on using the word "identified"

(in reference to this post)

like seriously though one of my biggest pet peeves is cis people overusing the word “-identified” (in terms of gender), since it is almost always wrong. like, why are people so eager to say “female-identified” instead of woman? because it makes it a lot easier to accidentally (or intentionally) imply that trans women aren’t real women, they just “identify” as women. like, this whole shit where cis people get genders and we just get identities.

like yes. all gender is a social construct. I get it. believe me. but when you awkwardly stumble and try to add “-identified” to make things “more inclusive,” what are you actually saying? 

and if you EVER say “women and female-identified people” you are literally implying that there is some sort of difference. 

so please. cis people. I know you are just trying to help. but you are really just making things worse.