I like older guys.
They’re more mature. They can be cute and funny yet still serious and sexy. I guess it’s just the maturity that I’m attracted to… I want to feel like I’m in a serious relationship and not like I’m taking care of my younger brother. I don’t want to always have to be the mature one. Sometimes I just want to have a serious conversation where he can sit down, listen and give me advice. Maybe that’s why I find it hard to be attracted to guys personality wise. Like, they can be cute and I’ll think they’re cute but once I know their personality, I judge them by that. I find myself constantly talking to my friends about these cute guys who are SOO cute but they do drugs so they’re automatically unattractive. Or, “he’s so immature that I can’t stand it.” I’m not saying you can’t be fun, I’m just saying that you should also realize your responsibilities and priorities.
Probably the same process occurs with men’s preference for women with neotenous features. Because men prefer to mate with younger women, women come to possess more and more neotenous features, which make them look not only nubile and pubescent but eventually prepubescent, childlike and even infantlike. Men’s preference for blonde hair may have gone through a similar runaway selection. As PT Senior Editor Carlin Flora has pointed out to me before, many young blond children cease to be blond and their hair turns dark long before they reach puberty (as Carlin’s did). So by preferring to mate with women with light blonde hair, men are often (maladaptively) attracted to prepubescent children. Their preference for women with large eyes may similarly be maladaptive. But men’s preference for women with neotenous features, and women’s possession of such features, may nonetheless have evolved via runaway selection.