anonymous asked:

How do you build trust in a relationship?

I think this can vary a bit depending on the relationship, but I’ll do my best to go through all the things that can help maintain/improve/rebuild trust:

• Keep communication open and honest
• Discuss problems or negative feelings sooner rather than later
• Keep each other’s secrets
• Respect your partner as an individual - ie. don’t be nosy for no reason
• Apologize when you fuck up
• Don’t use past mistakes to guilt-trip
• Keep your promises whenever humanly possible
• Have realistic standards - ie. let the little things go; allow each other to be human
• Reassure each other regularly that you care/love them/etc
• Don’t hide things from each other
• Put each other first whenever you can
• Don’t betray each other’s trust in the first place - ie. don’t fucking cheat

- Erika


I trusted you with parts of me,
The darkest, blackest places,
I thought that you would love them all,
All the cracks, the empty spaces.
I told you things I never tell,
Showed you things I never show.
I was innocence, you stripped me bare,
Young, naive, how was I to know
Something’s are best kept secret.
Now I’m letting our love fade to black,
I’ll ice my own bruises…
Just give me all my secrets back.

(collab w/ mylesbianmanifesto)

Fuckboys 101

Lesson 1: They’re all fuckboys

Lesson 2: Yes, even him. Don’t be fooled

Lesson 3: He will never find the clitoris

Lesson 4: Don’t send him nudes because he will share them

Lesson 5: If he won’t hold your hand in public you aren’t shit to him

Lesson 6: The difference between protective and possessive

Lesson 7: Judge him based on the company he keeps

Lesson 8: Don’t use sex as a weapon, it should be fun for both of you

Lesson 9: Texting shouldn’t feel like a game. When you play games, there has to be a loser

Lesson 10: If he doesn’t make you feel good more than he makes you feel bad, he’s a permanent fuck boy

Lesson 11: If you can’t trust him with his ex, say goodbye

Lesson 12: If you wouldn’t be proud to have a son like him, don’t stay with him

Lesson 13: If he treats you in a way you wouldn’t allow your daughter to be treated, don’t stay with him

Lesson 14: If they actually want to hang out with you, they will go out of their way to hang out with you. If they’re all talk and no follow through be honest with yourself and stop investing in them

Lesson 15: If you tell him how you feel and he laughs at you, don’t stay with him

Lesson 16: If you make more than 2 excuses for an interaction with him, you’re in a relationship with yourself

Lesson 17: If you have to lie to your friends about him, why are you with him?

Lesson 18: If he doesn’t ask if you’re comfortable with every physical thing you do before you do it, then he doesn’t care about you, just what you will do for him

Lesson 19: If he just pushes you instead of pushing you to be better, get out

Lesson 20: If your family and friends don’t like him, ask yourself why

Lesson 21: If you don’t feel comfortable asking “what are your intentions with me?” then you probably already know the answer

Lesson 22: If he tells you he doesn’t like what you’re wearing or who you’re hanging out with or what you’re watching, get out

Lesson 23: If you don’t trust him, leave. If you don’t respect him, leave

Lesson 24: If he doesn’t trust you, leave. If he doesn’t respect you, leave

Lesson 25: Opposites attract and then they attack. If you don’t have common interests, eventually it will catch up to you

Lesson 26: He cannot be your poison and your medicine

Lesson 27: There’s a difference between him saying “I love you” and talking about a future with you. Make sure you know the difference