The initiation [into manhood] process is supposed to be very secret. The women in society aren’t supposed to know what goes on. They’re these huge secrets. Gilbert Herdt… calls them “screaming secrets.” The women actually knows what goes on, but they can’t talk about it. They have to act like they don’t know what’s going on.

Prof. Edward Fischer, Peoples and Cultures of the World
L10: “Rites of Passage”

Reference: Sambia Sexual Culture: Essays from the Field