One woman dies at the hands of her male partner every week (Australia) and I’m still seeing little shits on this website denouncing feminism as selfish, folly, and childish… Like
I don’t understand what it is about the majority of the movement that grinds your gears so god damned much that I am witnessing multi-paragraph rants about the stupidity of it.
"There are real issues in the world right now"
I’m sorry????????? I’m sorry wait sorry you’ll have to
…fucking forgive me because I didn’t realise
I didn’t realise the fact that you as a woman are a statistic is not a big issue? You are at high risk of domestic abuse and sexual assault / rape just for being a woman and you… Don’t care? Or you don’t think it’s that big of a deal?
Workplace harassment? Cat calling? Unwanted touching? Victim blaming? Sex shaming? Sexual objectification? Get over it am I right? Such first world problems, girls, suck it up you princesses~! (Princess or feminine nouns should not be insults, but that’s another first world problem, I bet).
That’s okay let’s say you’re pretty happy and content with your life and situation; you’re feelin’ pretty safe you don’t mind the way you’re being treated everything’s coming up Millhouse. (And you never really wanted the right to vote, be educated, leave the house without the company of a male, be allowed to read, be able to financially support yourself, not live life in eternal servitude to a husband and babies anyway, pssh) … So then
What about the one woman a week that dies at the hands of her partner? Not a big issue?
What about the children who are subsequently killed or abused in domestic violence cases as revenge? Not a big issue.
What about the hundreds of thousands of women trapped in sex trafficking situations and trapped in the porn industry, who are beaten, raped, abused on a daily basis? Probably not a big issue.
Female genital mutilation; rape as a weapon of war; girls being kidnapped because they are trying to go to school and people think they are not entitled to an education; little girls being sexualised in pornography and in the subconscious of mainstream culture; honour killings; girls being murdered because they were born girls and are therefore useless; arranged under-aged marriages to abusive husbands; girls being murdered for not giving away sex or responding positively to catcalls; girls not having access to birth control, menstrual products and general women’s healthcare; the fact that we need to build literal shelters to hide women from men who have been brought up in a society to feel not only anger hatred towards, but ownership of, women.
I could go on.
And if all of this means absolutely nothing to you then there is no fucking hope. If you can look at all of this global gendered violence and pure hatred and subordination and think that the majority of feminists are man hating princesses simply because they feel like hating men then I can’t help you.
Feminists believe in men. We believe in their capacity to think critically and to feel love and warmth and empathy so much so that we are determined to change the behaviour of a large number of men (not all men, yes WE KNOW) built up over a huge amount of time. We believe that men DO have control over their actions, that’s why we demand that they show it. They ARE capable of not beating, raping, killing and objectifying women.
And anyone who says that men have no control over their sex drives, their anger or their impulses is directly insulting them and holding them to such low standards that they do not believe they have the capacity to think for themselves and be decent human beings.
So if holding men to a higher standard than mindlessly having sex with everything, jacking off to women being beaten and raped on video, losing their temper and killing people because someone doesn’t want to let them put their weenie in them or because they don’t have total physical and mental control over their partner means hating men I’m going to have to contest you on that.
Most feminists don’t hate men, we just want a lot of them to stop fucking raping us, beating us, killing us, & controlling our bodies. We just want to be safe and we want other girls to be safe too.
I really don’t understand what it is about that that upsets you so deeply???????