ugh yeah i know what this is like. my dad used to make little comments about all the shit i was eating because he was worried about my health. we’ve got issues that run in the family so i get it, but i told him that the kind of comments he was making were ones that would end up making me starve myself. i told him he was making me feel guilty for eating and that i wasn’t going to put up with that. he hasn’t said anything since, and he apologized.
like i’ll be completely honest, i weigh 260 pounds on average, it fluctuates and it’s steadily getting lower, but even when i weighed around 270 my doctor never harped on me getting skinny. you know why? because out of everything in my blood work the one problem he saw was that my calcium levels were a little low. my blood pressure is always phenomenal as is my blood sugar, kidney function etc. i deal with chronic pain from injuries i got while being active or from falling and shit but other than that i’m fine.
wanting you skinny and wanting you healthy are two different things, and you should tell her that she should want you healthy and that you do want to lose weight and stay healthy, but doing that takes effort over time. losing weight is fine, do what makes you happy (i’m trying so i feel you), but never compromise your health for the sake of your physical appearance, you’re worth more than that.