As impossible as it may seem, your mental and physical health come before anything else, whether they be obligations to others or your own school work.
2. Don’t try to justify every feeling you have. Just observe it and let it happen and continue. It’s okay to feel sad and not know why.
3. Let yourself have nice things. Spend money on a nice meal at a restaurant or a cute pair of sunglasses. By telling yourself you are choosing “I want this” and “I don’t want that” as opposed to “I want this but I can’t afford it,” you feel a lot more positive about your life. It won’t make you broke if you let yourself afford a little treat once every so often.
4. If you feel like you have to lie to your friends to keep them, they probably aren’t worth having as friends.
5.Have short-term and long-term goals, and dream about them. Hope for the future gives energy to get through the present.
6. A bad grade or three won’t kill you or even ruin your life/career. Being aloof at all job interviews might do the latter, though.
7. Walk with your head up and shoulders back, but not with your chin towards the sky—a slight smile on your face though. You see more pleasing things when you smile, and you feel more confident when you act that way.
8. If you need a break, take one or ask for one. No one (that you need in your life) is asking you to run yourself into the ground.
9. “Deserving” is a weird concept. Life happens. Don’t worry if you didn’t get something you “deserved” or if something happened that you “didn’t deserve”.
10. Someone is there for you, even if you don’t notice it.
11. Having a hobby is very important. It can motivate you to wake up and it can be there for you when you are lonely or feeling down.
12. “Growing up” isn’t what it sounds like. You make mistakes and learn, sure, but you can still be silly and youthful and buy pudding cups with your groceries—you just have to be the one to tell yourself to eat your broccoli.
13. It’s important to know what’s going on in the outside world, but the news can also be depressing. Don’t feel guilty about counteracting that with crappy TV shows or light books.
14. Sing in the shower if you want to. Dance if you feel like it. Don’t be afraid of the gazes of others—learn to value your happiness over judgment.
15. Keep around a list of things you like to do, foods you like to eat, people you like to talk to. Keep it around in case of a bad day.
16. Do not live in your past. It happened, and time has passed. Look at your present. Don’t make mistakes of the past, but don’t seek past times either. All you have is now.
17. Listen to your loved ones’ advice. You don’t always have to follow it, but listen and actually think about it.
18. Americans overvalue alcohol. You cannot find your personality at the bottom of a bottle—just a distorted reflection. Know yourself, and never drink to excess. Most importantly, you don’t need to drink to have a good time.
19. Don’t be afraid to admit that you’re scared or you don’t know. No one knows everything, and everyone is a little scared of something.
20. Relationships—friendly and romantic—come and go. Even the ones you thought would be forever. But do not regret or forget the love and affection while it lasted. And especially with a good friend, do not be afraid to fight to make things work—to change constructively and grow together. But do not invert who you are to cling on to someone who doesn’t want you.