MRAs Are Dangerous. We Can Ignore This Fact No Longer.
This is terrifying, because we’ve all been on the receiving end of male entitlement. We’ve all been criticised for putting a man in ‘the friendzone’ because we dared to not want to sleep with him. As a queer woman, I’ve gotten abuse from more men than I can count as soon as they’ve realised I prefer women. Because suddenly I was no longer available to them. And it made them angry. How dare I damage their egos like that? How dare I not want to sleep with them? How dare I ‘be a waste’ by preferring women? How dare I want to be single?
As an online feminist activist, I’ve been sent abuse, some violent and threatening, by many MRAs. I’ve been sent rape threats. I’ve been told to kill myself. I’ve been told they hope I become seriously injured.
And it’s so easy to tell yourself, in self-preservation, that they’re just a sad little group of men on the internet, that contribute nothing, that are trolling, that want attention.
But that’s not the case, as today’s incident in Santa Barbara displays. They’re serious. We can’t just convince ourselves that this isn’t happening. We can’t kid ourselves they’re a minority.
MRAs, yes. Sure, they’re a minority.
But their vile male entitlement and fear of female power and agency is far more widespread and normalised.
So normalised, that every news channel I’ve seen cover the tragedy, has put the attack down to mental illness, or autism, rather than the true cause: misogyny, and a community that allowed this young man to believe his own wants and desires and wounded ego were worth more than the lives of innocent women.
Not all MRAs were responsible for this attack. That’s obvious. As much as I hate the ideals of the group, and the actions of the majority, I know they aren’t all murderers. I know they aren’t all going to carry out their threats.
But I’ll tell you what they are guilty of.
They’re guilty of never sitting that man down and telling him to grow the fuck up. They’re guilty of creating an environment where such views can be expressed freely, without fear of other MRAs condemning the hatred. They are guilty of hatred, they are guilty of entitlement, they are guilty of frail, frail egos that suddenly turn, when broken, into vicious attacks on the women that dare to exercise their human right to say ‘no.’
This is not an isolated event.
We’ve been seeing it for years, bubbling dangerously in dark corners of the internet.
Only now it’s no longer in the dark. It’s ventured out into the ‘real world’ where real people, real womenare being harmed by these very real, very dangerous men.
We cannot turn a blind eye to it any longer. We cannot try to create some form of truce with this hate group. We cannot pretend these people are misguided. That they’re just joking. That they’re trolls.
From now on we have to assume they are dangerous. For our own safety.
Elliot Rodger is another that joins a long list of men that felt so entitled to women’s bodies that they would rather kill them than allow them to exercise the freedom and right to turn them down.
He’s not the first and he won’t be the last.
Don’t let this stuff slide. We can’t afford to. Report them, report them, report them.
MRAs are a hate group. They’re terrified of female power. It’s why they seek to destroy every bit of it they ever see.
Feminism is necessary. Male entitlement and misogyny still poison this society.
Because I want the next generation of young women to be able to turn down a man they aren’t attracted to, without fearing what he’ll do to them for the crime of body autonomy and saying the word ‘no.’