30 day trans challenge
Day 1: When did you realize the term transgender referred to you?
Day 2: How did you choose your name, and what names were you thinking about using and why?
Day 3: Have you ever been outed?
Day 4: How did your family take it when you came out/ if you are not out why aren’t you?
Day 5: Are you active in the trans community or LGBT community?
Day 6: Who was the first person you told about being trans?
Day 7: Who do you look up to?
Day 8: How do you deal with being read mis-genderd in the beginning of transitioning by people?
Day 9: What is something positive about being trans?
Day 10) What are some of your fears in regards to being trans?
Day 11) How do you manage dysphoria?
Day 12) What are you doing to stay healthy for transitioning mentally and physically?
Day 13) Bathrooms
Day 14) What are some of your passing tips or things you do to pass?
Day 15) How have you embraced your trans identity?
Day 16) What’s your rock anthem and why?
Day 17) What’s your binding choice and why?
Day 18) How do you feel about the trans laws where you live?
Day 19) If your religious how do your views effect being trans if your not religious what about your family religions?
Day 20) Do you want to be a parent why or why not?
Day 21) Your views on the cis-gendered community?
Day 22) Do you feel being trans holds you back from your career choice?
Day 23) What stereotypes are put on trans people?
Day 24) Who is your favorite LGBT actor/musician/director/artist etc and why?
Day 25) Doctor visits
Day 26) Do you feel comfortable answering questions about being trans if say your teacher/friend/stranger asked you?
Day 27) What goals do you have?
Day 28) What is something you have to do everyday or else you feel like your whole day is off if you don’t do it?
Day 29) Write out something positive about yourself using the letters of your name.
Day 30) Write a haiku about being trans.
10) What are some of your fears in regards to being trans
(Finally caught up!)
My biggest fear being Trans is that at the end of my transition, I’ll still feel incomplete. I was just talking to my gf about this last night… I feel like the desire to have a working penis and all the things that goes with it are a huge burden to carry. In the phantom limb department it’s as if my legs are cramped in a small back seat and I can rub them, and they feel a little better, but in the end what I want to do is stand up and stretch. I feel like there is a mentally longed for orgasm that is like that stretch. There is a desire to feel my partner like a cisman can. There is a sadness I have knowing I’m missing those feelings, missing a part of me. And I’ve tried to talk myself into the fact that a penis doesn’t make you a man. I certainly know it doesn’t…. But that doesn’t change the fact that I have dreamt of having one, thought so hard about having one for so long that It’s as if I miss something I have never actually had.
I could compare it to when people are single and long for a soulmate and thing of everything you’d do together and what your days would be like and how they would look and act and plan your future and your wedding. But you don’t know them, you’ve never met them, but you miss them. That’s how I feel about the penis I don’t have.
30 Day Trans Challenge.
1) When did you realize the term transgender referred to you?
2) How did you choose your name, and what names were you thinking about using and why?
3) Have you ever been outed?
4) How did your family take it when you came out/ if you are not out why aren’t you?
5) Are you active in the trans community or LGBT community?
6) Who was the first person you told about being trans?
7) Who do you look up to?
8) How do you deal with being read mis-genderd in the beginning of transitioning by people?
9) What is something positive about being trans?
10) What are some of your fears in regards to being trans?
11) How do you manage dysphoria?
12) What are you doing to stay healthy for transitioning mentally and physically?
13) Bathrooms?
14) What are some of your passing tips or things you do to pass?
15) How have you embraced your trans identity?
16) What’s your rock anthem and why?
17) What’s your binding choice and why?
18) How do you feel about the trans laws where you live?
19) If your religious how do your views effect being trans if your not religious what about your family religions?
20) Do you want to be a parent why or why not?
21) Your views on the cis-gendered community?
22) Do you feel being trans holds you back from your career choice?
23) What stereotypes are put on trans people?
24) Who is your favorite LGBT actor/musician/director/artist etc and why?
25) Doctor visits?
26) Do you feel comfortable answering questions about being trans if say your teacher/friend/stranger asked you?
27) What goals do you have?
28) What is something you have to do everyday or else you feel like your whole day is off if you don’t do it?
29) Write out something positive about yourself using the letters of your name. Ex. Your name is Bob so B-Beautiful O-Outstanding B-Boy.
30) Write a haiku about being trans.
