Hi! I’m so so sorry about what you’re going through. It honestly is one of the worst pains I have ever felt in my life, to end something with someone who you care so deeply for.
I think firstly, you need to allow yourself to mourn. Cry, cry, cry. Sleep a lot. Watch funny movies. Let yourself be sad. It is completely okay and 100% natural.
I think another thing would be to keep yourself distracted. Look at this free time you have as a positive. Find a new hobby, learn something new, spend time with friends and family, fill up your course load, volunteer, blog, bake, shop (my personal favorite part).
Next, I think the best part for me was really taking the time to learn about me and figure out who I am, alone, without a boyfriend. Especially after three years it’s gonna feel totally lonely at times and absolutely terrifying. That’s okay too. Again, completely natural. Recognize that loneliness you feel and harness it. Try and start to retrain your brain into thinking differently. Instead of, I wish so and so were here with me, attempt to tell yourself, well now that I’m alone I can finally get that painting done, or finish that book, or do some yoga, or go on a run. Figure out what you like by trying a lot of things. Be brave. Hone your skills.
Trust me, it’s the hardest thing to do, but worth the entire world to be alone with yourself and love yourself.
The truth is there’s no quick and easy fix, even if you do all this stuff you’ll still have days where you feel like breaking. It’s gonna happen. Just take things day by day and get excited about how much stronger you’re going to be after this.
And please if you ever want to talk, hit me up!! Tumblr was my favorite escape when I was dealing with the most challenging part of my life so If you find it’s the same for you, I’m always here to chat!!!! Good luck, just know you rock and you’re awesome and you are loved and you are NOT on your own!