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“You are not a mistake, no matter what anyone had said or how things ‘appear’ to be in your life. Deconstruct all the false beliefs that you had bought into it, they do not serve your True Greatness.  A precious jewel is not less valuable because it is covered in dirt, it simply requires some cleaning.”  –Anon I mus

Unfortunately, this world has us so stripped of basic human affection and healthy human connection… that when we finally find a person we connect with, it’s really easy to become addicted and overly attached, and possessive of them. And disappointed when they don’t act like how we idealize they should act.
It’s always a great pursuit to romance, love, and heal yourself first, instead of looking for others to do it for you. Not easy, but it’s kind of a big deal if you want a peaceful life.
I’m easily lost in others and have to constantly pull myself back from looking to them to save me.
Hell, all humans are simply works-in-progress, though.
Wish there was more healthy love in this world.

Mindful and Healthy Resolutions

In the spirit of a New Year! (Happy 2015 everyone). 

Even just one of these can make a huge difference in your life. If you don’t know which to choose, or what you need the most, pick a random number and let the universe guide you. 

Please share if you find this helpful. Someone else might share your opinion!

  1. Evaluate your relationships with honesty and remove the unhealthy ones in a gracious and kind way. 
  2. Make a list of five things you’re thankful for every day. Keep these in a journal to look at when you’re needing to be picked up. 
  3. Once a week, sit quietly and imagine love coming from your heart towards the people you have strained relationships with, or the people needing more love in their life. 
  4. Renew how special “I love you” is. Say it in the most tender of moments, in the most tender of ways. 
  5. Meditate for three minutes, three times a day. 
  6. Give people the space to make mistakes; educate (with kindness) those who make mistakes, but have good intentions. 
  7. Be an exception. Find something you don’t agree with in society, and change it in yourself. 
  8. Put down your phone and computer when someone is talking with you. Pay attention to their eyes instead of your screen. 
  9. Every day, make sure you have at least one conversation where you give the person your full attention. 
  10. Count to three mentally before responding in a conversation; make sure the person is done talking and that you gave them the space to speak. 
  11. Keep water next to you while you’re working. Sipping at it adds a lot more water and health to your day.
  12. Communicate honestly; share your concerns and the way you think with others.
  13. Release inner shame. Give yourself the space to not be perfect.
  14. Laugh. Once a day, do something or spend time with someone where you know you’ll end up laughing.
  15. Ask someone out on a date (friendly or romantic). Be bold and daring and step out of your comfort zone.  
  16. Start a zen doodle journal. Make little designs when you are feeling stressed, and let every line you draw absorb the negativity. 
  17. Take a walk once a day, even for five minutes or just around the block. 
  18. Start a yoga practice: a couple times a week, or for a few minutes every day. Whatever is best for your body.
  19. Substitute one sugary drink for water, or just add an extra glass of water every day. 
  20. Collect stones and crystals. Let them empower you, let them mean something. 
  21. Find a spiritual practice. You don’t have to believe in an after life or religion to be spiritual. 
  22. Start reminding yourself to live in the moment. 
  23. Begin to live for sensation. Pay attention to how different warm and cool feel. Feel your clothes. 
  24. Lay down for ten minutes every day and do nothing. Set a timer if you’re nervous of falling asleep. 
  25. Regulate your sleep schedule. You’ll have so much more energy if you fall asleep and wake up around the same time each day! 
  26. Make a new friend. Find someone you’re not sure you will instantly click with, and see where your relationship goes. 
  27. Take a class. Online, at an adult ed program, at a college, a teen out-of-school group, at your library. 
  28. Read one book a month. A whole book. 
  29. Learn a new word every day. Dictionary.com is perfect for this! 
  30. Look in the mirror every day and tell yourself that you are beautiful. You are. 
  31. Send a message (on any platform and to anyone) telling them that they are beautiful and inspirational. Don’t do it on anonymous. 
  32. Aim to be imperfect. Aim to make mistakes. Aim to love mistakes. 
  33. Buy a subscription to a magazine you want. Learn something. 
  34. Buy a plant, nurture it every day with a pure and unconditional love.
  35. Every sunny and warm day, make a point to lie in the sun for 10-15 minutes. (It’s good for you). 
  36. On bright days, start wearing sunglasses to protect your eyes. 
  37. Find a new vegetable or fruit that you like. 
  38. Learn to cook something yummy and healthy. Even just one meal. 
  39. Have a salad at least three times a week. Even a small one makes a huge difference. 
  40. Volunteer. Even one hour a week can make a huge difference in yours and other’s lives. 
  41. Start a blog and educate people on something you know a lot about. 
  42. Breathe. Pick one act to do every day that you breathe for a minute before. 
  43. When you have work to do, like doing it! It’s all in your mindset, whether you enjoy or loathe something. 
  44. Learn about the ego. Start to conquer your ego. 
  45. Spend a few minutes each day looking out a window. Find something beautiful every time. 
  46. Leave your house without your phone on occasion. 
  47. Take a short walk after eating. It helps digestion!
  48. Be open to healing. Tell yourself that you are willing to heal, no matter what trials that brings you. Be open to evolving. 
  49. Make a list of things you want to change about your daily routine or daily life. Each day, pick one thing and do it. 
  50. Tell yourself that you are worth loving. Place your hands over your heart, breathe, and let yourself be loved by the whole universe. 

The higher purpose of a loving relationship is to support and uplift each other out of unconscious belief systems that do not serve us in order to become more aware of who we truly are. -Anon I mus