30 Day Trans Challenge
1. When did you realize the term ‘transgender’ referred to you?
2. How did you choose your name? What names were you thinking about using and why?
3. Have you ever been outed?
4. How did your family take it when you came out? If you are not out, why aren’t you?
5. Are you active in the trans or LGBTQ community?
6. Who was the first person you told about being trans?
7. Who do you look up to?
8. How do you deal with being read mis-gendered in the beginning of transitioning by people?
9. What is something positive about being trans?
10. What are some of your fears in regards to being trans?
11. How do you manage dysphoria?
12. What are you doing to stay healthy for transitioning mentally and physically?
13. Bathrooms?
14. What are some of your passing tips or things you do to pass?
15. How have you embraced your trans identity?
16. What’s your rock anthem and why?
17. What’s your binding choice and why?
18. How do you feel about the trans laws where you live?
19. If you’re religious, how do your views effect being trans? If you’re not religious, what about your family’s religions?
20. Do you want to be a parent? Why or why not?
21. Your views on the cis-gendered community?
22. Do you feel being trans holds you back from your career choice?
23. What stereotypes are put on trans people?
24. Who is your favorite LGBTQ celebrity and why?
25. Doctor visits?
26. Do you feel comfortable answering questions about being trans?
27. What goals do you have?
28. What is something you have to do everyday or else you feel like your whole day is off if you don’t do it?
29. Write out something about yourself using the letters of your name.
30. Write a haiku about being trans.
Questions that I’ve already posted have links to the posts, and questions I haven’t posted yet have the date they’re set for in the queue.
30 day trans challenge - days 22 & 23
22) Do you feel being trans holds you back from your career choice?
Career choice? I have a degree in Philosophy; my career choice is “do whatever it takes not to starve”.
23) What stereotypes are put on trans people?
That we’re perverts, confused and/or just really, really gay. That we’re brave, rebellious and inspiring. That we’re not “really” women/men because CHROMOSOMES, MAN. That we’ll sleep with anybody because we have no self esteem and we should be thankful that anybody finds us attractive. That we’re fair game for all kinds of rude and invasive questions because we’re oddities and freaks, and thus the usual rules of respect and politeness don’t apply to us. That we’re drama queens. That we don’t have feelings.
30 Day Trans Challenge: 9 - What is something positive about being trans?
I can think of two things.
First, you get to experience both sides of society’s gender divide. (I say society’s because we all know in reality that gender isn’t a divide but a spectrum.) While it certainly isn’t the best or perfect, you get to feel what it’s like to live as a guy and as a girl; certainly not everything on each side, but something.
Second, you know for certain that your friends/family/etc are true friends. Because anyone who leaves you because you transition wasn’t worth having around in the first place.
30 Day Trans Challenge: Day 10
10) What are some of your fears in regards to being trans
I have so many fears that have to do with just being trans. I’m afraid of losing people close to me just because they might not agree with my decision. People like my family, mostly, I know all my close friends are okay with it. I’m afraid of being alone relationship wise because of it. I’d been best friends with this one girl for 3 years, we’d talk non stop, and I’d always had strong feeling for her, and I can honestly say I loved, and still do, love her. We ended up dating, and she ended up breaking up with me and not really ever talking to me since because I’m trans. I’m afraid of being the victim of a hate crime. I’m afraid of losing a job, or being unable to even get a job because I’m trans. Most of all, though, I’m afraid that once I do get further into transitioning, I’ll always be stuck looking extremely masculine, no matter what I do about it. That I’ll always be stuck in this masculine shell, and never be anything but that when people see me. That I’m never going to pass, no matter how hard I try.Takin the thirty day trans challenge, yo
Just popping this up so I can find it again
1) When did you realize the term transgender referred to you
2) How did you choose your name, and what names were you thinking about using and why
3) Have you ever been outed
4) How did your family take it when you came out/ if you are not out why aren’t you
5) Are you active in the trans community or LGBT community
6) Who was the first person you told about being trans
7) Who do you look up to
8) How do you deal with being read mis-genderd in the beginning of transitioning by people?
9) What is something positive about being trans
10) What are some of your fears in regards to being trans
11) How do you manage dysphoria
12) What are you doing to stay healthy for transitioning mentally and physically
13) Bathrooms
14) What are some of your passing tips or things you do to pass
15) How have you embraced your trans identity
16) What’s your rock anthem and why
17) What’s your binding choice and why
18) How do you feel about the trans laws where you live
19) If your religious how do your views effect being trans if your not religious what about your family religions
20) Do you want to be a parent why or why not
21) Your views on the cis-gendered community
22) Do you feel being trans holds you back from your career choice
23) What stereotypes are put on trans people
24) Who is your favorite LGBT actor/musician/director/artist etc and why
25) Doctor visits
26) Do you feel comfortable answering questions about being trans if say your teacher/friend/stranger asked you
27) What goals do you have
28) What is something you have to do everyday or else you feel like your whole day is off if you don’t do it
29) Write out something positive about yourself using the letters of your name. Ex. Your name is Bob so B-Beautiful O-Outstanding B-Boy
30) Write a haiku about being trans
30 Day Trans Challenge Day 9
9) What is something positive about being trans?
