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12 Lies You Tell Yourself When You’re In A Bad Relationship

It’s easy to spot a bad relationship when you aren’t in one. You hear your friends talking about their terrible boyfriends, and you hear them make all sorts of excuses, and you feel incredibly frustrated that they can’t see what’s really going on. Here’s the thing, though: it can be very hard to recognize that you’re in a bad relationship because you don’t want to admit that you’re in one.

anonymous asked:

hey! every fic i've ever read has been recommended to me, so i'm terrible at finding them on my own. could you possibly rec. me some eremika fics? preferably AU and long chapter style (meaning no one shots). im okay with most subjects, so any thing you think of is probably okay. thank you so much!!

In no order:

Feels Like Home - Lyssala - This one is a Oneshot dump with 100 planned chapters, that range from canon universe, to any form of AUs, and they all have one thing in common: disgustingly sweet, teeth-rotting fluff. You will have diabetes by the time you’re through with this one.

A Kiss With a Fist - Lyssala - Eremika zombie AU by the same genius that brought you Feels Like Nome

Hourglassaiikawarazu - You’ve probably heard this one praised to hell and back, but that’s because it’s as good as everyone says it is. If you’re okay with domestic violence (not between Eren and Mikasa, however), read this one right now.

Wir Werden Uns Wiedersehen - Aruani - A SNK WWII AU with a meticulous detail to historical accuracy. The main ship is Aruani, but Eremika is a close second, and there’s Yumikuri, too.

Home Is Where The Heart Is - ohthelinsanity - Eremika Exchange Student AU and if Feels Like Home doesn’t kill you of a fluff stroke, this one will, without a doubt.

Tower Of Babel - ohthelinsanity - This one is a bit different. It focuses less on the romantic ships, but rather the friendship of Mikasa, Sasha, Annie, Ymir and Historia in a modern roomates AU. There’s still Eremika, as well as Springles, Beruani, and Yumikuri,  but it isn’t the driving point of the story. It’s still one of the best on this list.

The Broken Doll - aradin nights - The Eremika in this one doesn’t come until the very end. This fanfiction focuses primarily on the relationship between Mikasa and Levi in a semi-AU where Eren failed to rescue her, and Levi takes her in as a daughter after freeing her from slavers. This is the single fanfiction that made me like the idea of platonic Rivamika long before Levi’s last name came out, and it remains to this day my favorite SNK fanfiction.

and while it’s on my mind

if you have a friend/person in your life/etc, and they’re constantly angry/aggressive and/or a negative influence on your emotional health, and you “stick with them because the few good moments are good enough to outweigh all of the bad”

get the fuck out of there.

i’m still just furious with myself for putting up with that person for that long, for telling myself “there’ll be a good day eventually, they won’t be angry forever, they’ll come back around”

even when those good days were warm fuzzy feelings of mutual understanding and exchanges of life experience and funny stories and stuff– the bad days were so much more, they were toxic and unpleasant, and as someone who’s super emphatic, it was practically emotional abuse because of all of the anger and vitriol I had to put up with

just, please. learn from my mistakes.

It’s actually so hard to just stop caring about someone who was horrible to you because if you had a long relationship with them you develop this attachment and it’s terrible because you’re so attached to this person who makes you feel awful about yourself and absolutely ruins your self esteem and perception of yourself and relationships. Even when it’s over and you’re done with them, there’s still a part of you that cares which is so twisted bc you care about the person who changed you for the worse. 

anonymous asked:

Dad, maybe you can explain, but why do demons hate humans so much? Not all of us are terrible you know

HATE THEM? 

DO HUMANS HATE ANTS? DOES A SHEPARD HATE HIS SHEEP? A CHESS PLAYER THE PAWNS?

I DO NOT HATE HUMANS. SOME OF THEM HAVE EARNED MY DISTASTE. BUT MOST I FEEL CONTEMPT FOR HUMANITY.

THEY ARE SIMPLY THE PLAYING FEILD BETWEEN MY FORCES AND OTHERS. TO A CREATURE OF CREATION, A HIGHER BEING, AN ENTITY FAR GREATER THEN ANY SUM OF HUMAN LIFE, I VIEW THEM AS EITHER PLAYERS OR ENEMIES.  

I KNOW IT SEEMS CRUEL TO YOU FOR ME TO THINK SO, RIDDLED WITH EMPATHY AS YOU ARE. BUT FROM MY STAND POINT THIS IS SIMPLY A GAME OF POWER. AND I FIGHT FOR MY SIDE. 

YOU SHOULD KNOW THAT THE OTHER DOES JUST THE SAME. WHAT YOU KNOW AS JUST AND GOOD IS PREDEFINED BY THE FORCE YOU HUMANS CALL FAITH. I DO NOT HAVE SUCH FAITH IN THE MORALS OF THE ENEMY SIDE.

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im getting really mad when i see those posts about how you should respect your mom and if you dont like her your fucked up.
like okay???? I alot of people have a terrible relationship with their mom you shouldn’t be guilt tripping them just because like okay yeah she gave birth so what right after that she abused me and still does
So like get the fuck off people backs about moms or even parents matter a fact it in not you frucking business to be guilt tripping people and make them super bad just because you have a strong relationship with your mom (parents)

Did you know that you actually can never forget a face? Every single face you’ve ever seen during your life gets stored into your memories, and gets used up later. For example, in dreams your brain can’t just make up a face. Every single face you’ve seen in your dream, you’ve seen somewhere once in your life.

And those strange nightmares you’ve had of those terrible demon like creatures ?

You’ve seen them around too, you just cant remember. You don’t want to remember.

