It’s not a big deal that you gained weight. Honestly, in the big picture, who cares? Did you live life the way you wanted to? Did you have fun? Did you find people you love? Did you learn lots of interesting things? That’s probably what you’re gonna care about when you’re at your death bed, not about the fact that you “gained weight” when you were 21.
—  My 18 year old brother, when i was freaking out about my recovery weight gain. 
Just a thought

Instead of showing weight loss commercials where people say “I lost 30 pounds and never felt happier”

They should make a commercial with people who recovered from an Eating Disorder and they should say “I gained 40 pounds and learned to love myself for who I am and accept my body for what it is and i’ve never been happier.”

Reality Check

You can not concentrate whilst your brain is starving.

You can not do your best in school whilst your brain is starving.

You can not play/perform your best in sports or artistic/musical activities whilst your brain is starving.

You can not participate actively in relationships if your brain is starving.

You can not live life to the fullest if your brain is starving.

The brain does weird things when you deprive it of food.

And I don’t mean just calorically. Even if you’re eating 2000, 3000 calories a day in recovery, if they’re all safe, you’re still going to be obsessed with food and what you “can’t” have.

(AKA a friendly reminder to challenge yourself today.)

One thing that’s really difficult to hear when you are recovering from an eating disorder (especially one in which gaining weight is necessary) is “you look healthy”… and let’s face it- you are going to hear it.

It’s difficult not to be triggered by this type of comment, but what you have to remember is that "healthy" is a good thing. Your eating disorder is going to distort what the person said into “you’re fat”. You’re not. And that’s not what they are saying. They really do mean well by saying you look healthy. They don’t realize that your mind is going to take such a positive comment in such a negative way. 

Healthy simply means you look good. It means you no longer look “sick”. And this includes so much more than just your weight. Your skin, your hair, your nails… they were all affected by being underweight and now they are all coming back to a healthy state. To be honest, when people say “you look healthy”, I think the last thing on their mind is your weight. They are focusing on your overall being. Healthy is strong. 

Be proud of yourself for being strong enough to get back to healthy.


I see so many people who are scared of or resistant to recovery because they don’t want all the work they put into their weight loss to go to waste. They spent years on this and they don’t want to throw it away. 

You have to throw it away

You built a house. You spent years building a house where you hid all your feelings and dark and painful thoughts. You know every hall and staircase and window frame. The floor boards practically have grooves from where you’ve walked over them thousands of times. But the house is rotting. There are holes in the floor you could fall through and there’s mold giving you allergies and mildew all over the walls. The roof leaks and the house is freezing. You spent so much time building this house and living in it so saying goodbye is so hard. You know it’s the healthy decision, but you don’t feel entirely ready to let go. 

You might never feel 100% ready to say goodbye. Sometimes you have to do things anyway because they are the best choices available. There isn’t a painless choice here. But there is a choice that will potentially make you happy and healthy, and one that will drag you further down.

You could be crushed in that rotting house you’re so attached to. Or you could tear it down, pick up the pieces, and start over building a home that will actually last. Build yourself a house that’s beautiful and welcoming and warm instead of dark and lonely.