This is kind of a hard question. Its like asking if I’m proud. I mean I am, it’s just not the same as like… Gay pride.
It takes a lot of courage, love for yourself and self knowledge to be honest and do whats best. And those are some of the best parts. I know I’m strong, I know that I know what’s best for me and what I need and I care about myself enough to do whats best for me in regards to transitioning.
I mean, it’s hard to sit around and not ask myself a hundred “what if”s in regard to if I’m doing the right thing or not but every time I do the answer I come back to is always the same. I’m doing the right thing, I’m confident in this.
I have a sense of self that “normal” people don’t have. I’ve analyzed myself in a way “normal” people don’t. It’s fantastic to know yourself so well.
30 Day Trans Challenge
Doing all the questions now cause I’ll surely forget if I don’t.
1. When did you first identify with the term, “transgender?”
Umm… first identifying with this term, is probably Christmas Eve of this year. Not very long ago XD That was when I told myself, Yep, this is what I am.
2. How did you choose your name? What names were you thinking about using and why?
My name derived from a character I had created years ago. My friend Juanean created the weird spelling “Xiaine” and that character was my avatar. He represented me. Xiaine is a guy, and yeah ;w;~ But recently I had the urge to change Xiaine to Shane and … well since the the spelling “Shane” is like a smaller version of my actual name, I decided that would be the new me. I made this decision last year though. The new Shane was suppose to be the more outgoing me, and now Shane is the male me. The real me. I wasn’t thinking of any other names. This one was absolute.
3. Have you ever been outed?
Sadly I don’t get what this means… still new to the terms OTL Unless you mean people telling others about this, than no.
4. How did your family take it when you came out? or, if you’re not out yet, what’s holding you back?
The fact that everyone is Christian. My family isn’t very accepting. My younger sister by 3 years is the closest to accepting and she doesn’t exactly understand the whole transitioning thing and wouldn’t be happy with me if she heard that I felt this way. My mom is the big believer of the family and very homophobic. My dad… well him.. .I’ve heard him talking about making fun of gays and lesbians and even spoke about beating up a homosexual guy before… so… yeah… Not happening any time soon.
5. Are you active in the trans or LGBTQ community? If so, how?
Not as much as I’d like to be. I’ve only been able to sign petitions or participate in the “Wear Purple” thing that happened earlier this year. I’ve always wanted to help in this community, and I wanna help even more now that I’m apart of it.
6. Who was the first person you told about being trans?
That’s tough actually. The first person I sort of admitted being “mentally” trans to was my friend Angel. The first person I actually told was… well i posted that on tumblr.. and the people I speak closely with were told shortly after.
7. Who do you look up to?
Twinfools. My bro Demi recommended watching his videos and just… that alone REALLY helped me move forward in this whole thing. Twin helped me accept what I was.
8. In the beginning of your transition, how did you deal with being misgendered?
Uh lol You mean now. I’m dealing with it okay. Lately I’ll get super sad if I start thinking about it too much. I’m misgendered all the time at home. So… I deal with it okay. I’m use to the whole “girl” thing. So far, I’m not really upset about it.
9. What is something positive about being trans?
I think the positive thing about this is probably being more open with other people and their genders and sexualities. I don’t know, you understand these things more, unless you look it up often and you’re not trans? Lol XD;; i know I understand the gender spectrum MUCH better now.
10. What are some of your fears in regards to being trans?
Oh God. I’m afraid of my family. I’m really scared that they’ll reject me, kick me out, purposely close me out and not understand, or just plain yell at me just cause. Maybe my mom will say something like me being possessed by very bad spirits and I need God soon. Ugh. I’m also scared of how others will treat me. I know people aren’t very accepting. I’m afraid of being beat up or receiving unneeded hate… I’m scared of transitioning with hormones. vdksbhfiodhbo i’m scared of this change. OTL
11. How do you manage dysphoria?
The dysphoria is actually hitting a lot harder than I thought it would. I’m starting to get really uncomfy with myself. Like I can look at my body and admire it, but I get really awkward about the fact that… I want a male body. But right now, I’m okay. I manage fairly well.
12. What are you doing to stay healthy for transitioning mentally and physically?
Uhhh… It’s more mentally. I’m rambling about this on Tumblr. That really helps me air out and get my feelings out to supportive peeps. Seeing everyone’s feedback and positive words always make things a lot better. It’s very healthy for me cause I feel so much better and I can keep on going. I don’t feel like a damn freak.
