i’m sorry but i don’t know what the question is here? like i don’t know what you’re asking me. i’m sorry you feel this way, the only advice i have is to love and accept yourself for who you are instead of hating the infinite possibilities of who you are not. guys don’t care about “hotness” (the ones who do aren’t worth your time). good people are attracted to good people. mentally, physically, universally. put out into the universe the energy you want to get back and you’ll find people to connect with. just do your own thing - insecurity and worrying about how “hot” you’re coming across in social situations aren’t very welcoming energies to be putting out there if you’re hoping to meet anyone, male or female. someone worrying about whether they’re getting checked out or whether they look perfect isn’t appealing on a human level - people want to connect with people who are passionate and comfortable with themselves. are you only interested in people for their outward appearance? if not, why do you think anyone else is either?