Rape.

With the recent media attention to cases dealing with rape or the laws that pertain to such, people have decided to voice their opinions on the matter which has traumatized millions of people world-wide - whether they have spoken about it or have decided to keep it in silence. 

Between the women who are fighting for their rights and the men that agree with them - pushing forth the notion that rape is wrong and inhumane, there are people (both men and women) who still believe that rape victims are to blame for their experience. 

If someone can be so kind as to explain to me how exactly a woman is to be blamed for being forcibly held down;violated;demeaned;raped; and then told to live with it with no remorse or regrets only because it was “her own fault”. Can someone please explain to me how is it that the actions and mindsets of the offender pertain to the victim if they were not desired by the victim? Was it because a woman was wearing an outfit to which she felt comfortable in? No. She wore it because she wanted to, not because she was hoping someone would be there and y’know, rape her? Was it because she was drunk? No. Again, guys get drunk too but the worst that’ll happen to us is probably getting a bunch of dicks drawn on our faces with a sharpie. 

I realize that in recent years we as a general society, have attempted to level the playing field for both women and men; attaining a sense of equality and rationale. We’re failing pretty fucking badly though. 

Let’s say a guy is at party, wearing a muscle shirt, sweatpants and, get this, he’s passed out on the couch. Two girls happen to be there who are particularly ”fond” of what the guy is wearing. Would you assume that they’ll put out a massive dildo and proceed to shove it up his ass against his own will? Any guy would find this scenario scarring and probably disgusting. So why is it okay for someone to do the same to a female (not the exact scenario, but the act of rape. Since you know, women don’t have peepees and guys don’t shove dildos up girls butts at parties)? 

I have faulted when I was younger too. I can say that - not raping an individual, but things that I was not supposed to do. And even then, I felt more regret than anyone could imagine. I’ve had my friends face the consequences on both ends - being the offender and the victim. Some victims even feel as if it was their fault and vice versa for the offenders, but none of which make sense to me. 

I was once with a girl - it got intimate, we started having sex. After which she began having an anxiety attack and told me to stop. We did,  and for the remainder of the night we sat on her bed, eating nesquick cereal and talking about exactly what happened. Needless to say, she was scarred and hurt over what happened years prior to the present. 
Which all leads down to a single question: Why would you permanently scar someone and turn something as emotion-filled as sex, into something cruel, over a single moment of pleasure? Forever relating to pain and regret. 

-Jason