put aside for a minute that tyga is a rapper from california’s suburbs who struggles to pass for a hard-spitting, gang-affiliated MC. and let’s also, just for the heck of it, cast aside the fact that he procreated with a former stripper who rocks dimple piercings, wears blond wigs and hangs out with kim kardashian for reality tv. forget about all that for a moment if you can, and realize that he is a black man. that alone revokes his right to speak on the state of black women and our role models.
maybe to stir controversy or just to annoy me for the day, tyga graced vibe’s latest digital issue and decided to spew venom about black women:
"Also, what I realized is black women don’t have a lot of role models as far as other black women. On some real sh-t, there’s black women that don’t look up to Oprah or Michelle Obama, because they’re looking at Instagram, they’re looking at VH1. I think that’s what the real problem is. It’s no real black [female] role models. As a black man, we have a lot of role models. Like looking at Diddy, Russell Simmons, Jay Z, Kanye, Tupac, those are people we can super relate to, so it’s easier for men. I think life is just about being happy now. But you gotta’ really know what’s going on and that’s really what’s going on. Like black women man, it’s sad right now.
yep. this same man who calls himself “the last king” fixed his lips to reduce all of the role model-worthy black women of the world to two: oprah and FLOTUS. or better yet, say we had none. and while, yes, these two women are black excellence personified, how dare he suggest there’s less than a handful of women that i can strive to be like?
granted, these days social media is all instagram honeys and reality show ex-wives, but honestly, women are way more beautifully complex, hilariously layered and intelligent than that. there’s a dozen laundry lists of black female CEOs, designer, media moguls, writers, athletes, doctors, architects, politicians and women not shaking their non-god-given assets for #selfies for women like myself, my friends and my future children to look up to.
i’d be naive if i didn’t mention that, yes, some young black girls are lost in the thrill of making money off their bodies or selling their souls for spousal support, but that doesn’t give tyga (of all people in the universe!) the agency to reduce the talented, educated and self-aware role models to only two names and two fields. (i mean, he didn’t even mention beyoncé, smh.)
but of course, how can he see how amazing black women are? he’s been tied up with his rumored boo, 17-year-old kylie jenner, no?
See the thing about Kylie… I’ve known Kylie and the whole family for four years. I introduced Chyna to Kim about a year ago. So everybody’s been cool, but like it’s just so hard, their world is different. If somebody wanna hang out, cool, I’m not opposed to hanging out with somebody. I hang out with her [Kylie], her sister [Kendall], I hang out with Scott [Disick] sometimes, I hang out with Khloe sometimes. But people wanna take the situation [with Kylie] to the next level.
there’s a myriad of bigger issues at hand here, like black men publicly bashing us, black men turning to non-black women (or a watered down version of black women) for validation, and even their attempt to speak for us, not for us.
those horses have been beaten to death though, so i’ll end with this:
dear ex-YMCMB rapper, there’s no country for you to speak on who i consider a role model. just because you play for our team does not mean you’ll ever understand what it takes to be inspired or motivated as a woman.
oh, and a word of advice? a true king never speaks ill of his queens.