L.G.B...T? (My awful experience at Pride)

Yesterday, I played Long Island Pride Fest. It was really excellent for me to take the stage at the Pride closest to my hometown. All of my local friends got to see me rock a huge festival. My performance went great. I got encored which was an amazing feeling. I was announced as a “Transgender singer-songwriter.”

Now, I’m totally fine being known as a transgender singer-songwriter. I’m even more comfortable with it at pride. Everyone at pride is cool with trans people right? WRONG. 

About thirty minutes after my performance I walked (alone) to the parking lot to move my guitar from backstage to my car.

I was approached by three cis-men. They seemed to be about 20 or 21. They didn’t seem drunk. They were wearing pride pins and rainbows. Two of them were touching a bit. They were definitely there celebrating pride, no doubt.

As they came closer they started to chuckle in an immature way. 

Look, it’s the girlboy!” They continued to laugh pointing their fingers at me. I felt like a circus freak show exhibit.  

I felt a fire rage up inside of me. 

How could this happen to me at a pride festival? How could other queer people be so uneducated about the trans* community that they make a comment so ridiculous and offensive? 

The three boys walked past me. 

I turned around and let that fire take hold of my actions. I screamed out "Are you in this community or are you a fucking asshole?" 

Then I realized. I see all other queer people and also non-queer allies as a part of my community, but these three gay men, they DO NOT see me in their community. They do not welcome trans people in their community. They spit at the very thought of us. 

Isn’t it crazy how so much ignorance can exist within the queer community? 

I went home from pride feeling like there was no safe place for transgender people. I always saw Pride as a safe place, a place where I could truly be myself and not have to worry about being attacked, ridiculed or bullied.

Unfortunately, I will now carry fear with me to pride. Myself and other trans* people are not welcomed by some members of the gay community. I now have to worry about being attacked by other members in the queer community. It’s really a shame. 

I blame it all on ignorance.  

For one, the Long Island gay center does not focus at all on transgender issues or the trans* community. They predominately cater to white gay cis-men. My Long Island friends and I often discuss the center. We all realized all of this growing up. It’s time to stand up. It’s time to let this awful truth me known. It’s time to let the gay center know how we feel. I will soon be voicing my pride experience and my feelings to them. They need to start educating the rest of the queer community about the trans* community. 

No, I’m not blaming this all on the gay center but they do have the upper hand and they can do a lot to fix this problem. We need to start somewhere.

I can name many other times where I have been excluded or made fun of by gay men. Sometimes it’s not they are trying to be rude. It’s because they are uneducated about trans people. 

TO EVERY SINGLE PERSON IN THE WORLD. 
- You have no right to ask a trans person what they have in their pants. 
- It’s rude to say to a trans-guy “Oh, Well, You kind of look like a girl.”
- It’s rude to say to a transwoman “Oh, well you kind of look like a man.” 

Read this article: “TEN THINGS NOT TO SAY TO A TRANS PERSON”

Note* - Being queer does not give you the right to look over the things mentioned on the list. 

Are we the LGBT community or is it segregated to an LGB community and a T community? 

Before we ask society to accept us we must first learn to accept every member in the queer community.

"Can we join together and be one human race?"

Thank you for reading. It’s time to pass this message along and start educating. 

Ryan O. Cassata

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I’M NOT “TRANS ENOUGH”
FTM (Female to male) Perspective. 

I made this because there is so much judgment inside of the transgender FTM community. Please watch the trans enough video by Chase Ross (uppercaseCHASE1)

Stop the hate. Stop the judgement. Everyone is trans enough. Everyone is an individual. 

WATCH THIS VIDEO IN HD!!! 

http://transenough.com/ - Check out my friends project!!

CONTACT ME: 
ryancassata.com
ryancassatamusic@aim.com

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I’M NOT TRANS ENOUGH *** VIDEO 
I had to re-upload this video do to copyright problems on the song I used in the last one. I used my own song, “Love ‘Round The World” for this re-upload so I won’t run into the same problem and this video can continue to inspire and help others. 
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THE GENDER DYSPHORIA SCALE FOR TRANS* INDIVIDUALS

inclusive to all trans* individuals

The purpose is to show that all trans individuals are different and do not follow the same path of transitioning due to different amounts of gender dysphoria.

