honestly tho the amount my relatives spend on weddings scares me. it’s like a cultural thing among upper-middle class chinese i think…to throw a huge banquet with hundreds of guests and ten course meals. i mean even people who may not necessarily be making a lot feel pressured to make their wedding some sort of grand showpiece like that. people save a lot for this. i get it’s a big day, i don’t blame couples who want to make it memorable but i personally don’t see any sense in blowing so much money on one day when it would probably be better served saving it to pay off the loan for the house you’re gonna move into or the kids on the way. it’s like the wedding is just the beginning? keep your powder dry… especially some of these often end up being much more stressful and tiring affairs for the couple in question. 

i have literally attended dozens of weddings where my family members didn’t even really know the bride and groom but they were invited because they were like a relative of a friend of a friend or something…