::Long response:: You and I are on the same page. I’ve mentioned this on so many occasions I lost count. I’m annoyed on how we try to mask misogynoir and sexism in the black community when it’s directed towards black women, but become full on feminists when it comes to other races of women for the same thing.
That’s because black women are viewed as inferior, dirty and unclean by
our own community as well. This is the same way whites view black women. This is
why these double standards exist in and outside of our community. White women are seen as symbol of purity just based on their image alone. Though non-black women aren’t white, they’re still given the leniency black women are not because they share similar characteristics and traits (hair, features, etc) we associate with white female purity. Black
men have no problem projecting misogyny and sexism on black women
because they think lowly of us similar to how whites think of us.
Notice when black women bring up the misogynistic things we experience, we get sad lectures about the women across seas in the middle east, and how we need to see that as a reason to stop complaining? Or how white women had it bad under the evil white man back in the day but bash black feminists who’ve existed since the civil rights era accusing us for joining up with those same white women in white supremacy? Come on now.
I mentioned how black men, and some black women too (especially the male identified one’s) defend white and non-black women against sexism and almost jump aboard the feminist train, when it comes to the same things black women like me and others complain about within our own community. They tell us to “shut up” or “If you’re not a hoe, bitch or thot, then you shouldn’t be getting offended” or “Oh please I call everyone a hoe or a bitch including men” when they know damn well they don’t. When black women bring up sexism and misogynoir by using examples like Nicki Minaj or just random examples we’re told to shut up and stop complaining and they continue to look down on black women who fall into their misogynoir/sexist beliefs.
I remember being on a forum where the story about some celebrity saying Adele was fat and needed to lose weight because of mainstream, I think that celebrity was Jennifer Hudson (ironically) and black people were like “She doesn’t have to lose a pound, she’s talented, she can sing, she has won awards”, blah blah blah. Going on about how it was sexist that Jennifer Hudson would say that she needed to conform, blah blah blah and some other hypocritical crap. But on every black forum I can think of there is a least one Gabourey Sidbibe thread a day mocking her, ignoring her talent, character and success because they think so low of her.
They accuse black women of breaking up the black family for becoming working women, and saying how educated career minded black women are a detriment to the black community or black male because we’re not feminine or submissive enough and are trying to outdo black men.
I’ve addressed how black people along with racist whites, are accepting of white female/non-black female sexuality, unless the non-black woman looks kind of black, opposed to black women in which they created an entire culture with a dictionary of words shaming black women. I remember when the hacker posted those celebrity pics and black people were talking about how sexy whats her name looked, and no one called her THOT or a WHORE or none of that. A black woman can just be wearing a certain outfit and they’ll be like “Who is this THOT” or “She looks nasty” all kinds of sexist and misogynoir labels. Notice no one came to Jill Scott’s defense when someone leaked her pictures. Black people were on line with ignorant whites mocking her and putting her down.
Feminism is only bad if it’s in the possession of black women. Sexism and misogyny is okay as long as it’s directed towards black women. You know we’re not considered human beings.