anonymous asked:

I hope this isn't rude, I just really don't know... How does an afab person have privilege over an amab person?

Alright, I’ve gotten a bunch of asks about this regarding basically all aspects of it, so lets turn this into a huge learning lesson. 

Ready to go? Let’s fucking do this.

Alright so first some basics. Cis = Identifying as the gender assigned at birth. Trans = Not identifying as the gender assigned at birth. Nonbinary, often pushed under the trans umbrella, can also be considered another category all together depending on how the person identifies. Some nonbinary people identify as a nonbinary gender as well as trans, others don’t. It’s important not to group all nonbinary people under the trans umbrella because of this.

ALRIGHT. (A, D, or C)MAB stands for Assigned, Designated, or Coerced (respectively) Male At Birth. I’ll be using the A acronym from now on, but this is important to respect with whichever a person decides fits them best, especially coerced. AMAB basically means that when the person was born, the doctor assigned it the male gender and sex due to sex characteristics the child displayed. AFAB means the same thing, just female.

This is also used by intersex people, but I’m not going to get into that for the sake that I don’t feel I’m educated enough on the matter to help spread education about intersex people and their experiences. I would greatly appreciate it if any intersex people on here would expand on this!

OK! Now into why afab trans and nonbinary people have privilege over amab trans and nonbinary people.

In western society, because please understand I am speaking only for and about western society as that is the only culture I am informed adequately about, it is more acceptable to be masculine than feminine. You can see this everywhere, from sexism to misogyny, displayed blatantly in media and in social media. It’s an old american value that has been challenged for many many years, but the fight is still happening.

On top of that, it is severely looked down upon for an amab person to be feminine in any respect. Whether it be in behavior, presentation, actions, or any thing else, that person would be ridiculed, shunned, and made into the villain and shown as being “immoral and bad.” Here here: Gay men. Stereotyped as feminine, still dealing with being bullied, harassed in all ways, denied rights, and a higher rate of murder against them.

Afab people, on the other hand, can present in more masculine ways and it’s much more accepted, in fact it’s become a norm. Afab people wear pants and other masculine clothing and absolutely nothing is said. If a amab person wears anything remotely feminine they are called out and ridiculed on it. (Of course afab people who are more masculine are subject to the same treatment feminine amab people are, but amab people experience it on a larger scale, especially is they are trans or nonbinary.)

So!

Given that, afab trans and nonbinary people can present basically any way and they are still safer than when an amab person presents femininely.

Personal experience vs. a news story time: First time I presented more masculinely and bound my chest at school, absolutely nothing was said. I wasn’t given a second glance. An amab agender person wore a skirt to school and had their skirt set on fire.

Trans women experience a WAY HIGHER rate of murder and assault. Trans women have less privilege than cis women, 

Trans men gain male privilege if they transition.

You know theres a whole HECK of a lot more to be said about this, but I’m going to leave this here. If anyone wants to add more or has something to correct me on, PLEASE DO! I am one person and I’m sure there is a high chance I made a mistake somewhere in here, whether unintentionally or because of ignorance.

TRANS ACTRESS SOUGHT FOR LEAD ROLE IN TV SERIES

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Hi everyone! We’re casting, and we are still looking for a lead actress. You do not have to live in Vancouver to be considered! Please circulate.

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The Switch is the world’s first transgender comedy TV show, and it features a dominantly transgender cast. We are shooting Season One in March and April of 2015. We are looking for a lead actress.

Regarding Diversity:
The Switch is shot and set in Vancouver, a cosmopolitan and culturally diverse city. We want Vancouver onscreen to look like Vancouver offscreen. We prefer to see the full range of racial backgrounds, looks, sizes, accents, physical abilities, and levels of experience. We are ready to arrange ASL interpretation and make sets physically accessible.

Shoot dates:
Rehearsal starting early to mid march. Shooting for five weeks in March and April.

Pay:
$3000 CAD plus round-trip air travel, emergency health insurance, billeted housing, the visa application fee, and meals. Contract also includes residual.

The Role:
Su
Female. 23-38*.
Actor must be transgender or genderqueer. Actors of colour are strongly encouraged to apply. Any gender identity, operative status, stage/type of transition, look, size, accent, physical ability and level of experience.

Nerdy, reckless, optimistic, brittle. Sü has been out to herself for years, but moved from the USA to Vancouver Canada to come out as a transgender woman and finally live as a herself. She took a loan and got a comp sci degree. She got a 9 to 5. She got a gym membership. But like Ikea furniture built carefully to instructions, the chair of Sü’s life somehow only has three legs. Getting fired was quite the blow, and it only pointed out that, outside of work, she has a string of dates but no close friends. When Sü moves in with Chris, her new world and friends challenge her old assumptions. As her community is threatened, she can no longer stand idly by: an office climber becomes a community leader.

To apply:
Submit the following to “switchcasting@tremblingvoid.com”
1. A picture of your face, be it a professional headshot or a clear selfie
2. A CV or list of any performance-related skills and experience (but no experience is necessary to apply). 
3. A statement of your relationship to transgender identity or communities (if you’re comfortable sharing this information, it can be as simple as telling us how you identify).

The holidays can be a stressful time for LGBT people or families with LGBT members, but there are several strategies that you can use to help reduce stress and create a happy holiday this year.

