I’ve talked a bit about the Stilinski family dysfunction lately and it’s a clear pattern of
- They both love each other
- they don’t talk, are crap at communiction
- the sheriff doesn’t really understand stiles
- stiles has a huge amount of guilt that stems from the loss of his mother and that has lead him into a pattern of trying to take care of his dad, probably to a) make sure he doesn’t loose him too and b) to make up for whatever he feels guilty about in regards to his mother
- the sheriff is frustrated with the supernatural elements something that i think i hindering stiles in coming to terms with his spark, and subsequently also his sexuality due to previous harsh comments made by his dad (that i don’t think is meant as homophobic)
- the sheriff clearly doesn’t trust stiles and it shows. this hurts stiles more than he’s letting on and often leads to further spirals of lies.
You can read more about this here and here
I’ve mostly talked about things from Stiles’ perspective, so let’s look at it from the sheriff’s point of view as well.
What we have to remember is that we see the story of the shitstorms of Beacon Hills unfolding from the perspective of Stiles. We have all the same information he has and as a result we know why he does a lot of the things he does, even the morally grey, the lying and the downright illegal. And even if his dad is now in the know about the supernatural elements in town, i doubt he’s been apprised of all the shit that has gone down.
And Stiles has taken the blame and the hit for a lot of the stuff going on. The sheriff’s been finding Stiles at crime scenes, he’s stolen a police van, he got a restraining order against him that ultimately lead to the sheriff temporarily loosing his job. Sure, he got it back, but i do think he must have gotten a lot of grief for that and his reputation probably suffered as well. Stiles has lied to him a number of occasions, he’s found him at the scene after Isaac escaped jail, he was Lydia’s date when she was bitten, he’s been hanging around Derek and admitted to it back when he was still a fugitive from the law. He also snoops on his dad’s records, listens in on his converstations and sticks his nose in where he shouldn’t.
So the sheriff does have legitimate reason to distrust Stiles because he’s been systematically and delibartely lying to him about the supernatural since Scott was bitten.
And frankly we don’t know much about how Stiles was before all of this but we do have little hints that tells us he was a handful, and that the Sheriff thought (probably rightly so) that Stiles was the mastermind behind it all and that he drags Scott with him.
Just look at these faces - they both look resigned and yet not all that surprised to be in the back of the sheriff’s police car. Clearly not the first time.
And the conversations between stiles and his dad from season 1 that are quite amusing, is on a second or third viewing and with focus on the sheriff probably born more out of frustration and the fact that stiles has a pattern of creative definitions and white lies.
Sheriff: What the hell do you think you’re doing?
Stiles: I’m just trying to help.
Sheriff: Okay, well, how ‘bout you help me understand exactly how you came across this.
Stiles: We were looking for Scott’s inhaler.
Sheriff: Which he dropped when?
Stiles: The other night.
Sheriff: The other night when you were out here looking for the first half of the body.
Sheriff: The night that you told me you were alone and Scott was at home.
Stiles: Yes. No. Oh, crap.
Sheriff: So you lied to me.
Stiles: That depends on how you define lying.
Sheriff: Well, I define it as not telling the truth. How do you define it? Stiles: Mm, reclining your body in a horizontal position?
Sheriff: Get the hell out of here.
The sheriff has a very clear set of rules for what defines lying: Not telling the truth. Stiles has a creative definition, which speaks volumes about him and his willingness to bend the truth.
And also notice that he’s lying to protect scott. A pattern that has continued throughout the series. And i think much of the lying he’s done in the past has also been to protect Scott. Because that is what Stiles does. The ones he cares about he protects. His loyalties are admirable, but it’s costing him dearly and the price is his dad’s trust.
Agent McCall: You believe this?
Sheriff: To be honest, I haven’t believed a word Stiles has said since he learned how to speak.
It’s said somewhat jokingly but the camera takes time to show us Stiles’ reaction to his dad’s words and he’s usually very good at playing things off as a joke. But this isn’t really all that funny tbh.
And a thing just occured to me. What if all the things the sheriff hasn’t believed out of stiles mouth since he was a little kid, is actually true? What if he does have a kind of third eye thing going on, and he’s been telling incredible stories that people like his dad has assumed are just made up nonsense and lies? We’ve had many examples of stiles instantly take a dislike to people like Matt, Harris, Deaton, the twins etc. And he has uncanny intuition sometimes. For most people this will seem like either lunatic ramblings or flat out lies. Because he doesn’t have anything to back it up. Until much later, but by then most people have forgotten all about it, as evidence of this conversation with scott
Scott: Well, what if it’s somebody else from school? Like, you remember Matt? We didn’t know that he was killing people.
Stiles: Excuse me? I’m sorry, what? I yes, we did. I called that from day one, actually.
Scott: Yeah, but we never really seriously thought that it was Matt.
Stiles: I was serious. I was quite serious, actually. Deadly serious. No one listened to me.
The sad part is Stiles is right, no one really listens to him. And he’s sort of put himself in that position. Because his lies have made his dad distrust him, and his crazy ramblings have probably made Scott disregard most as just weird antics. But what if he’s been right all along?
How long will stiles last before he either resigns completely or blows up at them. We’ve been talking about a schism between stiles and scott and frankly i’m starting to think the worst schism of all might be between father and son…
I hope this helps putting the sheriff’s position into perspective. It’s not meant to give him a free pass because i genuinely think the stilinski men both need to sit down and talk things out, because there are a lot of misunderstandings and flat out wrong assumptions happening in their relationship. Stiles needs to stop lying and tell his dad everything, and the sheriff needs to make an effort to understand stiles better.
And as a mom i can tell you that us parents want nothing else but the best for our kids and want to protect them as best we can. and at the bottom of it all i do think that is what the sheriff is trying to do. Scott, Derek and Lydia are all clearly supernatural and they can’t help being part of the supernatural shenanigans that happens, and the sheriff understands and respects that. And that is why i think he’s ready to accept their help and them being involved. But in his eyes Stiles doesn’t need to be involved because he’s just human and can step back. Which goes to show that he really doesn’t know his son as well as he might think he does.
But at the end of the day, although i think both mean well and love each other, they do continue their dance of miscommunication and misundestandings that frankly is hurting both of them. But like i said - it’s easier for us to sympathize with Stiles because we see and understand his actions and reasoning, but his dad does not have the whole picture. And the result is distrust. And a trust in Scott that i frankly don’t think he deserves, but stiles seem to have resigned himself to and also use at times. and that is just sad.