Hey friends, I just got a text from a friend asking for advice for her friend, a gay trans woman who was told today at her workplace that she is no longer permitted to use the women’s restroom and must either use the mens room or set up “scheduled quarantined bathroom breaks.” She’s located in the state of Oregon, for reference if anyone has legal advice. She’s planning on taking legal action but my friend was looking for suggestions for her in the meantime. Does anyone have any advice I can pass along?

Today I saw a cis woman claim that she has never seen a cis woman objectify women, or view women in terms of sexual availability and desirability to men.

She was saying this to justify describing some trans women as “thinking like men” and having “male-centric points of view.”

Admittedly, I don’t know that much about sports, but I’m having trouble thinking of an instance where a man was badly hurt in a match or a game and his opponent continued to trashtalk him post-injury. No matter how much trashtalk occurred pre- game, once someone is hurt badly, the uninjured winner seems to always extend his sympathy and congratulate the injured athlete on his performance.

Telling that Fallon Fox hates women so much, Fox can’t be bothered to adhere to the most basic tenets of sportsmanship.

Weird how my city’s Pride facebook page can make room for all the bank and product advertisements and 1000000 pictures of cops (which, psst: they actually hate queer people! especially if you’re not white!) but not post a simple URL to the event page a trans woman made for a rally to protest transmisogyny at our city’s largest university.

By weird I mean not weird at all and totally predictable.

Fallon Fox’s and Fox’s transmisogynistic (trans people who hate women) fans showing such obvious glee in beating down a woman reminds me so much of when I was forced to play sports with boys when I was in middle school.

Anytime our gym teachers segregated us by sex they would pit boys against girls, and it was no contest who was going to win in those circumstances, the boys by dozens of points; it didnt matter what the sport was. And the boys enjoyed every minute of it. They delighted in absolutely destroying us, they enjoyed it far more than when they trounced other boys. They especially loved it when they caused us physical harm.

Fallon and her supporters can claim to feel all womanly and shit until they’re blue in the face, but as long as they behave like violent, women-hating men, I’m not buying it.

transgirlaiichiro replied to your post “So, i got into a bit of an awkward argument. I have a toddler, and a child-free by choice friend came to visit and spend time at the park with us. A few parents and kids I see there and am friendly with were also at the park. Anyway, some how some of the parents got on my friend about not wanting children and was basically making her list her reasons for not having kids. I was annoyed and made it clear that this was not cool and we left. My friend was so upset, she was crying. This (1/2)”

cis women you mean

No, all women should be able to make their own choices regarding their bodies. Inc. trans women & non-binary people with partial female identities.

Edit: It has been clarified that she was referring specifically to the part where I was talking about people with vaginas getting a hysterectomy, which I edited into the post in order to not erase trans women. I didn’t want to specify ‘cis women’ because non-binary trans people (who partially identify as female) who have vaginas would be erased by that.

If a trans woman is telling you that a term you’re using is misgendering her and offending her, here’s how you properly argue against her:

  • you don’t
  • you are wrong
  • you are misgendering her
  • stop it

One year anniversary of the murder of Islan Nettles: How long will we wait for justice?
August 17, 2014

Sunday marks one year since 21-year-old Islan Nettles was brutally killed on a street near her home in Harlem. Nettles, an African-American transgender woman, was a design intern at a fashion company. She was beaten to death in the early hours of Aug. 17, in the shadow of the NYPD Housing Bureau’s Service Area 6 .

Yet she — and transgender people around New York City and the world — are still waiting for justice from the NYPD and Manhattan District Attorney. Activity in the investigation, if there has been any, remains shrouded behind a disturbing veil of secrecy.

Nettles had been walking with a group of transgender friends when they came upon a group of young men who subjected them to catcalls and harassment of a type familiar to many women in New York City.

But the catcalling took a violent turn when the men apparently realized that she and her friends were transgender.

Nettles was beaten badly enough that she needed to be hospitalized. At the hospital, she lapsed into a coma. Four days later, she was brain dead. Life support was turned off. She was gone.

While she was in the hospital, the police arrested her alleged assailant. Witnesses reported that he had pushed Nettles to the ground, climbed on top of her and beat her repeatedly while screaming anti-gay and anti-transgender slurs.

Despite this, he was charged only with misdemeanor assault. Of course, Nettles hadn’t yet died at the time of his arrest, and he therefore couldn’t be charged with anything related to her death. But it was still difficult to shake the feeling that the authorities did not take this attack very seriously.

