relationships

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You’d think we’ve evolve past it, but young women are still implicitly taught that the only way to succeed is to find a husband and fulfill our “princess” role. Of course, the assumption is that without that overly expensive wedding, the flashy diamond ring and lifelong legal bond to a man, women are somehow not whole. Of course that’s not true — and neither are these lies about having kids or divorce.

Relationships and the ENFP

LOVE IS: Finding someone with whom they can share a faithful, loyal and affectionate attachment.

FALLS IN LOVE: Imaginatively. ENFPs can feel love and affection that is almost childlike in its purity.

FALLS OUT OF LOVE: Will be slow to leave a relationship into which they have put so much energy. But when they fall out of love, they rebound quickly.

INTIMACY: Creative playful and affectionate lovers who whole-heartedly embrace the opportunity for closeness with their mates.

COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, committed relationship. ENFPs approach their intimate relationships quite seriously.

MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who supports their creativity and caring, and who expresses appreciation for their unique qualities openly and often.

you hated it when i smoked,
even just once in a blue moon.
but now you’re the reason why
i smoke every day. 
how would that make you feel?

you don’t care about me anymore,
you probably hover and worry
over someone else. 
but it still hurts,
how you can just up and leave. 
—  j.e.b. ((about someone you used to love not caring anymore.))
Remembering the sound of your voice still stops my heart in its tracks and I’m afraid I’ll never be able to shake you out of my bones. The way I felt when you entered the room still lingers with me like the smell of your cologne you left with me when you hugged me goodbye for the last time. Smelling like you for the rest of the day was the sweetest torture that haunted me – if only showering could wash away my memories – if only our moments together could swirl down the drain with the soapsuds around my feet. My mind is so cruel in the way that I will forget why I entered the next room, but I can’t get thoughts of your hand in mine, your arm around my waist, or the rise and fall of your chest as I rested against you, out of my mind. Maybe I simply want what I cannot have—or maybe I fell in love. I’m not sure exactly, but I’m just sorry I didn’t know how much I’d miss you, until missing you became the only option I have.
—  I still think of you & it hurts like yesterday
pain

confession: being a black woman with mental illness is probably the hardest thing. i have to work extra hard. i have to do 100x more at the simplest things. my relationships are all messed up based off the fact people dont understand. between past abuse and trauma i feel so helpless sometimes. i try so hard to be good ENOUGH. i’m never going to give up though. i pray for all of us.

Relationships and the ENFJ

LOVE IS: Finding someone with whom they can share a faithful, loyal and affectionate attachment.

FALLS IN LOVE: Quickly and madly. ENTPs are more likely to fall head over heels in love than other personality types.

FALLS OUT OF LOVE: May be slow to leave a bad relationship and may shoulder the blame that the relationship did not work out.

INTIMACY: Sees intimacy as an opportunity to express love and caring. ENFJs are likely to be considerate and skilled lovers.

COMMITMENT: Seeks a lifelong, committed relationship. ENFJs approach their intimate relationships quite seriously.

MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who appreciates their compassion and support, and who makes an effort to understand their deep feelings and values.

I’m sorry if I didn’t feel the same way, and I’m sorry if I broke your heart; but please do understand that I would rather live with the fact that I broke it with honesty, rather than having to string you along and have you hoping for something that might not even come.
—  everythingvoid / to break one’s heart
Relationships and the ENTP

LOVE IS: The quest for someone on their wavelength who shares their vision of personal fulfilment and growth.

FALLS IN LOVE: Enjoyably. Typically ENTPs are up-beat, optimistic people who are fun to be around.

FALLS OUT OF LOVE: ENTPs are generally able to move on with their lives after leaving a stagnant, stifling or unhealthy relationship.

INTIMACY: A physical act that conveys affection. By nature ENTPs enjoy spontaneity and free expression, and fully embrace new ideas and experiences.

COMMITMENT: Capable of taking their commitments seriously. But an ENTP may walk away when a relationship no longer offers the opportunity for growth.

MOST SATISFIED WITH: A partner who appreciates their ingenuity and competence, and who supports them in their life journey of continuous discovery, growth and fulfillment.