I've been going through a lot lately and feeling really stressed out and cant stop crying. How do i get my mind off of things to be happy again
I’m a list person. No matter what I’m going through, I journal about it. Loads of times when I’m feeling off center due to stress, I tend to not rationalize my emotions and I shut down. Writing it all out helps me organize and be like “ Alright, this may not be ideal, but it’s what’s happening. I set it up like this: Problem: ___ Can I fix it: ___ Estimated Time:___ Then I look at all the things that can be taken care of right away and use them as distractions for the bigger issues. Then, even when you feel like you’re on top of shit mountain ready to lose your marbles, you’ll be taking some of the weight out from under you by finishing the things that are able to be taken care of, so then you can focus on the things that may take a little longer to get through.
Also, when you’re under immense pressure it’s easy to lose sight of all the good you have in your life. After figuring out your “plan” and make sense of your troubles - go ahead and make another list of things that make you happy.
Lastly, surround yourself with people that make you feel good and let them in on what you’re going through. Feeling like you have support, and not feeling alone, can make a 100% difference. <3
Be Prepared: Defense Against Terror, Hoodlums, & Disasters
If there is one motto inscribed on the marble lintel at the entrance of the temple of conservative thought, it is this: “wishing does not make it so.”
The police usually don’t break down the door in the nick of time and prevent a school teacher from being raped in a home invasion. Most of the time, the police are there to draw a chalk outline around the body and start to figure out who did it and how to find them.
Being prepared means facing that reality despite our wishful thinking and understanding that the only person responsible for ourselves is ourselves.
Do you have any advice to get back on the wagon? I'm in a really bad place right now, emotionally, and I keep binge eating as a result of that. Especially during the weekend. I currently can't change anything about the stress factors in my life, but I would like to get a grip on things instead of waiting (and eating) until those stress factors get resolved. I just feel so close to giving up entirely.
Oh my gosh, anon, I’ve been in this position many times in my life, and I honestly still don’t know what the trick is for getting back on the wagon after falling off. It’s seriously extremely hard, but it is doable, so please don’t give up!
There are some motivational ideas on THIS PAGE which you might find helpful.
If you know what the triggers are for your binge eating, I would urge you to try and change things so that you don’t encounter them as often. I don’t know your exact circumstance, but if it’s worse on the weekends, can you make some changes that would lessen the stress during that time? Like, maybe go for a run or to the gym or for a walk or a bike ride or a yoga class or just get OUT of the place where the stress is for a while?
This will do three things: Exercise will increase your serotonin, a feel good hormone which helps you manage stress; it will burn calories instead of adding more to your body, and it will get you away from the stress that is triggering you to overeat.
I would say, if you can’t change the situation, try to spend the least amount of time in it as you can. I don’t know the situation, but, I want to also encourage you to try to think of creative ways you MIGHT be able to change it now. Sometimes, we get in our mind that we are trapped, and we stop looking for ways out. Keep looking for a way to change it. Let your mind run wild and consider everything from joining the circus or the Peace Corps, to taking a job in another state to going and visiting relatives for the summer. Just let your mind ramble. Most of the ideas won’t work, of course, but if you give your mind some free rein to explore options, you might find one.
Also, maybe consider trying mediation to help reduce your stress. You can find guided meditations for free on youtube. Give it a fair chance … 10-15 minutes a day for a couple of weeks. Try different ones to find one that helps you the most.
I hope you can find a way to lessen your stress and find your inner strength to put yourself, your health, your well-being FIRST, because you are worth it, you deserve to feel good, strong, and healthy. You are worthy.
Eating the right food is
important for a healthy, happy and prosperous lifestyle.
If you want to begin eating
healthy, it might be an over-whelming decision as to where to begin and who knows what does what! BUT… all you really need
to do is look at what body part it resembles
Here is a list of foods that
resemble what body parts they are good for
Carrot - Eye
Slice a carrot in half crosswise and voila - if you look close enough you can notice the pattern that
resembles the pupil and the iris. So if you want to improve your eyesight…
munch on those carrots. They contain vitamins, and antioxidants such as beta-
carotene so your eyes stay at the top of their game!
Ginger – Stomach
Ginger is known to help nausea and
relax the stomach. It contains Gingerol – an ingredient listed in the USDA
database of phytochemicals as having the ability to prevent nausea and vomiting
but that’s not all… It also aids in digestion. So if you want to keep things in
your stomach “flowing” make ginger a must in your diet
Celery - Bone
Celery resembles bones! Bones are 23% sodium and so is
celery – this connection cannot just be a mere coincidence…
Celery also contains silicon which is part of the molecular structure
that gives bones strength
Grapes – Lungs
Grapes resemble the alveoli of the lungs. Eating grapes,
especially heirloom concord grapes have shown to reduce the risk of lung
cancer. The seeds in grapes are also good for you as they contain a chemical (proanthocyanidin)
that reduces allergies and asthma.
Avocados – Uterus
The avocados support reproductive health. They contain folic
acid and have the ability to not only balance hormones but also prevent
cervical cancer. Did you know that it takes 9 months for an avocado to grow
fully? - Which is the exact same time as it takes for a baby to develop inside
Sweet Potato –
The sweet potato is shaped almost exactly as the pancreases.
Sweet potatoes are high in beta-carotene which is a potent antioxidant and
protects all tissues in our body. Sweet potatoes also prevent aging and fight
Tomato – Heart
Tomatoes have many chambers that resemble the structure of
the heart. Since tomatoes have lots of lycopene, they help reduce risk for
heart disease and help with blood flow. They also contain loads of vitamin C,
and that is crucial for a healthy heart.
Walnut – Brain
The resemblance is just striking! The walnut is known as the
one of the ultimate brain foods as they are an excellent source of omega 3,
antioxidants, folic acid and vitamin E.