to recognize what people will do out of “concern” to a non-speaking person)
- And the video for it
Autistic Self Advocacy Network (ASAN):
1. The Caffeinated Autistic (also goldenheartedrose on tumblr)
2. Yes, That Too (also yesthattoo on tumblr)
3. Autistic Hoya
4. Just Stimming
5. Radical Neurodivergence Speaking
6. Tiny Grace Notes (AKA Ask an Autistic)
8. The Thinking Person’s Guide to Autism
Things recommended by people I follow (but that I haven’t really looked at personally):
1. The ‘askanautistic’ tag on tumblr- tag your post with this and autistic people who are willing to educate others will see your question
Very important: how to tell who is a real friend
I really, really wish that I’d discovered this list years ago:
It tells you how to tell a real friend from a hoax one or an enemy.
If I’d read this list years ago, I would not have got married to my abusive husband. He fitted every single thing in the enemy list and several things in the hoax friend list, but told me he loved me and was my best friend. He lied.
99% of the people I thought of as friends in my life fitted the things in the hoax friend list.
Parents, please teach your autistic kids what friendship is meant to feel like, how friends are supposed to treat you and how to tell a real friend from a fake one. Please tell me these things too!
[Trigger Warning: Autism discrimination]
If you would rather put your children at (proven) risk of death via Measles than (unproven) risk of Autism via the MMR vaccine, you need to re-examine your attitudes to disability and neurodivergence because essentially you are saying you’d rather your child was dead than autistic.