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thessalies asked:

I have a scrupulosity problem and I was wondering if you could give me absolution- I'm trying to tell my jerkbrain that it's a waste of energy to worry about EA until I actually have a regular income of my own, but the jerkbrain is insisting I should badger my parents about donating and that spending the money i get from dogsitting or w/e on myself is immoral.

So Giving What We Can is the big organization for effective altruists, it’s the one that lets you take a pledge to give for life (which they’ll verify). They have incredibly dedicated staff and do a ton of research and are very very serious.

Their recommendation for students and people without a regular income is to give 1%.

Is this because the world would actually be better if students gave 10%, but they don’t really care that much about the world being better so they just invented a different number? 

I think that’s super unlikely. I think that probably if the most committed EA people in the world think giving 1% is in fact a better way to live your values than giving more, they’re right. Why?

building your savings will be good for you - and I mean good for you on every possible level. Having a few thousand dollars in your bank account is really hard to do on babysitting money, but it provides a sense of security and confidence. It’ll enable you to get out of a bad situation fast or quit a toxic job without another thing lined up or make emergency repairs on a vehicle. It’ll enable you to take more chances down the line, move to a new city where there are more opportunities, and experience a lot less financial stress. I think it’s morally good for anyone who wants to be an effective altruist to build several thousand dollars in savings before they start giving. 

this is your time to invest in yourself - Let’s say you can choose between taking a part-time job or, as a student, spending the extra time going to office hours and impressing your professor so you get a recommendation, or doing more homework so you get a good grade in the class, or hanging out with friends so you’re happier and emotionally healthier and can get more out of your experience. The second one ‘pays’ better, in the long run. I know a lot of people (haha, I am one of these people) whose mental health got in the way of finishing school. No amount of money is worth putting ahead of that. I mean, even from an entirely money-focused perspective, taking care of yourself as a student so you’re in a good place when you graduate is financially smarter than feeling obligated to work so you have money to donate right now.

EA shouldn’t be a source of misery - this one’s a hard sell. It’s hard to say ‘people are dying because we’re short on mosquito nets, you can buy some, but don’t feel sad about that or anything, just feel empowered! by how many nets you can buy! because of the vast differential between the West and the rest of the world!’ But, like, the fundamental Only Rule That Matters is that happiness and fulfillment are good and suffering and pain are bad. I think I’m a more generous EA when I have time and emotional space to cultivate the ‘I’m going to change the world! From a position of joy and kindness and emotional security! Which means first I’m going to build that!” then when I’m approaching it from a place of ‘buying that latte was Literally Murder, instead of ‘that’ll be 4.25′ Starbucks should have just said ‘that’ll be two insecticide-treated bednets, please”.

I have no idea if it’s historically accurate, but there’s that story that the first guy who ran from Marathon to Athens covered the distance and then died on the spot. Whereas now lots of people run marathons, but they train for them for years, and also they don’t train by constantly running, they also train by getting lots of sleep and relaxing and stuff. Donating as a student is trying to run from Marathon to Athens on no training, and if we want to cover as much distance as possible we want to give ourselves those years to get stronger first. 

Buy lattes. Don’t take on extra jobs or extra debt in school. Save money to empower yourself later. All of these are the right things to do, all of these are things that we want EAs to do. Because, I mean, the fundamental principle behind EA is ‘having what you need to be healthy and happy is Really Really Important’ and it wouldn’t do to lose sight of it ourselves.

Everyone says surround yourself with positivity when you’re feeling down, but does anyone realize how incredibly hard it is to be around people who are in a great mood and are carefree when you’re drowning in your own mind and constantly trying not to depress the happy people with your average, every day, not quite controllable negative thinking and comments? Sometimes it’s helpful, but other times it’s just depressing (and sometimes super irritating) to watch people be happy and not be able to feel it too.
It’s like if someone is terrible at math, and you tell them to surround themselves with people who are great at it. Yeah, it might help them a bit and they might pick up on some stuff, but there’s always gonna be times where the ones who are strong in it are shining and the one who sucks at it feels like they’re drowning in the dark and that they can’t catch up. It doesn’t mean they never will, but it’s an awfully crappy feeling to have to sit through acknowledging the gap or difference between them and the people who are where they want to be.

Bindings for tomorrow

[ 狐 ]—— It wasn’t something he would normally do, but he figured for once he would try something so off canon from his daily work; yet not knowing the truth behind these kinds of auctions. Some men and women seemed too eager to buy these precious creatures, these beings who were sold at high price. Azure eyes would have had taken notice of one, and that was when he was rather interested.

Naruto kept quiet as he was lead over towards the feline, watching as the tail and ears twitched, and those ears of his laid flat against his head. The panic and despair was written on the figure’s face. Seeing the rope being brought out he quickly stepped forward and placed his hand on the previously purchased other. “I don’t think the rope would be needed. I’m sure he isn’t too much trouble.” He spoke softly, sincerely and showed no actions to be a threat.

Surely the other would want his freedom, right? A rope wasn’t worth hurting or humiliating him over. Softly he rubbed the top of the feline’s head, his thumb stroking the inside of his ear. This was his method that would hopefully show he was a kind person, unlike one who was dragging a purchased ‘slave’. In his own mind he was kind of freeing this one from serious harm; even if he denied his own desires too.

Hiya, honey bunches of oats! Haha, well a little while back someone asked me to make icons but I decided not to because I’m not really good with icons. Actually, I’m really terrible at them. Anyway, as a thank you for following me I took some time the past few days to try and make some for you all. So yeah, let me know if you like them or use them cause that’d be cool y’know? Cheers, loves! ♥ (Please do not take and redistribute as yours, that wouldn’t be cool)

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