I hope this isn't rude, I just really don't know... How does an afab person have privilege over an amab person?
Alright, I’ve gotten a bunch of asks about this regarding basically all aspects of it, so lets turn this into a huge learning lesson.
Ready to go? Let’s fucking do this.
Alright so first some basics. Cis = Identifying as the gender assigned at birth. Trans = Not identifying as the gender assigned at birth. Nonbinary, often pushed under the trans umbrella, can also be considered another category all together depending on how the person identifies. Some nonbinary people identify as a nonbinary gender as well as trans, others don’t. It’s important not to group all nonbinary people under the trans umbrella because of this.
ALRIGHT. (A, D, or C)MAB stands for Assigned, Designated, or Coerced (respectively) Male At Birth. I’ll be using the A acronym from now on, but this is important to respect with whichever a person decides fits them best, especially coerced. AMAB basically means that when the person was born, the doctor assigned it the male gender and sex due to sex characteristics the child displayed. AFAB means the same thing, just female.
This is also used by intersex people, but I’m not going to get into that for the sake that I don’t feel I’m educated enough on the matter to help spread education about intersex people and their experiences. I would greatly appreciate it if any intersex people on here would expand on this!
OK! Now into why afab trans and nonbinary people have privilege over amab trans and nonbinary people.
In western society, because please understand I am speaking only for and about western society as that is the only culture I am informed adequately about, it is more acceptable to be masculine than feminine. You can see this everywhere, from sexism to misogyny, displayed blatantly in media and in social media. It’s an old american value that has been challenged for many many years, but the fight is still happening.
On top of that, it is severely looked down upon for an amab person to be feminine in any respect. Whether it be in behavior, presentation, actions, or any thing else, that person would be ridiculed, shunned, and made into the villain and shown as being “immoral and bad.” Here here: Gay men. Stereotyped as feminine, still dealing with being bullied, harassed in all ways, denied rights, and a higher rate of murder against them.
Afab people, on the other hand, can present in more masculine ways and it’s much more accepted, in fact it’s become a norm. Afab people wear pants and other masculine clothing and absolutely nothing is said. If a amab person wears anything remotely feminine they are called out and ridiculed on it. (Of course afab people who are more masculine are subject to the same treatment feminine amab people are, but amab people experience it on a larger scale, especially is they are trans or nonbinary.)
Given that, afab trans and nonbinary people can present basically any way and they are still safer than when an amab person presents femininely.
Personal experience vs. a news story time: First time I presented more masculinely and bound my chest at school, absolutely nothing was said. I wasn’t given a second glance. An amab agender person wore a skirt to school and had their skirt set on fire.
Trans women experience a WAY HIGHER rate of murder and assault. Trans women have less privilege than cis women,
Trans men gain male privilege if they transition.
You know theres a whole HECK of a lot more to be said about this, but I’m going to leave this here. If anyone wants to add more or has something to correct me on, PLEASE DO! I am one person and I’m sure there is a high chance I made a mistake somewhere in here, whether unintentionally or because of ignorance.