stateofsiege said:

Hi, i hope this q isnt too broad but this is my first year in uni and I'm struggling to study. In highschool i got good grades with lazy/minimal studying but uni is different and I dont know good methods, any thing I do is ineffective. And I get distracted easily so I study at the school library. Basically what I am asking is if you know how I would go about adjusting to uni and study methods I can try? any advice is great for me :-) thank you in advance

I was/am the exact same as you. From what I’ve seen, it seems as though university hits people like us the hardest. The most important thing that you need to do is get over your notion that you can get better grades than your peers with less effort than them and discover this very very very important quality called discipline. It took me far too long to understand this. I was arrogant and my confidence took a huge hit because of this when I started at uni.

You already seem aware of this though, so now you’re in the predicament of “what is studying?? how the hell does one even study??” which I’ve also asked myself. I actually saw a guidance counsellor for help with this, asked my more hardworking friends for advice, and read a bunch of articles and the gist of what I’ve learned is:

  • Work with the material in as many ways as you have time for, usually you should aim for at least 3. The more connections you make with the material, the better your understanding will be. Here’s an example: 1- read Chapters in your textbooks before they’re covered in class, 2- in lecture, relate the material to the text you read and make connections between the two, 3- write a summary of what was covered in lecture, review by rereading your summaries when you can (like once a week)
  • Practice problems and practice exams are your new BFFs!
  • Summaries are the bomb — it helps if you write summaries as if you’re teaching someone else the material; they say the best way to learn is to teach
  • Don’t be afraid to ask questions (that’s what TAs are for!)
  • Prepare to do like 95% of your learning outside of lectures, and to spend hours at the library, you have to learn autonomously now
  • DO NOT try to learn everything right before your exam. Seriously, don’t. Keep up with the class, stay on task — so much is covered in every lecture at uni that falling behind is easy and it’s very difficult to catch up afterwards
  • In course outlines and basically everywhere in uni they say that you’ll have to spend ‘x’ amount of hours or more studying for every 1 hour of lecture… that’s not just a suggestion, trust me! If you’re unsure whether you’re working enough or not, use this advice and make yourself a study schedule. Try to make it a personal rule that you have to study x amount of hours per week.

I’m sorry that I basically wrote you an essay it’s just that I can really relate to this! I feel like I could ramble on about this topic forever

Managing Anxiety: 5 Steps to Open Your Mind and Calm Your Heart: I’ve struggled with anxiety for as long as I can remember. From the time I was very young, I would worry about things—my life, my parents, my house, the state of the world. I would experience a tightness in my chest and an overall sense of fear that only got worse the more I worried. The more I worried, the more afraid I became of the unseen factors that plagued me.

Anxiety is distress, caused by fear of danger or misfortune, and over the years, this worry has driven me. It’s helped me to be high-achieving and extremely productive, all the while depleting my nervous system and creating exhaustion throughout my entire being.

As an adult, I have recognized how this unnecessary fear has limited my ability to enjoy and be fully present within my life. I’ve learned that taking action, or guiding my thoughts down a more positive path, can transform my feelings to a much more grounded and peaceful place. I’ve created my own road map to navigate stress, anxiety, and worry in five steps.

1. Slow your roll: When anxiety hits, everything around us seems to speed up. Physically, we feel our heart rate quicken or breath become shorter; and mentally, we might start to head down a rabbit hole of worst-case scenarios. When this happens, slow down. Shift activities, call a friend, watch a funny YouTube video, go for a run—anything that interrupts the cascade of worry and overwhelm that can create a mountain out of any molehill.

2. Ask yourself: “What is true or what is actually happening right now?” Sometimes, just labeling exactly where you are in time and space (i.e. “I am driving to work.” “I am sitting at my desk.” etc.), helps to refocus the brain and disrupt the physiological response that happens when stressors arise. Focusing on what is actually happening instead of “what if” helps us to minimize our initial reaction of panic and fear to awareness.

3. What do I fear losing if this is true? Because anxiety is driven by fear, it is both empowering and helpful to label where the fear actually stems from. Many times, this can be from a fear of losing something—security, money, friendship, or love. By noting mentally what we are afraid might happen in a given situation, we can easier recognize the worry for what it is, most often, a fear of loss. The next time you feel anxiety coming on, it may be helpful to ask yourself which of these areas you fear losing?

