Of all the things I keep trying to tell cis people, “don’t presume your child’s gender” is the one that they consistently, deliberately refuse to understand and it is so deeply telling.

You cannot truly understand the transgender experience, and cannot count yourself an ally, until you accept that the trauma of being transgender is not inherent, it is a product of being coerced into thinking that you had absolutely no choice but to be the gender you were assigned.

Not “born with”, not “biologically”, the gender you were assigned.

The problem is assignment. The problem is doctors and parents believing it is their place to dictate their child’s gender, starting before they can even conceptualize what a gender is, let alone have the mental development necessary to object to what they’re given. This defines a child’s entire life, cuts short countless possibilities. It etches itself into the fabric of our developing minds and it is a ticking psychological time bomb for those children who are given a gender assignment that they cannot or do not wish to live with. This culture of dictated identity must end if transgender people are ever to be regarding as whole and equal members of society.


When to not drunk dial your ex. This video is a drunken mess.



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Makeup is awesome, so why not embrace it by storing all your accessories inside the “contents: my face” cosmetic bag? The bag comes in a fun pink hue along with the comical message that tells the whole world that’s where your money maker is stored.


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It occurs to me that the reason why BRS* imagine female bisexuality as being about men (apart from phallocentrism, of course) is that they often imagine lesbianism as being about women. Since their sexual identity is based on identifying with women, they imagine female bisexuality on identical terms, where the only reason for a bi identity is wanting to include or identify with men.

So no. Bisexual identity is not about being inclusive of men. It’s about identifying with other bi people (for me, especially with bi women, bi trans people and bi people of color).

Jee, how about that? o.O

* Biphobic RadScum