anonymous said:

Where do babies come from?

Well, when two people love each other very, very much…

…they call the ISBDS (International Stork Baby Delivery Service), pick one (or more) out from a catalogue, and have it shipped over. But the ISBDS get so many orders each day that they’re quite backed up, so it tends to take around nine months for the order to be processed and delivered.

nostalgic-hermit said:

Hello Sara. I hope things are well. :) I really think you are someone kind, smart, and sensible (not to mention awesome!). May I ask for a piece of advise? How do you tell someone that you don't want something romantic with them without hurting them

and without them hating you or ruining the friendship? I have this workmate who was hitting on me and all the time I was just indifferent because I don’t want to lead him on but I also don’t want him to stop liking me. I just want us to be friends. How do I break the “bad news” to him without him hating me or him getting hurt? Sorry for the bother. I’ll wait for your reply though. I love you and stay awesome and beautiful! You inspire us.

Hello! First of all, thank you so much for the compliments! You’re very kind. As for your situation, I want you to know that you have done absolutely nothing wrong. You are well within your rights to desire a friendship with someone and nothing more.

But the fact is, rejection sucks, no matter how prettily you wrap it up. Rejection will hurt him a bit, but that’s just life. Nothing you can do to avoid it completely, and everybody faces rejection sometimes.

If this guy is a decent human being, he’ll respect your wishes and leave it at that. Hopefully he’ll be okay with keeping the relationship platonic and just being friends, but there’s also a possibility that’s not what he’s interested in and he may cut ties completely. There’s nothing you can do about that, and neither of you would be at fault in that situation.

I also want to state in the clearest terms possible that being friendly or being a friend to someone who is romantically/sexually interested in you IS NOT LEADING THEM ON. 

If you desire friendship with someone, being friendly to them is clearly stating your intentions. Being friendly to someone does not constitute flirting, nor does it necessarily mean you’re romantically or sexually interested.

As for what to say, I’d probably go with something like, “I think you’re a really great guy, but I just don’t feel that way about you, sorry.” Some people will tell you to say something like “I’m not looking for a relationship right now,” and while that can be effective, I think it’s unfair to you to have to block yourself off from all romantic connections just to spare the ego of this guy. What if the guy of your dreams walks in the next day? Are you going to pretend you’re still not interested in dating?

So yeah, I’d try to tell him as nicely as possible that he’s awesome, but he’s just not for you. Good luck! xx

anonymous said:

i don't know why but... my friends are all super attractive and it's kind of stressing me out because i don't feel good about myself and i don't see something very special about me so most of the time i don't believe people who compliment me because everytime they do, i always like "are you blind don't you see her? *pointing at my attractive friend*". it's weird and i know it's stupid but it's the truth :s i'm sorry

“Butterflies can’t see their wings. They can’t see how truly beautiful they are, but everyone else can. People are like that as well.”

anonymous said:

can you recommend me some good, modern books, preferably ones like Harry Potter that have magic and fantasy with some romance in it?

  • The Hunger Games trilogy, by Suzanne Collins
  • The Inheritance Cycle, by Christopher Paolini (The Eragon series)
  • His Dark Materials, by Philip Pullman (The Golden Compass series)
  • Gone (series), by Michael Grant
  • The Gemma Doyle trilogy, by Libba Bray (A Great and Terrible Beauty is the first book)
  • Song of the Lioness series, by Tamora Pierce
  • A Song of Ice and Fire, by George R.R. Martin (A Game of Thrones series)
  • Divergent (series), by Veronica Roth

Happy reading! :)

anonymous said:

What is a feminist? What does it mean to be one, I mean?

At its core, the belief that women and men are equal, and that women deserve the same rights and control over their bodies & lives that men already enjoy.

anonymous said:

Post the most recent pic you have of yourself. No cheating! (:

Haha! I took this one about twenty minutes ago, and posted it on instagram. It’s legit, I promise! ;)

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Sometimes I have solo pajama parties. Don’t judge me.

anonymous said:

I'm sorry, but I think you might be a bit misinformed. Romney will be great for the economy, as Obama has been horrible with balancing the deficit. As for our rights, Romney does care for the people. He believes that a govt with too much power can limit our rights, and that is why he believes that, for example, Roe v Wade should be overturned. If this happens, abortion will NOT be illegal, but instead, states will decide rather than the govt. I also highly doubt Romney would outlaw gay marriage

You’re entitled to your opinions, but I completely disagree. People expected too much from Obama too fast. He came into office after Bush & Co. left everything in a HUGE mess, and he has done so much to fix things in his short time but people expected him to fix everything overnight, which is both unreasonable and impossible. If the republican party gets back into power they will not only reverse all the improvements Obama has made, they will dig the U.S. into a deeper and deeper debt.

