Okay first of all, censor a slur if you’re not allowed to reclaim. Secondly, a lot of people get beat up while being called st*pid/d*mb/r*tarded while not being developmentally disabled. That doesn’t mean they can reclaim it. The t slur is a transmisogynistic slur specifically. Just because it’s misused and pointed toward your friend doesn’t mean he can reclaim it. Because in the end the t slur is not directed toward dfab people.