4. Where might I be limiting myself within this belief? As human beings, we have a tendency to focus on what is not going well, limiting our beliefs to those that focus on scarcity or lack. When anxiety is high, it can be much easier to focus on all that is wrong or bad instead of what is working or going well. By simply pausing and recognizing where you might be holding on too tightly or limiting your possibilities, you may notice that the picture is in fact, much bigger than you had originally thought.

5. Could there be a hidden gift or silver lining amidst this situation? We often learn from problems, mistakes, or painful events. Reminding yourself in a moment of panic that you’ve always landed on your feet can help you to see the light at the end of the tunnel. Envisioning yourself on the other side of this stress, lesson in hand, can be enormously helpful in actually getting you there. Sometimes simply re-framing the situation to seek the lesson or hidden positive at the onset of a stressful situation can be useful in diffusing some of the anxiety.

I have learned, through years of exploring and recognizing my own anxiety triggers, how to create a sense of peace and calm even when things seem dire. As human beings, we are capable of creating our experience and have the power to choose whether we lead with fear and anxiety or an open heart and mind. Which do you choose? What experience will you create? I hope this helps you a little like it’s helping me.

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Tips for college freshmen!

5 Things Ruining Your Fat Loss
These 5 Things are Ruining Your Fat Loss!

Fat loss is hard for a lot of people. The last thing anyone needs is more complications when they’re trying as hard as possible to shift some excess fat. 

Here are my 5 top things that are ruining your fat loss, and how to combat them. 

1. Calorie Restriction (Not enough food)

Sometimes in an effort to speed up results, women will continually cut the amount of food they eat, hoping that less food means more fat loss. This is most definitely NOT the truth and, in fact, it can actually make things worse for your body. Get your hands on a well balanced, healthy eating and lifestyle plan and stick to it. Stop changing and cutting calories, this only makes your body play catch up, and more often than not it doesn’t like it. 

2. Too Much Exercise

This is quite similar to calorie restriction, in the sense that when we don’t see the results we want, we think pushing through will just fix that. It is common to think that more calories burnt equals more fat lost, but again this is most definitely NOT the truth in all cases and provides a huge risk of injury and exhaustion. 

To minimise the risk of fatigue and injury, I highly recommend finding a training program that isn’t overly time consuming and fits in with your lifestyle. You don’t always have to workout for a long time to get results, it’s more important you work hard during the workouts. All of my resistance sessions are only 30 minutes and can be done almost anywhere with minimal or even no equipment. This works really well for busy people.

3. Inconsistency

Something that gets said a lot is “you always have to keep your body guessing”. This is a myth. If you have a training program that covers multi-direction movements, resistance, rehabilitation and function as well as a nutrition plan that covers your energy output needs, you are safe. There is no need to keep changing things. You can make things progressively harder, but there is no need to chop and change things all the time. All it does is make your body play catch up, but sometimes it doesn’t catch up in the way that you’d hope. 

For this, my advice is similar to point 2. Choose to train and eat in a realistic way. Don’t be too extreme, because you want to be able to maintain this for life. Training super hard for 6 months is awesome, but it doesn’t mean anything if you don’t train for the following 6 months. So don’t go 200% for a little bit and crash and burn. Cruise through at a rate you can sustain, that’s just enough to get the results you want while maintaining a balanced lifestyle and then slowly but surely push yourself harder and harder. 

4. Time Wasting in the Gym (or when working out)

Now, every woman who has ever been to a gym, has seen that “bro” flexing in the mirror who never breaks a sweat. But in terms of training, sitting there pondering your weekend, scrolling through Facebook or chatting to girlfriends is probably just as bad. Not only because you don’t get things done, but also because you end up being at the gym for way too long and it just wastes your time. 

The easiest ways to avoid this are:

- get good music to keep you focussed and use iTunes to cut out the boring parts 

- if you’re going to train with friends, choose the motivated and serious ones

- time your rest periods

- track your progress and results from each workout using a diary, this way you can compare each time you workout

5. Impatience

There is nothing like the good old “I ate so clean today, why don’t I have a six-pack?” Your body is an amazing machine and really can change in many ways. From being a little baby, growing into an adult, gaining fat, losing fat and to someday reproducing children of your own. But, it is important to understand that nothing great ever happens overnight. So if you’re looking for the best results as fast as possible how do you deal with impatience?

