seeing posts like ‘I’m bisexual and I don’t think biphobia/monosexism exists (because I haven’t experienced it)’ really make me so upset.
i find them so thoughtless and offensive and ignorant and damaging. like. so many of your bisexual peers are speaking out about their experiences, there is SO much out there and yet even in the bisexual community there’s so much erasure it’s horrifying. ‘i’m bisexual’ is not justification to be biphobic! it’s not a get out of jail free card. being bisexual is a constant process of catching and changing internalized hatred we’ve been indoctrinated with all our lives and inevitably continue to be.
i understand it must be strange and somewhat disconnecting at times to have a large part of your community experience something you don’t. i’m jewish and for 8 years of my life i went to an all jewish school, lived in a virtually all jewish community and in that time experienced very little anti-semitism firsthand. but never once did i think that anti-semitism didn’t exist?? i was perfectly aware that there was still an outside world in which more obvious displays of anti-semitism showed, and also aware that even in my own homogenous community we still felt the pressures of political, societal and historical discrimination against us.
being bisexual means respecting, believing, supporting and promoting the voices of other bisexuals in the community who have had a harder time than you. i consider taking biphobic treatment for granted and seeing it as normal as part of something very nasty society has done everything in its power to internalize within us. it’s easier to make us keep ourselves down than to actively work against us— either way the results are toxic. we must fight against it by starting to look within ourselves. we have no other choice.