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Kait Rokowski - “For Christina Turner” (Poetry Observed)

"There is a difference between open-door policy and trespassing. I should not be liable for what someone else takes from me."

Performing as part of our original series with Poetry Observed.

Society Is Wrong

I was eight years old when I learnt that being ‘gay’ was an insult.
I was nine when I began using it,
ten when I realised that it was wrong.
I was seven when I was told that ‘same sex couples’ didn’t exist.
Eight when I was told that it was attention seeking.
Eight when the word ‘gay’ was something said with malice.
Nine when nobody told me that it was wrong to use it.
Nine when the word ‘faggot’ wasn’t just a pile of goddamn sticks, but a fucking insult, too.
Nine when I realised that it was socially acceptable to insult someone with a legitimate sexuality.
Ten when I said ‘no’.
Ten when I silently, silently took a stand.
Eleven when I stopped being insulted by a word talking about someone’s preference.
Twelve when I was first ‘charged with being a lesbian’ because of my beliefs.
Because I thought that women needed to be empowered.
Twelve when I was called a feminist like it was an insult.
Thirteen when I became depressed.
Thirteen when Lesbian became my name, not Esther.
Thirteen when I dropped out of school.
Fourteen when I was brave enough to go back.
Fourteen when I bombarded someone about using gay as an insult.
When I took a stand with my beliefs.
Fourteen when I was taught that women should be seen, and not heard.
Fourteen when I was insulted with being a feminist again.
Fourteen when I hid my beliefs.
Fourteen when I didn’t speak out.
Fourteen when I believed what my tormentors said.
Fourteen when I watched someone being bullied and did nothing.
Fifteen when I tried to get people to take me seriously by cutting myself.
Fifteen when if I cut I was attention seeking but if I spoke out and asked for help I was also attention seeking.
Fifteen when a vertical slit was taken more seriously than a horizontal one.
Fifteen when I realised that I was a human.
Fifteen when I came out.
Fifteen when I realised that being a feminist wasn’t an insult, some something to be ashamed about.
Fifteen when I knew enough about sexism, racism, feminism, sexualities, rape culture - fucking human rights - that I could speak publicly about them and persuade people.
Fifteen when I knew where I stood.
Fifteen when I found my footing.
Fifteen when I grew up. Became an adult.
Fifteen when I stopped one of my closest friends from committing suicide.
Fifteen when the insults meant nothing.
That being lesbian wasn’t wrong.
That being gay was just a preference.
That being bisexual was a sexuality.
That being pansexual wasn’t a myth.
That being asexual didn’t mean that you were broken.
I was fifteen years old when I learned that the difference between right and wrong wasn’t something decided by the people in the street.
That rape culture was real.
That racism hurt.
That we cut the majority out of our arguments.
That we excuse the offender.
That less that 3% of rapists ever see the inside of a jail cell.
When I realised that when we say ‘sexuality’ we think ‘gay’.
When ‘gender’ meant ‘female’.
When ‘race’ meant ‘African’, ‘Latino’, ‘Chinese’.
When the victim became blamed.
I was fifteen when I realised that we asked the wrong questions.
That we ask ‘what was she wearing?’ rather than ‘why did he rape her?’
That we teach girls to cover up rather than boys not to rape.
I was fifteen when I realised that we were all victims to a society that was wrong.

  • Men:Rape culture isn't real and rape isn't even that common. You're just paranoid and probably flattering yourself. Not all men are rapists, okay?
  • Men:*capitalize on women's (justified) fear of sexual violence and profit from selling pink pepper spray and other pink self defense weapons specifically to women*
If my old lady was raped I would consider it cheating because another dick had been inside her. Women aren’t even raped as much as you claim though. In America we have freedom, and these woman have the freedom to walk away anytime they want.
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Unknown year, unknown major submitted by the6thsiren

[S/N: Yes, this is the same guy who said this comment.]

there are ways to talk about how its more likely for someone to be assaulted by someone they know without referring to sexual violence by strangers as a “myth”, by the way.

if even one person in the history of humanity has been assaulted by a stranger then referring to their assault as a myth is incredibly callous. one third of the survivors of sexual assault are not a myth! their narrative is not privileged or inherently believed or seen as being a “better” type of victim, 

hey so you guys know that whole zoe quinn thing and how people are making it all about misogyny?

