So I was out today and a guy selling these makeup samples came up to me and is like “excuse me miss, do you wear makeup?” and I said, “Yeah, just a little bit though” and he says “well you don’t really need it,” but then he like, actually looks at me and is like, “wow you’re really pretty!” and pauses and smiles before explaining his makeup product and at the end he was like “you’re so pretty, do you have a boyfriend?” and I should’ve said yes (even though I don’t have one, it’s a good way to get out of weird people asking you out) but I said “no,” and he asked for my number and I said “I’m sorry but I feel uncomfortable giving out my number to people I don’t really know,” and he said, “ok I can respect that, have a great day!” and it made my day that A) He called me “pretty” rather than “hot,” or something similarly annoying B) I didn’t feel uncomfortable or targeted because his compliments were flattering rather than disrespectful C) After I told him no, he “respected” my decision and left me alone.
I dunno if this seems normal for anyone reading this, but for me, coming from a big city, it’s so nice to get a compliment without feeling threatened, scared, targeted, or demeaned. How refreshing to see someone do that (even though I do realize he was just trying to sell me something)
ALSO it’s probably good to throw in here that if anyone feels uncomfortable with someone asking for your number, you can Google search the Rejection Hotline for your area and give that number to them instead so you don’t feel rude and can get out of the situation quickly without them questioning you! This tactic has saved my butt before so I hope you find it helpful as well!