After Nettles died, charges were dropped against this assailant. The expectation was that new charges would be brought against him stemming from her death.

Those never came.

Instead, it appeared that the investigation lost steam. Explanations floated around. The one most commonly heard was that a second man had stepped forward claiming responsibility for killing Islan, but that he was too drunk to remember it clearly.

The various accounts only compound the sense that prosecuting the man who killed Nettles in what is by all appearances a hate crime simply isn’t a priority for the police and district attorney.

In November, the Manhattan DA’s office stated that it was still “aggressively investigating” Nettles’ death.

But the investigation hardly feels aggressive. It’s been a year and there has been little visible effort spent on finding justice.

For the transgender community — scarred by a long and difficult history of violence and an often uneasy relationship with law enforcement — the vacuum of information makes reasonable community members question whether or not resources are truly being directed towards this investigation.

After a year of claims about their commitment to justice, it’s time for officials to become more transparent about their investigation.

Transgender people, and transgender women of color in particular, face harassment and violence on a regular basis. All too often, crimes committed against them go unpunished.

But their lives matter. Islan Nettles’ life mattered. It mattered to her friends, to her family and to her community.

Every day, I work with many transgender women of color like Nettles who astound me with their strength and resilience in the face of widespread discrimination and violence and seeming indifference from authorities.

Transgender people are gaining more visibility, acceptance and legal protection every day. But violence remains a daily part of life. We must demand accountability from law enforcement and an end to anti-transgender violence and discrimination.


Islan Nettles is yet another trans sister whose life will not be forgotten. Demand justice now!

Rally to Honor the Legacy of Islan Nettles
Sunday, August 17th, 2014 3:30 p.m.

Across from the police precinct, 147th street and Frederick Douglas BLVD

  • SYNTHIA-CHINA BLAST DID NOT RAPE EBONY NICOLE WILLIAMS. There was never any evidence to support the allegation that she did, and she was acquitted after witnesses discredited the claim.

  • SYNTHIA-CHINA BLAST DID NOT MURDER EBONY NICOLE WILLIAMS. She had no role in the murder whatsoever - she was called upon to clean up the scene, and could have faced serious repercussions had she not done it.
  • SYNTHIA-CHINA BLAST IS A LIFELONG SURVIVOR OF INCARCERATION. She was first incarcerated when she was 16 years old, and has endured 22 years of sexual abuse, solitary confinement, constant harassment by law enforcement, and deprivation of needed care. By submitting her statement to the Sylvia Rivera Law Project for Laverne to read, she put herself at tremendous personal risk for the sake of speaking out against the violences committed against her and other trans women of color in & out of prison.

Given these facts, what TWEFs are doing here should be obvious. Laverne Cox, and the woman she is giving voice to, are trans women of color taking a stand against the mass incarceration and institutional abuse of trans women of color. TWEFs, due to their dogged loyalty to transmisogyny and white supremacy, are deeply invested in the mass incarceration and institutional abuse of trans women of color. To the end of derailing resistance, they are callously leveraging (a) the death of a young girl, & (b) the discourse that trans women of color are physically and sexually violent, against both Laverne and Synthia. It’s shameful, evil, transparent shit.

Signal boost the shit out of this post, make your own posts to help spread the word, and do your part to actively rebuff & discredit the violent claims being made against these two women. DON’T BE COMPLICIT IN THIS CAMPAIGN AGAINST LAVERNE & SYNTHIA!!! 

Value transgender women:

not just famous ones

or those who are conventionally pretty

or women who are successful

value ALL transgender women

shy women, short women, tall women, girls who no one knows, girls with low self-esteems, activists, gamers, disabled, neuroatypical women, young girls who haven’t yet started physically transitioning or even women who don’t plan or can’t afford to, women who you don’t get along with or those who you call friends or a stranger you just met







Helpful Tagging Information
  • Failing to tag a post as “transmisogyny” and instead only tagging “cissexism/transphobia” when the attack is directed at trans women (ex. use of the t-slur) is an act of erasure and violence.