This is a quick interpretation (that is my own). Of course there are numbers between all of the dots. The point is to show that all trans people are different. 

I have taken a survey that about 1000 trans people have responded to. That is how I came up with this information on the chart. 

Anyone is free to use this chart and change it based on their own interpretations. 

WHAT MY SCALE IS MODELED AFTER.

created by ryan cassata — www.ryancassata.comwww.ryancassata.tumblr.com — @ROCassataMusic 

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This is what happened today during my speech at a Long Island high school. It’s sad that there are so many ignorant people in the world and that they couldn’t take the education they were given and learn to be less ignorant. I never thought that something like this would happen at my speech and that someone would say things like this to my face and in front of a room full of youth. 

Top Surgery w/o T & Top Surgery under 18

Top surgery without T (testosterone): 
-Dr. Garramone (Sunrise, Florida)
-Dr. Johnson (Omaha, Nebraska)
-Dr. Brownstein (San Francisco, California - Retired)
-Dr. Crane (San Francisco, California) 

Under 18: 
-Dr. Brownstein (San Francisco, California - Retired)
-Dr. Crane (San Francisco, California)
-Dr. Fischer (Baltimore, MD) 
-Dr. Bartlett (Boston, MA)
-Dr. Alter (Beverly Hills, CA)
-Dr. Medalie (Cleveland, OH)
-Dr. Pandrangi (Cleveland, OH)
 


All Surgeons & Results

PLEASE HELP ME EXTEND THIS LIST! IF YOU KNOW OTHER SURGEONS THAT FIT ON THIS LIST PLEASE SEND THEM HERE.  

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"Sleeping Through" by Ryan Cassata 

Stand up against transgender suicide. Pass it on.

3 weeks 1 day post-operation. Still swollen but it’s going down a lot. My nipples are changing colors a lot. Not sure if that’s normal but it doesn’t hurt so I’m not that worried. Any other guys have this happen to them? Also I have a stitch that is stuck in my skin under the incision under my right armpit. It seems to be metal so it doesn’t seem like it’s going to disolve. I guess I will be going to a doctor if it doesn’t push itself out soon. My skin is still extremely irritated from where the tapes on my nipples were. Hoping that goes away soon so they swelling could go down. I’m really happy with my results. Before you ask, I went to Dr. Brownstein in San Francisco California on Jan. 5th. I got the double incision procedure with nipple and areola grafts. 

Mexican transgender rights advocate Anges Torres was found dead last Saturday in a ravine in Atlixco, just outside of her home town of Puebla, Mexico. The writer and activist for LGBT human rights had been missing since Friday night. Friends and sympathizers are calling for a swift investigation into the crime.

The coroner reported that Agnes Torres Sulca, 28, had had her neck slashed, and her body showed burn marks, indicating that she had been tortured, according to Mexico news site Proceso.com.mx. “It is presumed to have been a hate crime,” the website reported.

“We condemn this crime against a woman, an academic, a psychologist, educator, role model and activist for human rights for women in general and for sexual diversity as a whole,” the Puebla-based organizationVida Plena Puebla. “We are distraught, pained, enraged and saddened by this crime, and feel powerless over how, yet again, a brave person has succumbed to the most brutal of gender-based violence… in this case, violence against a transgender woman.” The organization demanded in their statement that Torres’s murder case be treated the same way as that of “the daughter of any governor, politician, or attorney” and that it be solved swiftly.

The organization had presented before the State Congress on the importance of legislation for sexual diversity and recognition of hate as an exacerbating factor in these cases, particularly of “feminicide” – a word coined in Mexico to refer to specifically to violence targeted at women that ends in murder, which has reached endemic proportions in the country. There have been 6 similar unsolved homicides in the state since the beginning of 2012.

Click the headline to read on. March 12, 2012. 

Reasons why I haven't shown my chest yet...

I wanted my girlfriend and mother to be the first to see. 

I have to wait 5 more days until the bandages on my incisions come off…they come off on their own and once they are off they won’t stick back on, alas I can’t just take them off for a couple seconds to take a picture and then put them back on. 

My nipples are covered up with bandage also! 

So, basically, you cannot see anything yet besides that I am flat! So I will just wait another week until I snap a picture and show the whole world. =] Be patient!! 

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