what really irks me when i talk to someone about my problems is when they start to patronize me and think that they’re giving me “advice”. no, i’d just really like it if you would listen and not talk to me like i don’t know anything or don’t have any common sense. if you can’t find the right words to say, that’s fine. you don’t have to say anything. otherwise, you’re just making it hard for me to confide in you even though i really would like to trust you with my thoughts.