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Why French Kids Don't Have ADHD
psychologytoday.comExcerpt:
And then, of course, there are the vastly different philosophies of child-rearing in the United States and France. These divergent philosophies could account for why French children are generally better-behaved than their American counterparts. Pamela Druckerman highlights the divergent parenting styles in her recent book, Bringing up Bébé. I believe her insights are relevant to a discussion of why French children are not diagnosed with ADHD in anything like the numbers we are seeing in the United States.
From the time their children are born, French parents provide them with a firm cadre—the word means “frame” or “structure.” Children are not allowed, for example, to snack whenever they want. Mealtimes are at four specific times of the day. French children learn to wait patiently for meals, rather than eating snack foods whenever they feel like it. French babies, too, are expected to conform to limits set by parents and not by their crying selves. French parents let their babies “cry it out” if they are not sleeping through the night at the age of four months.
French parents, Druckerman observes, love their children just as much as American parents. They give them piano lessons, take them to sports practice, and encourage them to make the most of their talents. But French parents have a different philosophy of discipline. Consistently enforced limits, in the French view, make children feel safe and secure. Clear limits, they believe, actually make a child feel happier and safer—something that is congruent with my own experience as both a therapist and a parent. Finally, French parents believe that hearing the word “no” rescues children from the “tyranny of their own desires.” And spanking, when used judiciously, is not considered child abuse in France.
Wow! The French just earned a bit of respect from me!
agentotter: Hey, thanks a ton for that post on ADHD, that was totally informational. Also I’m trying not to Internet diagnose myself but you also just described me like… to a frighteningly perfect degree. If you have the time, could you possibly talk a bit about how people are diagnosed, what the medications do, what kind of things you do to cope with or work with the symptoms of it? Does that question even make sense? :D
I feel a little awkward responding because I don’t know how much I can help here. I actually haven’t been officially diagnosed; I’m hoping to get that taken care of when I meet up with my therapist on Tuesday. But I guess I’ll share my experience and hope that helps? This might get long, is probably more than what you wanted, but, well…
First of all, when I say ADHD I’m also including ADD, because they’re actually just two forms of the same disorder. Technically ADD is known as ADHD-PI (predominantly inattentive). I actually had no idea about this side of ADHD until a few years ago. My youngest brother has ADHD, and he has the form most people think of, where he rarely sits still and never pays attention to what you tell him and will talk your ear off forever if you let him and has a million questions about everything. That’s what I always thought of when it came up. A couple years ago, though, I was talking to a couple friends of mine, both diagnosed, one with a masters in psychology. And the things they said sounded just like things that I dealt with, and as we continued talking there was more and more shared experiences and they both told me they thought I had it.
Inventor Of ADHD's Deathbed Confession A Load of Crap
worldpublicunion.orgThis article is the biggest bunch of skewed crap I’ve ever read. While I will admit the ADHD diagnosis is handed out like toilet paper, and often to the wrong kids, it is by no means fictional. Whether inadvertent or deliberate, there is real science behind what happens to a person’s brain truly afflicted with such neural problems.
Secondly, the biggest critics of the ADHD science often have deeper agendas. For one, these same people believe all kids should be given standardized testing and accumulate all the knowledge they need from “packet education” (the practice of exclusively handing out paperwork to be absorbed in silence).
Seems it’s ok for kids to be lumped together in one academic formula, but if we should suggest alternative means, that’s not right.
Also, they don’t like that someone could legally get “uppers”. Even though you are reading an article from living evidence that:
1. ADD exists.
2. Adderall changed my academic life.
Nobody seems to question if this guy lost his marbles. Nope. It’s gospel truth.
Newsflash. No it isn’t, and I’m here to assure you it isn’t.
I was the kid picked last. Picked on by my peers, passed with D’s by my teachers who didn’t know how to reach me, given a free pass to graduate without retribution.
Then, when I was 22, I was on trial for Adderall. Suddenly, I went from holding a job for a few months to years. I was less emotionally distraught. This was not psychosomatic, this was happening.
But, I know it will be dismissed. People assume the belief system that suits them and rarely deal in facts. This is how we wound up where we are politically - a 2 party ONLY system, and both sides are guilty. Why?
Because you don’t want to believe ADD could exist. You’d rather lump me together with everyone else and say I am just unruly and lazy.
Thanks.
Sometimes, I really hate that they started classifying ADD and ADHD under ADHD only. I was diagnosed with ADD in the fourth grade. ADD. Not ADHD. Then the classification changed to be only ADHD. So, now, sometimes people don’t believe me when I say I have ADD because I’m not hyperactive. Everyone thinks you have to be hyperactive to have it. Not true.
Just talk to me for five minutes when I’m not on my meds and tell me I don’t have it. Seriously. I can’t focus on your face for ten seconds without being distracted by everything else going on around us.
