BRO I GOT SOME COMPLEX FEELINGS ON DIRKJAKE BECAUSE OF A POST ABOUT IT BEING ABUSIVE AND I DONT KNOW WHAT TO FEEL???????????
ahh this is such an old topic, personally I give the word “abuse” a much heavier meaning, anyway some people see it as abusive because of the way they treated each other (most of it due to the fact they avoided talking about pretty much all their problems) and because Dirk’s attitude made it looking like Jake wasn’t free to leave him, and then when Dirk broke up with him he ended up putting all the blame on Jake (even tho he was very aware it was also his own fault)
so there’s no denying they had a lot of problems, but they also acknowledged them, just not to each other, and if they learn from their mistakes I think they could still make it work in case they decide to try again
anyway back to the point I don’t think you have to stop shipping something just because the ship itself has had some bad sides, like you can be aware of those sides but there’s no need to make them the main focus all the time!
some people just seem to see this ship always in a negative light because they think by shipping it one supports or justifies the things they did wrong, we (I) don’t, personally most of the times I draw them I just imagine them 1. either in a no-sburb setting where maybe they didn’t grow up so socially awkward and never had that many problems to start with or 2. post-game setting, assuming they did manage fixing their problems in the meantime
I think you can still enjoy the characters and the ship either way if you focus on the good aspects rather than the bad ones!