I recently got into a discussion with a close friend about the words we’d use to describe people. I asked her what the first word she’d use in trying to explain me to someone I don’t know. This was her response. I don’t know that I deserve this praise, but this is a place for, among other things, words that make me proud.
I can’t think of a word that means what I need it to mean.
"Expansive" is the closest I can find.
You have a really large presence, and you fill things up. A silence with words, a room with energy, a friend with confidence.
"Expansive" isn’t really the right word.
But it kind of is.
At first glance, it seems really weird. Or, at least to me. Like it all seems to come from nowhere. There are some people who have a large presence, but that presence is very firmly centered around them. With you, it feels a bit different. As if you could convince anyone you’re talking to that the presence they feel is actually theirs. So it seems like it comes from nowhere, or from other people.
Let me make a distinction, though. I said that some people have a presence that centers on themselves, but it is also quite solid. So for them to expand, others around them have to shrink. But yours isn’t like that. Yours makes it feel like there’s not only enough room for someone else, but that everyone would be so thrilled if they expanded too.