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We’re so close to hitting that first thousand!  We’re at $721 with 34 days until surgery and 41 days until the campaign ends.

Let’s bring that 10% to 100%!

I’m also thinking of doing something fun/wild/spontaneous for you all at every $1,000 mark. :)

-S

I wrote this before she came back, but I would have told you before that even if she had ever let you touch her, you’d just be getting your unworthy fingerprints on a glass window through which you looked at a woman who loves me.
—  Ashley Wylde
Misgendering in the Service Industry

Yesterday I went out to a very well know restaurant with a few friends.  When it was time for the waiter to take our order they said, “We’ll start with ladies first”.  I was sitting at a table with 3 visibly cis-men, and this is how the encounter played out.

Waiter: We’ll start with ladies first

Me: *looks over shoulder*

Me: *looks around the table*

Me: *looks down at menu*

Me: *looks around the table again*

Me: Oh.. um.. *proceeds to order*

Needless to say it was a pretty uncomfortable situation for me, and made my confidence in my current gender expression drop severely.  The waiter was in no way addressing me in that way with ill intention.  I do, however, think that this is something that people should be aware of.  If you work in the service industry I urge you to be mindful of not assuming a persons gender.  Although they may present or express in a way that you believe is specific to a certain gender they may not identify as such.  Take cues from the person or the other people at the table.  A safe thing to do is to just keep it neutral when you are addressing costumers.  Once again, the waiter had no ill intentions when addressing our table.  That being said, that does not excuse the fact that they made a customer feel uncomfortable.  I’m hoping that other people who work in the service industry will see this post and rethink how they address their costumers.

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I don’t think people really understand how much their actions affect other people. When someone turns themselves over to you emotionally it’s an extremely intimate thing. To just throw something like that away without even a word to the other person is careless and cruel. You may be going through your own personal battles but that doesn’t mean you should make someone else go through pain. You don’t know what they’re already struggling with or what kind of insecurities they may have. Doing something like that could reck them. Be responsible for yourself and the people you choose to let into your life. Communication is key, silence is deadly.

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This is a video that three other Orientation Coordinators and I made for our College.  SPREAD IT AROUND!! I edited the video, played the part of the “musician” and all of the Panther parts except for the one walking into the van, and a small clip with the arm choreo in the van (pretty much when you can see the Panthers white arms lol)

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MY WHOLE WORLD JUST CHANGED!!!

When people comment under people’s posts adding “all lives matter” I feel as though it’s like showing up to the Pride Parade and asking why there isn’t a Straight Pride Parade or showing up to a Black History Month event and talking about how there should be a White History Month too…

Yes all people are important.  Yes all lives matter.  

Right now people are being specific for very, or seemingly, obvious reasons.  All lives DO matter but right now we’re talking about the black ones.  Don’t take away from or invalidate that.