talking-matters

tbh im getting kinda mad at all the drama w the ship rn
-it is ok if u feel uncomfortable w a ship bc od an age gap
-it is NOT ok if u call the shippers trash and spread hate in the tag
And as for the shippers
-it is ok if someone does not like your ship for a silly reason
-it is NOT ok for you to send them messages and harass them over it

also, flaming arrow doesnt really count as pedophilia, seeing as
a) in canon there is no relationship, romantic nor sexual bw them.
b) pedophilia is a disorder where an adult experiences attraction to a child of typically 11 and below or sometimes 13 and below
c) age gaps like 3 yrs bw a minor and an 18 yr old are ok as long as they dont engage in any sexual activity.
d) there are so many couples w age gaps. So many.
e) p fuckin sure that most people who write smut of the fic have the characters aged up. In fact, all smut ive read has a disclaimer saying it was written at least 3 or 4 yrs in the future

Also u dont call out maggie/gil for being pedophilic, and thats a ship where a character has a crush on the other in canon

don’t tell someone that they talk too much, no matter how annoying it is, because once you say something like that, they will never want to talk again.

anonymous asked:

hello how do i cope with the Awful Thing that is dick and babs' breakup because honestly i liked devin grayson up until now and i don't know what to do

Devin Grayson’s writing of Nightwing was very damaging for the character - and included a whole lot of OOC moments both for Dick himself, and Barbara, since we’re talking about the matter. Their relationship began as they slowly overcame several issues that they had and Grayson went and took all of that down. The breakup made no sense; up ‘til Grayson picked the book Dick was never written off as a womanizer and he took all of his relationships seriously, and Babs isn’t an overly jealous woman. So, it was all sorts of messed up. 

So, how to overcome it: Despite everything, they remained very close friends and still trusted each other. With time the rift was repaired - even if there was always an air of “what if” hanging around. They slowly began to flirt with each other, and while never romantically involved again you could see just how comfortable they felt with one another. Sadly, the reboot happened, otherwise (and this is a personal opinion really) they would’ve probably wound up getting together again (see Batgirl vol. 3 and The Black Mirror, or even Nightwing #153).

Luckily for you my friend (and for the shippers really), Convergence: Nightwing\Oracle #1 (coming out in April) states that they have become romantically involved again, so it’s a matter of seeing how that issue will play out!

you know this is probably weidd or smth but i have like. some kinda personal thing against the term respect

like. idk a lot of times in my life being respectful boiled down to ‘just sit down take whatever we throw at you without complaint’ or things like. the person could abuse me relentlessly and repeatedly but of course you still cant be disrespectful! ! !  ! and then on top of that i couldnt move around or doodle or stim when people are talking or whatever no matter how much i needed to. my tics were always disrespectful too. falling asleep was disrespectful as well, even when its not something i can control. way i think an d speak and act due to the combination of all the brainstuff ive got going on would make me appear disrespectful even when i was tryi ng my hardest to appear otherwise

theres certainly? idk like? there are def ways you should be respectful to people. but the word disrespectful or respect always rubs me the wrong way because im so used to it being used agains tme and the way i work

i’m honestly one of those people that are just there like yeah i have friends and people talk to me but i’m nobody’s favorite person and nobody looks forward to talking to me everyday or anything and it sucks

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I cherish every single little moment shared between Cas and Bobby because they are precious and they mean something. It’s just beautiful how Angel of The Lord Castiel - a millenar being of unfathomable strength - leans on Bobby and the way the old hunter holds him firmly in his arms, or how Bobby rests a hand on Cas’s shoulder in an unspoken ‘take it easy there, you’re not all charged up yet’ and asks how bad it hurts, or the way he hesitates to leave Cas alone with a monster even though it is completely bound - hell, even the way he shouts at Cas like a parent sick of their kid’s bullshit. This man, son of an abusive father who had to shoot the love of his life twice, this broken old drunk whose very soul Castiel touched so he could see all the pain and self-loathing but also all the love and protectiveness over his surrogate sons burning fiercely within, this one man and his humanity managed to be, through the most sincere gestures, more of a fatherly figure to Castiel than God himself. So yeah, maybe they never got the chance to bond as strongly as they could have, but nobody’s wrong to say Bobby is about the closest thing Cas ever had to a father, too.

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no you don’t understand 

their friendship is so important to me (ಥ⌣ಥ)

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"Met One Direction.

I haven’t been in this fandom long enough to be meeting them and I feel bad for the fans that have been in this fandom longer actually.

But when we met them Harry goes “How are you ladies today?” because it was me, Zizzy, Squishi, Mariah, Lynn, and Leche. Louis points to me and goes “That one’s not a lady.”

Congratulations Louis. First person that’s actually caught that upon meeting me.

He did however make sure to ask if I identified as one, which I thought was really sweet of him to be concerned about offending me or anyone else for that matter like that, and I assured him that I do in fact identify as male. That made my day though. Well done, Louis.” [x x x]

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It’s beautiful. Life is beautiful. Life is challenging and throws many fucking obstacles at you, but it is beautiful. Never forget that.

Race matters. Race matters in part because of the long history of racial minorities’ being denied access to the political process.

Race matters to a young man’s view of society when he spends his teenage years watching others tense up as he passes, no matter what neighborhood he grew up. Race matters to a young woman’s sense of self when she states her hometown, and then is pressed, ‘No, where are you really from?’

The way to stop discrimination on the basis of race is to speak openly and candidly on the subject of race, and to apply the Constitution with eyes open to the unfortunate effects of centuries of racial discrimination.