Erasing INTJ Stereotypes
I am an INTJ, and trust me, I am aware of the many stereotypes floating around on the internet. These stereotypes had at one time made me believe I was an ISFJ/INFJ. Therefore, I figured it’d be good for some INTJs who may be confused like I was to have a better reference point. I don’t mind being that reference point, as I’m very certain of my type.
Stereotype: INTJs are assholes.
One of the reasons I had once mistyped as an ISFJ/INFJ is because of the sociopathic, asshole symbols often associated with INTJs (Lex Luthor, Hannibal Lecter, Jay Z, haha Jay Z etc.) Most decent human beings would find figures such as these hard to stomach in relationship to themselves. Considering I’m actually a pretty nice guy, so did I. Talking as an INTJ, the big surprise is I’m not evil, strictly cold, nor callous. I can be incredibly altruistic, and am passionate for the causes I stand for.
First of all, everyone who knows me is aware that I would die for my loved ones. When I think of disease and death, I always hope that it takes me instead of the ones I am closest to because it’d be so much harder to bare otherwise. When my soon-be-wife is in need, it takes me but seconds to come to her side. I am also sorry to hear that so many “INTJs think hugs are ew or whatever,” because I am not above showing affection. I actually do very much enjoy cuddling my fiancé into submission. Hell, I’ll even write her a romantic letter to express how much she means to me when the moment arises.
And yes, I’m nice to people outside of my inner circle as well (although I must admit the larger chunk of my heart.) I was an English teacher, for Christ’s sake. I’m also moving into an administration position next year that affects the lives of children. Furthermore, I will help a stranger if they need help. In fact, I have stopped my car numerous times after a person has run over an animal and have saved some by calling the ASPCA in time. Bad people upset me just as much as the next person, let’s say, so I’m not one of them.
Stereotype: INTJs have shallow emotions.
For better or for worse, I am deeply emotional. It is not always the easiest for me to explain how deeply I feel for the people I choose to have in my life, but I do everything in my power to make them happy. Whatever they wish, I try my best to grant. Every dream they have becomes mine, and I work towards their goals as actively as I work towards my own.
While shameful to admit sometimes, it is also relatively easy to hurt me. Do not get me wrong; constructive criticism is always useful from colleagues and peers. Those things never falter me, as I accept the truths and filter out the useless comments. But if a person I care about says something to intentionally hurt me, then in moments I am hiding back tears. I react similarly when the right person says something sweet to me that strikes a chord.
Something else I have to note is that if you mess with my loved ones in front of me, you will be sorry.
Stereotype: INTJs do not understand what you’re feeling.
It is the Fe types who get all of the credit for understanding other peoples’ emotions. Well, INTJs can have a pretty good idea as well. I am a very good judge of character, and if I’m in a healthy mindset, I have a pretty good idea of whom I am dealing with within seconds of meeting you. So if you’re upset after a few conversations, I can basically read it off of your forehead. If I’m close enough to you, I care about that, and I have a good idea of what is wrong.
Stereotype: INTJs are always mathematical geniuses.
I was English teacher, and am going into an administration position this upcoming year. My fiancée handles our budget. Repeat: I was an ‘English’ teacher. Studied English. Not mathematics.
Stereotype: INTJs have no regard for humanity, and would be willing to do ‘twisted things’ for their end goal.
As a Fi user, I have a strict moral code. I am not willing to intentionally hurt another human being to gain what I have set out for, and what I have set out for is pretty noble: a wife, a career as an administrator in a school system. Not conquering the world.