13. How do you handle the bathroom dilemma?
I don’t actually. I’m not sure I can just waltz in the boys bathroom. It’s cause I’m so used to the girl’s bathroom. I almost walked in the men’s dressing room though… lol XD
14. What are some of your passing tips?
Find supportive friends. Seriously. If you’re dealing with constant dysphoria and unsupportive parents or family members, find friends that are going to help you and try to understand. Best way to go is online. Find online communities, use Tumblr since Tumblr’s really big on the LGBT community. Seriously, I just started all this, and even before coming out, I had people cheering me on, calling me by the name I preferred. It’s worth it ;v;
15. How have you embraced your trans identity?
I basically just let myself know I’m a guy. I tell myself that, though my mind often tells me otherwise. I’ve tried looking for more guyish clothing, I put on men’s deodorant, I try covering my self more, walk around like a guy, use my deeper voice, and I refer to myself as my preferred name “Shane”.
16. What’s your rock anthem and why?
lol XD;;; I don’t have one ;w;
17. What are your binding and packing choices, and why?
Uhh… I actually don’t have any choices. I haven’t tried either.
18. How do you feel about the trans laws where you live?
…there’s laws about it here? *looks it up*
They seem…very fair to me. I can change my name and gender without a court order? Seems legit… *not sure if true?*
19. How do your religious views impact your being trans? If you have none, what about your parents’ religious views?
I don’t have any religious views. If I did, I would NOT be embracing this shit at all. I’d be flipping out worrying I’ll be in Hell very soon. My parents… my mom’s completely against anything LGBT and my dad is… more than likely not the type to care… but him talking about beating up some gay dude worries me greatly. He did say he didn’t care if I was lesbian…but… damn.
20. Do you want to be a parent? Why or why not?
Nah. I had thoughts about it. I live in a house of 8 people. Fuck having kids >___> I never wanted to carry a child in my stomach either. i always held the option to adopt if I ever changed my mind.
21. What are your views on the cisgender community?
Um… nothing really. It’s nice to have variety eve My best friend is cisgender, so…yeah not much of a comment? XDD
22. Do you feel being trans holds you back from your career choice?
Nope. Not at all. I even told myself that when I do become a comic artist, I’ll be a man doing so. i’ll give my gender as male and all that fun shit. This was determined like… years ago?
23. What stereotypes are put on trans people?
That trans people are confused and going through phases? Or that a Transman is actually a lesbian and a transwoman is a homosexual. I don’t know any? ;w;
24. Who is your favorite LGBT actor, musician, artist, etc? Why are they your favorite?
Uhh… Lady Gaga? So far that’s all I know…? Or Eddie Izzard is funny XD Lady Gaga spreads the love and Eddie Izzard just makes comedy from it XD
25. What are your doctor/therapist visits like?
I haven’t had these yet ;v;
26. Are you comfortable answering questions about being transgender when a teacher, friend, family, or stranger ask you?
Uhhh… Online, it’s a piece of cake. In person, holy fuck I’m so scared to answer. Today Cappu and I were talking… and I couldn’t explain anything clearly OTL
27. What goals do you have in regards to your transition? Aside from your transition?
Uhh… Just pose as male and be confident in such. And also find out whether or not I’m willing to take Testosterone or not.
28. What is something you do daily to feel comfortable with yourself?
Call myself Shane. Draw myself as a male. Mess around with my new piercings and act boyish. I also just… talk to my friends on here.
29. Write out something positive about yourself using the letters of your name. Ex. Bob: Badass Outstanding Boy
Shane: Super Heavy Amazing Noobie Extraordinaire
30. Write a haiku about being trans.
This is very new
I’m not lying about this
This is who I am
30 day trans challenge Day 9
9) What is something positive about being trans?
The short answer is that there is nothing positive about being trans. Its like having cancer except people hate you for it. I guess If I was going to search really hard to find a positive it would be that I’ve had the opportunity to meet a lot of people that I would never have met. In reality I would have just met different people because I was doing different things but I’m looking for a silver lining.
30 Day Trans Challenge: 7 - Who do you look up to?
Laura Jane Grace, hands down. Not only is she a beautiful trans woman, but she came out while she was a major public figure, there was no hiding it. That takes a metric shit-ton of courage.
Also Tegan Quin, Sara Quin, and Hannah Hart, three awesome ladies and LGBT rights supporters. But LJG is by far the most inspiring person I’m familiar with.
Oh, my friend Celeste is probably somewhere between LJG and the others. Also trans, without a doubt the person who made me realize this transitioning is the right move, but less of someone I look up to and more of a friend/influence.
