victim-blaming

Compared to women without mental health problems, women with depression were around 2.5 times more likely to have experienced domestic violence over their adult lifetime (prevalence estimate 45.8 percent).

Women with anxiety disorders were over 3.5 times more likely to have experienced domestic violence (prevalence estimate 27.6 percent), and women with post-traumatic stress disorder (PTSD) were around 7 times more likely (prevalence estimate 61 percent).

Women with other disorders, including obsessive compulsive disorder (OCD), eating disorders, schizophrenia and bipolar disorder, were also at an increased risk of domestic violence compared to women without mental health problems, according to the researchers.

—  Mentally Ill More Likely to Suffer Domestic Violence

(Please remember these statistics next time someone labels an abuse victim as “crazy” in an attempt to dismiss or discredit them).

Women feel more guilt than men, not because of some weird chromosomal issue but because they have a history of being blamed for other people’s behaviour. You get hit, you must have annoyed someone; you get raped, you must have excited someone; your kid is a junkie, you must have brought him up wrong
—  Germaine Greer, Guilt Poisons Women

[Looting rhetoric] is victim blaming which says inanimate objects ought to become the center of discussion and outrage surrounding the death of a living, breathing, vibrant human being, and that never should we mention the white supremacist institution which murdered him or the cop(s) who pulled the trigger.

A while back I tweeted that the most powerful weapon to destroy a people’s resistance is to erase their history. For the phenomenon that is victim blaming, this is absolutely essential. If people (read mostly white people) can erase an oppressed population’s history, they effectively erase the oppression they themselves committed and make invisible the power they obtain from it.

“Looting” rhetoric is a method of erasing the previous violence and oppression visited upon Ferguson’s black community, specifically the killing of Mike Brown, but also even before it. This rhetoric conveniently rejects greater sociopolitical, economic, and historical context for the sake of bolstering itself and in doing so it can dismiss the continuation of white supremacy in contemporary institutions (like police departments).

  • Person with Mental Illnesses/Disabilities:*exists*
  • Person Without Mental Illnesses/Disabilities:I DON't UNDERSTAND!!!!
  • Person Without Mental Illnesses/Disabilities:*abuses person with mental illnesses/disabilities*
  • Person Without Mental Illnesses/Disabilities:I THOUGHT IT WOULD FIX YOU I DON'T UNDERSTAND.
  • Person Without Mental Illnesses/Disabilities:*cries*
  • Society:Wow that must be really hard for you. You're definitely right for being abusive I mean that persons fucking up your whole life with their disabilities.

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On the ca thing again, sorry. For those who don't get it, nobody is denying that some young people seek out sexual contact with adults, but in those situations by law it's the responsibility of the adult to BE AN ADULT and go "nooooooooooooooooooooo"

Yup, and blaming the child for their part in the situation does nothing but create an excuse for the adult so they don’t have to take full responsibility and be held accountable, despite being the only one who can legally consent to sex in that situation.

Everyone gets blamed for their condition

People with depression and other mental illnesses get told that they can get over it with diet, exercize, and positive thinking. They also get blamed for having it, and told that it’s their own fault. This is wrong.


It’s also a common experience of everyone with every condition there is. This is not unique to mental illness. 


Everyone with a disability, illness, or other condition gets blamed for it. People with every condition get told that it’s their fault, that they caused it by eating wrong, sleeping wrong, thinking wrong, or not being sufficiently careful.


People with every condition get told that medical treatment is toxic and wrong, and that if they just stop believing big pharma, they’ll recover. Even people with cancer. 


People with every condition get told that they’re causing their own problems by being too negative, and that they’d get better if they’d just think positively. Even people with spinal cord injuries.


People with every condition get told that they will be healed if they just have faith and pray hard enough. Even people whose condition is obviously genetic.


People with every condition get told that they’re imagining things. Even people with unmistakable visible physical conditions. 

People with every condition face this kind of prejudice. It’s not unique to any group. We should stand together and acknowledge that we all face it, and that it’s wrong to do to anyone.


tl;dr People with every condition get blamed for it and told that things like positive thinking and rejecting big pharma will make everything better. It isn’t unique to mental illness. It’s wrong to do to anyone.

The USA's Public Education System

Just wanted to say, for all of you blaming poor people in public schools for not being up to state standards, or not being good at math, or not being able to read, or not being as educated as the wealthy, our public schools literally aren’t required to provide a decent education. They aren’t required to teach us, they aren’t required to have us educated. And for those of you who look at this and say: “well why don’t you move your kid to a better public school.” Public schools are funded by property taxes and it is illegal to send your kid to a school outside of the district you live in. It is impossible for the poor to live in wealthier school districts as the housing prices are out of our reach, if we can even afford to rent our own homes at all. Basically we should fight to bust up the way public schools are funded instead of blaming the poor for systematic and forced shortcomings in education.

Don't treat a jerk problem as a conflict skills problem

Conflict resolution training only helps when the problem is that people’s communication skills are weak in ways that cause them to escalate conflicts unnecessarily. In that situation, learning better communication (and especially listening) skills can make a big difference. But, not every problem is like that.

When someone is intentionally cruel, it’s not a problem with their social skills. It’s a problem with their values.

Teaching a cruel person communication skills will not cause them to become kinder or teach them to respect others.

Similarly, teaching victims of intentionally cruel people conflict resolution skills will not solve the conflict. It just teaches both parties to blame the victim. Cruelty happens because of choices cruel people make, not because their victims lack conflict resolution skills.

Putting abusers and victims together in a conflict resolution training *especially* will not help. All that does is send the message that no one is really in the wrong, and that there is just a communication problem that needs to be worked out. 

Sometimes, conflicts are not mutual. Sometimes, one side is in the wrong in all of the ways that are important. Sometimes, people are choosing to be mean. Treating a cruelty problem as a social skills problem makes everything worse.

"There’s a certain assumption that when a man tells the truth it’s the truth,” she says. “But when I go before the jury to tell the truth, I have to negotiate how I’m going to be perceived. There’s a suspicion around a woman’s truth.”

“My story,” says Hanna in one of the last scenes of the film, “it’s so big, it sounded like too big a can of worms, and I was like, who would believe me? But then I realized, other women would believe me.”

- Kathleen Hanna, from The Punk Singer

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St. Louis County Police show the exact wrong way to react to a police shooting, later apologize 

Now is not the time for teachable moments.

In a since-removed Facebook post infuriatingly entitled “Kids will be Kids?” a St. Louis County Police precinct explained how, given 12-year-old Tamir Rice’s death at the hands of Cleveland police, some people need to be more careful.

You might think that those people are police officers, shown in security footage to have driven up and shot the unarmed preteen in a matter of seconds. But no — the post actually addresses parents, telling them how to avoid burying their children because they were playing with toy guns the wrong way.