As for “Romney does care for the people” - he sure does, as long as you’re like him: rich, male, straight, and white. Everyone else can get swept under the rug, as far as he’s concerned.

I have so much more to say but I’m going to wrap up here. If anyone wants to chip in and “reply” to this post, you are more than welcome to.

phyllomorphosis said:

I'm also curious. What's your opinion on the Fifty Shades series??

I haven’t read it, and I have no intention of doing so. If I wanted to read poorly written erotic fanfiction, I would find it on the internet for free. (And at least those don’t pretend to be actual literature!)

The fact that this is an actual quote from the book is enough to make me steer clear of the series forever:

"His finger circled my puckered love cave. ‘Are you ready?’ He mewled, smirking at me like a mother hamster about to eat her three legged young."

anonymous said:

What are you doing that is a waste of time?

This may sound odd, but I don’t really believe in the concept of “wasting time”. I think everything we do, we do for a reason. Whether it’s what society deems “productive work” (i.e. doing homework, volunteering, working on your career) that furthers your future, or what society calls “unproductive work/wasted time” (i.e. things like hobbies and interests) which make your present bearable and enjoyable.

We do things because for one reason or another, doing that thing is easier/better/more fun than doing some other thing. And things that make you happy matter too!

So for example, I’m sure a lot of people would consider watching an entire season of a tv show in a week “wasted time”. But I don’t. That stuff brings me joy, inspires me, helps me unwind, and I can even learn from shows sometimes! Doing that helps me wake up and kick ass the next day with my sanity intact. So to me, that’s not a waste. :)

anonymous said:

Name one disney movie that you expected lots from but ending disappointing you (or not being as good as you imagined) Why?

BRAVE. Ugh.

When I saw the trailer I was all “Yeah! Girl power! Scotland! Archery! Yeah!” But in reality it was about a girl whose was so spoiled and obnoxious that it took her the ENTIRE movie just to apologize to her (wonderful!) mother for TURNING HER INTO A BEAR.

Great soundtrack, though.

anonymous said:

hey sara, do you have any advice for someone who's afraid of failure and taking risks? I've been unhappy for a while now and I realized it was because I wasn't living the life that I wanted to. I always just settle for less because i'm scared of change and I don't know what to do about it :(

Welcome to the human race, love!

Everyone’s afraid of taking risks and failing. We’re programmed to avoid risky situations and stay safe - it’s how we survive! The trouble is, our desire for safety and security is often what prevents us from pushing our limits and achieving greatness by pursing our passions. 

So strive to push your own limits and break free from your comfort zone. Comfort is nice, but happiness is better. :)

As the wise poet Drake once said, “You only live once”. x

anonymous said:

Dear Sara, do you have any tips for job hunting and post-graduation planning? Also, I was wondering why you chose not to continue your education past the undergraduate level. Thanks, a nervous college senior

Tips for post-grad:

  1. Start job hunting early - don’t wait until you’ve graduated.
  2. Don’t spiral into self-loathing if you can’t find a job right away. It’s tough out there.
  3. Try to get as many interviews lined up as possible. Don’t put all your eggs in one basket!
  4. Do everything you can do to nail the interview. Dress well, research the company, practice your answers to questions, arrive early, etc.

As far as why I decided to stop after getting my bachelor’s degree, I just felt done. Particularly for the field I’m in, which is a creative one, your employability is largely dependent on your portfolio (your actual work), not how much theoretical knowledge you have on the subject.

I knew I was ready to enter the working world, and I was tired of paying to do work (in a school setting). I was ready to get paid for doing work. Does that make sense? 

Also, some people really love the setting of the formal education system. They love learning in classrooms from professors with other like-minded people. I’m not one of those people. I love learning very much, but I find the formal education system riddled with problems and the quality of learning very diluted. I prefer learning on my own, where I can focus on what I want and move onto the next subject as slowly or as quickly as I want, depending on when I grasp it and how interested I am in it. No all-nighters required.

But that choice is an individual one. A few of my friends are attending grad school, and it’s the right decision for them, in their fields. So do your research and figure out what’s right for you! Hope that helped in some way. x

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