Zoe Quinn defined having sex with your partner after cheating on them as rape.

Zoe Quinn admited to having sex with her partner after cheating on him.

She quite literally admitting to being, by her own personal definition, a rapist, and someone tumblr still isn’t tearing her the fuck apart. (x)

Zoe Quinn is the epitome of what a relationship with a feminist is like.

And if you didn’t know to reject a feminist girl flat out before you know now. There is precisely zero reason to involve yourself with a female feminist.

None.

She doesn’t want you to have reproductive rights.
She’ll change the definition of rape to whatever her gets her the most sympathy.
She’ll endlessly fucking lie and feel justified in doing so.

And you’ll think “it can’t be THAT bad, not all Feminists are like that.

And I’ll ask you to imagine a bowl of m&ms… and the person that set them out financially benefits from your death. :)

Fucking do NOT DATE FEMINISTS.

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Transparent nail polish called Undercover Colors that changes color when exposed to date rape drugs such as rohypnol and ghb

http://www.undercovercolors.com/

FUCK!

IT HAS BEGUN! THE BACKLASH AGAINST THE NAIL POLISH THAT COULD BE SAVING WOMEN’S LIVES!

Feminists like Laci Green don’t want women to be able to protect themselves from rapists. They don’t care that this could save people’s lives. They don’t care that could prevent women from being raped.

No. They are worried we might be ‘victim blaming’. :(

This is why women don’t need feminism.

'yeah, my mama she told me “don't worry about your size” '

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'she says, “boys like a little more booty to hold at night”'

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People are seriously getting angry about the anti-date rape drug nail polish.

Oh my god.

"It’s perpetuating rape culture!"

"Why are we placing the responsibility for preventing sexual assault on young women?"

"Why aren’t they using these resources to get to the root of the problem?? Just taking preventative measures isn’t going to solve the problem!!!!"

"We should just teach men not to rape!"

I’m sorry, rape is rarely committed by people who just “don’t know any better”.

It’s committed by horrible evil people.

Telling a predator “rapist no raping” like this is Dora the Explorer isn’t going to protect  you.

You know what will?

MAGIC NAIL POLISH THAT DETECTS DATE RAPE DRUGS.

Who else is going to take responsibility for my safety if not me?

Someone please tell me how we’re going to eliminate rape from our society. Please do.

Yes, it sucks that we live in a world where we need anti-date rape nail polish. But this is reality, and reality sucks.

If there are people who want to live in a delusion and not protect themselves, fine.

But don’t ruin it for those of us who want to be armed against the evils in the world.

~Venus

Some things to remember

1. You don’t have to be “large” to have an eating disorder

2. You don’t have to be a male to be an abuser

3. You don’t have to be female to be a rape victim

4. You don’t have to be female to be harassed

5. You don’t have to seem sad to be depressed

6. You don’t have to be a loner to have social anxiety

7. You don’t have to be a girl to have self esteem problems

Feminist: OMG I CAN’T BELIEVE THAT (instert tv show/movie/video game) HAD A RAPE SCENE/MENTIONED RAPE! DON’T THEY REALISE THAT THEY’RE TRIVIALISING RAPE AND CONDONING IT OMG I CAN’T BELIEVE WHAT A RAPE CULTURE WE LIVE IN!!!!!!1!11111!!1!”

*proceeds to write text post about “eye rape” which gets 10 000 notes*

*compares cat calling to rape and gets 10 000 notes*

*denies that men can be raped and gets 10 000 notes*

*claims that regretting sex is rape (but only if you’re a female) and gets 10 000 notes*

what was that about trivialising rape again? 

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