If you are bisexual/non-monosexual, trans/gender non-conforming, lesbian, gay or queer …

  • Don’t assume you know how somebody will react to news of your sexual orientation or gender identity — you may be surprised.
  • Realize that your family’s reaction to you may not be because you are LGBT. The hectic holiday pace may cause family members to act differently than they would under less stressful conditions.
  • Remember that “coming out” is a continuous process. You may have to “come out” many times.
  • Don’t wait for your family’s attitude to change to have a special holiday. Recognize that your parents need time to acknowledge and accept that they have a LGBT child. It took you time to come to terms with who you are; now it is your family’s turn.
  • Let your family’s judgments be theirs to work on, as long as they are kind to you.
  • If it is too difficult to be with your family, create your own holiday gathering with friends and loved ones.
  • If you are transgender, be gentle with your family’s pronoun “slips.” Let them know you know how difficult it is.

Before the visit…

  • Make a decision about being “out” to each family member before you visit.
  • If you are partnered, discuss in advance how you will talk about your relationship, or show affection with one another, if you plan to make the visit together.
  • If you bring your partner home, don’t wait until late into the holiday evening to raise the issue of sleeping arrangements. Make plans in advance.
  • Have alternate plans if the situation becomes difficult at home.
  • Find out about local LGBT resources.
  • If you do plan to “come out” to your family over the holidays, have support available, including  PFLAG publications and the number of a local PFLAG chapter.

During the visit…

  • Focus on common interests.
  • Reassure family members that you are still the same person they have always known.
  • If you are partnered, be sensitive to his or her needs as well as your own.
  • Remember to affirm yourself.
  • Realize that you don’t need your family’s approval.
  • Connect with someone else who is LGBT—by phone or in person—who understands what you are going through and will affirm you along the way.

and here is another page with tips from PFLAG USA especially for Families, Friends and Allies

PFLAG, (originally Parents, Families and Friends of Lesbians and Gays), is the United States’ largest organization for parents, families, friends, and allies united with people who are lesbian, gay, bisexual, transgender, and queer.

I’ve done this multiple times before, but I’m getting to the point of being desperate. I have no money/paypal account or way of purchasing a binder, I’ve unsafely binded for years and I have rib problems. I’m in need of a binder, a fairly good one. I can’t take donations because I don’t have paypal or a bank account. If anyone would be willing to give away one of their used binders or even buy me a new one, I’d be endlessly grateful. Message me if you’re able to help, please, and reblog to spread the word to others if you can’t.

anonymous asked:

I am a trans man who knew from my earliest memory that my birth gender was wrong. At puberty, I was shocked when I realized I was attracted to men, not women. Fast forward fifteen years and I still feel wrong and alone for being a trans man who only likes other men and has never felt any desire for women. All the role models I see for trans men came from the lesbian world. I can't relate to men like chaz bono. Are there any gay trans man voices out there?

Zak: The good news is, you’re really really not alone. There are a lot of gay trans men out there. Although he sadly died earlier this year, Matt Kailey was a prominent gay trans male voice in the community. His books, Just Add Hormones and Teeny Weenies among others, addressed his experiences being trans and gay from coming out to dating. There’s a GREAT YouTube collab channel Begin TransMission that is “by and about gay and same gender loving trans men/men of trans experience” and features guys talking about all sorts of topics related to being gay trans men. Gay Trans Guys is also a great Tumblr that posts content related to, well, gay trans guys. As for gay trans male voices or role models, I’m a big fan of Warren (who blogs significantly less these days, but has a lot of old videos still up), Mel, and Kayden. There are many more people out there making videos, writing blogs, etc. about their experiences though. 

You’re also not alone in never identifying as a lesbian and not coming out of the lesbian community. For instance, Adrian (co-mod of AoT) isn’t gay but also never identified as a lesbian and was never part of the lesbian community. While that’s a pretty common path (for instance, that’s my story), there are also plenty of people who don’t fit that narrative. 

I graduated in high heels and it has caused a little controversy in Ireland…but it has allowed me to speak out in the media. 

Wearing High Heels To Make A Stand

Last month, Galway student, Ivan Fahy, caused a stir when he graduated from NUIG in high heels. Campus.ie spoke to Ivan about why he chose to wear heels and the reaction from others.

“I decided to wear high heels to my graduation because if I lived in an ideal world I would. I didn’t want to not wear them because I lived in a judging world so I basically set myself the challenge to do it and I did. If I backed down and didn’t wear my high heels I would know that I succumbed to the restraints of society.”

You can continue reading this story here: http://campus.ie/surviving-college/college-life/%E2%80%9Ci-decided-wear-high-heels-my-graduation-because-if-i-lived-ideal

http://facebook.com/IvanFahyOfficial

No. Neopronouns outside of nounself pronouns are valid and helpful as long as one provides auxiliary pronouns from he/she/they.

Many people find it jarring and dehumanizing when a pronoun used to refer to multiple people or objects is used to refer to themselves. At times, “they” pronouns are also used to bypass having to acknowledge one’s gender orientation or humanity.

People using neopronouns aren’t using them to to sound more androgynous, or to fit some sort of persona/aesthetic. They’re doing it to deal with social discomfort regarding their gender orientation.

While I agree that a human, singular, gender-neutral pronoun set outside of “they” should be established, it hasn’t been established yet. Therefore, we need to respect what people use to cope as of now.

We don’t need it because half of the fucking feminists refuse to see trans-woman as woman and yell if they share their bathroom and see trans-men as traitors.. and the transwoman feminists say trans-men have no idea how hard it is to be trans/be a woman (even tho we’ve lived/been seen as woman most of our lives) and see us as fucking scum.

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