Perhaps it seems like we in the SJ movement hate and dismiss those people with privilege, and that their opinions are worth nothing, and in fact people who are privileged in X, Y and Z ways are giant jerks and gosh do we hate them. SO MUCH.
That’s not how it is though.
It’s more like we live in a world that consistently values us less than people who are privileged in X, Y and Z ways. Our voices aren’t considered or listened to as much or as consistently. We aren’t as valued. Nobody will mind very much if we disappear.
So we build our safe spaces where we can talk to one another and support each other, and we know that these people understand what we go through, and we can feel safe and understood, like people.
That’s the thing - it’s not that privileged people totally suck in all ways and we just HATE them. It’s that they can’t understand what it means to be ______ in this day and age. But because we live in a world that as a whole values them more, they get the impression that their knowledge is the sum of all knowledge and their experiences are universal. So when marginalized groups tell them “Actually…” they react to maintain the status quo. They’re doing just fine. It must be our fault that we’re discriminated against.
Being privileged does not guarantee happiness, nor does being marginalized guarantee sadness. It’s just another thing we have to deal with, that privileged folks don’t. And we really dislike it when privileged people give us the same shit in our safe spaces that we deal with every day. And that’s why privileged peoples’ opinions don’t matter as much - because they don’t have the lived experiences we do and they’re talking out of their ass.
I don’t know if I did the right thing in speaking so generally, like we’re a hive mind or something. These are my observations, from the inside of the SJ movement. The generalities I wrote in order to try to simplify this for you do not apply to everyone and I hope the people I’m speaking for don’t find this presumptuous. I hope you realize there’s already volumes written to educate you, much of which is available for free on the internet, and that I’m in a giving mood for writing more for you.
This blog is beyond your current level of education about SJ. Come back when you’ve learned more.