  • Failing to tag a post as “antiblackness” and instead only tagging “racism” instead of "racism" AND "antiblackness" when the attack is directed at black people (ex. use of the n-slur) is an act of erasure and violence
  • If you tag anything “hispanic” or any variant of that word I will side eye you. I hate that gentrifying word, it’s an attempt to make my people palatable by emphasizing our connection to whiteness. 
  • Transphobia isn’t really as coherent as a concept as cissexism is: the words are basically interchangeable, but I favor the latter, because the violence faced by people who are not trans woman is more based in assumptions that they cannot be what they say they are (cissexism) rather than repulsion (described by transphobia). That repulsion is almost always directed at trans women only, described in transmisogyny.
  • It’s good to tag both cissexism and transphobia, because people blacklist the word transphobia, but when you talk about oppressive structures that ALL trans people face, use the word “cissexism” and when you talk about violence faced by trans women call it “transmisogyny,” because that is what it is.
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Beats by Dre Presents: Powerbeats2 Wireless - Nothing Stops Serena

This is a really cool commercial for Serena; until this one, Richard Sherman had my favorite Beats by Dre commercial. (I track commercials that I like that feature Black girls/Black women.) 

What interests me most about this commercial is Serena’s presentation. Here is an incredibly talented and powerful athlete, just won the 2014 U.S. Open and her skill, her head game, her intellect on the court and her athletic prowess cannot be denied. And because of this skill and the hypervisibility of her body as a dark skinned Black woman, in the context of how misogynoir manifests in both the media and society itself, she is regularly referred to as a “man.” As in, despite her being cisgender, because of anti-Blackness and misogynoir, her womanhood is regularly challenged and denied, in often transmisogynistic ways, similarly to how White “feminist icon” Joan Rivers did to Michelle Obama, who is also cisgender. The “strong Black woman” archetype against Serena and “angry Black woman” archetype against Michelle Obama operates not just as ableist and racist, but specifically misogynoiristic; it’s about denying their womanhood as Black women. This is not a suggestion that cis privilege doesn’t exist for Black women, especially when examining the experiences of cis Black women and Black trans women; it’s complicating the way privilege is discussed with an intersectional perspective versus a linear one shaped by White academic discourse on oppression, which usually co-opts intersectionality in an epistemically violent way to center Whiteness, while simultaneously denying White privilege

Serena is so femme in this commercial and in her appearance in general. Her sculpted eyebrows, her eye shadow, her makeup, her pink tank top, her jewelry, her manicured nails, her hair. All femme presentation. Her body (and her dark skin)—regularly the site which people use deny her womanhood—is one that is powerful and strong but incredibly curvy. And “curvy” is not required to be a woman (nor is femme presentation), but it is interesting how “womanly” it is considered to be when that curvy body is not Black and especially not dark skinned if Black. The athletic appearance of strength in her body becomes a place to deny her womanhood. Strength for women—which in the media is usually typed as the thin cis White woman “kicking ass”—is considered an asset to womanhood and “empowerment" as long as that "empowerment" rests on denying Black women’s womanhood through degradation of our bodies. (Oh and such "empowerment" also rests on denying Black women’s identification as "feminists" since "feminist" and "human" are used interchangeably, as a form of epistemic violence, since White womanhood is automatically considered “feminist” just for existing.)

This does not mean that White women do not experience misogyny and body shaming. What it does mean is that while misogyny is something that all women experience, reclamation for empowerment for women’s bodies usually means reclamation for thin cis White women’s bodies at the cost of Black women’s bodies, fat women’s bodies, disabled women’s bodies, trans women’s bodies (and bodies with many of these identities intersecting) etc. In this case, I look at it through a lens critiquing colourism, anti-Blackness, misogynoir and transmisogyny in regards to Serena and Black women, in general. And because of anti-Blackness and the history of degradation of Black bodies into non-human chattel and still treated as suchBlack women’s bodies require its own conversation.

Serena is 32; I am 35. I have grown up hearing the anti-Black, misogynoiristic, transmisogynistic slander of her body and her appearance. I tire of it. Deeply. Thus, I see this commercial as a celebration of her own interior life (as in, her own thought process, preparation etc. existing independently of the White Gaze’s validation in this commercial), her head game, her skill, her body, her skin, her beauty, her life. I like it a lot. ❤ 


Her racist, transphobic, body-shaming, misogynistic “jokes” did affect people. She was a celebrity and her “joking” not only trivialized those issues, and sent the message that it was okay to say that shit, but she simultaneously gave ammunition (to idiots like yourselves) to say “she was only joking”, “you’re oversensitive”, etc when someone did voice their complaints. Her jokes were punching the already wounded. She was a bully.

And attempts like yours at invalidating and suppressing the objections of those affected by her “jokes” is an act of violence. So ya’ll can just fuck right off.