This is how. 

First, you need to educate yourself about the body, and what to expect from the work that you’re putting in. If you expect 5kg to drop off and you “only” lose 1kg you’ll be upset, because you were hoping for more. So it is very important to understand that things work at a certain rate both positively and negatively. Secondly, you need to set realistic goals and stick to them. Once you understand how long things “should” take you can then start to plan for yourself when you’re going to make them happen. Finally, you need to actually do the work. Don’t do half the work and expect all the results. 

Hope these tips help you in your fat loss journey!



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anonymous said:

Just a random tip for UK vegans (maybe other places but I'm not sure) if you are craving something super chocolatey costa coffee do two drinks made with what is basically melted chocolate, 'hot Belgian chocolate' and 'hot Belgian chocolate shot' the first one you have to specify soy milk but the chocolate they make it with is made with soya (accidentally vegan)

That’s so awesome! I love how I’m in the UK and live down the road from a Costa and had no idea. Super stoked now :D Guess we’re going vbasement ^_^

eabianchini said:

I was wondering if you know of any or how to find scholarships for people who tend to be more introverted? I have hardly any community involvement because I just don't like being around people that much & have mild social anxiety. It really seems to be screwing my chances of getting any scholarships since every application I've done has had a section asking for what I've done in my community. My financial aid is out in two years and my schooling won't be done by then. Any help would be great.

The best person to ask about this is an academic adviser at your school. Just send an email if you don’t want to go in person. Give them a little background about yourself and tell them you’re looking for scholarships. They will know better what is available at your school, because it’s different at every school.

There are scholarships that don’t depend on you being an extrovert.

Here are a few school-specific examples: 

  1. A lot of colleges reward good grades with scholarships. I got a few thousand dollars every year for being on the president’s list. 
  2. Departments award scholarships to students for exceptional work in their department. You have to just generally be a good student. Get to know all the professors, do your homework, go to class, etc.
  3. There are scholarships for specific fields of study. For example, there were scholarships specifically for people studying elementary education at my school. 

Here are a few national examples: 

  1. Tall Clubs International Scholarship—If you’re a male 6’ 2” or taller, or a female 5’ 10” or taller, you just may qualify for this $1,000 scholarship. To qualify, you simply need to write an essay entitled “What Being Tall Means to Me.”
  2. Scholar Athlete Milk Mustache of the Year (SAMMY) Award—This $7,500 scholarship, free trip to Disney World and spot in a Milk Mustache ad are available to 25 student-athlete high school seniors with 3.20 GPAs who participate in school or club sports.
  3. Sophie Major Memorial Duck Calling Contest—If you love ducks season you may be eligible for $2,000 in scholarships. So get your favorite duck call and get prepared to win some money!

You can also get scholarships for your ethnic background, military affiliation, religious affiliation, special conditions, and disabilities. (Keep in mind that anxiety is considered a disability by many.)

abc Berlin – Berlin Art Week 2014: Part 1

It is mid September again and as the international art world descends upon Berlin for the annual Berlin Art Week. For abc – art berlin contemporary art fair, 111 participating galleries from around the world commence installing their booths. Aside from the official fair program many of Berlin’s galleries are opening their doors for extended viewing hours with some of their best shows of the year.

Even the most dedicated art lovers will agree, there is no shortage of contemporary art in Berlin this week. To help negotiate the art crowd chaos FvF have curated a shortlist of some of the best openings and events to attend.

On Wednesday the 17th of September Sprüth Magers will open a solo exhibition by art world heavyweight Thomas Demand at 6pm in Mitte. Not far away on Linienstr. also from 6pm, Neugerriemschneider will present a solo exhibition by acclaimed Chinese political artist Ai Weiwei. Within the Museums Island, Galerie Neu will also present a new exhibition by the multi-disciplinary artist Marc Camille Chaimowicz.

We also suggest heading over to Chert gallery on Skalitzerstr in Kreuzberg for their exhibition opening with German artist Heike Kabisch and Alexander Levy’s solo presentation of Spanish artist Vicky Uslé. On Thursday evening we of course recommend heading to abc for its official opening from 4pm until 9pm.