Part of my aim, in terms of the work I do, is to show how some of the things we take for granted in society—for example, pornography, sexual objectification, prostitution, the idea that women must be attractive in order to be valued—are harmful to women, both as individuals and as a class. Many women already understand this, having been subjected to things like street harassment, having internalized the body-hatred inflicted on them by society, or having perhaps been pressured by their boyfriends to watch pornography with them. Certainly the fear of aging or of being perceived as unattractive tells women a lot about our worth …
Because men don’t experience these things, I just don’t think they think about it very much. They don’t understand how something like porn-use, which is so common and so normalized for men and boys these days, could possibly be harmful. They don’t understand how objectification translates to violence. Men need to be educated and they need to essentially unlearn masculinity in order for women to truly be free from violence, sexism, and misogyny.
If this movement is to succeed, men need to change their behavior. They need to start seeing women as more than pretty objects or things that exist to provide sexual pleasure. I realize that some will disagree with me but I do believe in men’s humanity and I do believe that men can change. And with that belief in mind, I feel that male allies are important to our movement.”